What is your response to stupid comments about twins?

Deborah (Deb) - posted on 03/05/2010

I have boy/girl twins also and like most others that have replied I always dressed them in Gender appropriate clothing. I was frequently asked were they identical and after a few months of this I got fed up and used to answer "no, one has a penis". That used to shut people up. What used to really annoy me was that people used to absolutely gush over the twins but ignore their gorgeous 17-months older brother.

Breeyan - posted on 03/01/2010

Its just stupidity, and somtimes, you need to factor in, with having more than one the same age, it boggles people, its like there brain just stops, and theyre so amazed, that they just can't help it. It'll get better. I took my little boy out the other day in a BLUE sleeper, with FOOTBALLS on it, and someone was like "oh so cute, how old is she!" ...yea. Its just the nature of the beast. You sort of just have to say, yes, they're both female, and theyre very fond of pink! lol.

Laura - posted on 02/24/2010

"I am soo glad you don't think they look alike because I was really getting worried that pretty soon I was not going to be able to tell them apart. Now I am not worried. Thanks. lol

Liz - posted on 02/15/2010

lol I love all the responses on here. My girls are 13 months old - and they are identical.

I had a really bad day a while back and someone asked me if they were twins, and i anwsered in a hurray "yes", and then she asked if they were born at the same time, and I just gave her this look, and then I said "seriously, are you honestly asking that?".

My favorite though, is when people ask if I used fertility treatments, I'm 22 and look it, so I usually tell them they are being extremely rude, and that isnt an appropriate question. Just be honest... I had have alot of people tell me that my girls DONT look alike, which 99% of the people that know would disagree with that statement. Thats the only one that ticks me off.... havent figured out what to say to that yet.

Shalu - posted on 02/15/2010

Tell me about it, the are they natural question bugs. Like it is any of their business. Either way we are blessed, I still do not get why they want to know. Even before I had twins and I saw another with them it would never cross my mind to ask that.

Jennifer - posted on 02/15/2010

I was at Bath & Body Works one day with my identical twin boys (dressed alike and in a double stroller) and my 12yr. old DD, when a lady looked at them and said "Awww, are they twins?" Without even thinking, I answered "Nope. This one is 2 yrs. old and a midget, and this one is 10 months old. I just dress them exactly alike for fun." She looked completely horrified....and then I noticed that she was pregnant. I felt horrible for being such a snot, and apologized. lol
Last week, my DD and I were at Wal-Mart and we were stopped again by someone asking us if they boys were twins....again they were dressed exactly alike and in the double stroller. I just looked at her and said, "Nope. This one is mine, and this one is hers." My daughter is 12! The look on her face was priceless, and I laughed so hard as we were walking away that I almost wet my pants. My husband applauded me and suggested that I should have told her that the baby that I'm carrying is someone else's too! he he he

Dawn - posted on 02/15/2010

I used to get those comments ALL the time, I have fraternal twin girls and would dress them in pink when we went out and finally my husband said, "NO, I just dress my boy in pink." I don't mind the "Are they twins?" question now that they are older and look like siblings rather than twins, but the one question that STILL aggravates the daylights out of me is "Are they natural?"

Leah - posted on 02/14/2010

I also get tired of the "are they twins" questions... my husband's favorite response is "no, we just decided that we wanted another so we photo copied him" - he can never be serious! That's why I love him!!!

Chelle - posted on 02/13/2010

Yes this really pissed me off!!!!! I had boy/girl twins 9 yrs ago, she had a mop of black curls and he had the blondest hair ever, i always dressed them in pink and blue whenever i went out and people still asked me if they were both girls and were they identical, For CHRIST SAKE she is in PINK and has BLACK curls and obviously has a VAGINA!! and he is in BLUE and has BLONDE hair and odviously has a PENIS!!... I mean really, are people really that STUPID??? God help the world if they are :)

C - posted on 02/12/2010

I appreciate the people who are friendly enough to start a conversation. We've gotten used to the attention. I don't think people's intentions are to irritate me. In a society were rudeness is most common, an off the wall comment with the intentions of kindness is far more welcome than the alternative.

Michelle - posted on 02/12/2010

I HATE the stupid questions! I get "Are they twins" ALLLLLLLLL the time and it drives me crazy! Especially when they have outfits on that say "if you think I am cute, you should see my twin; My twin did it; etc" My answer depends on my mood... good mood=yes they are; sarcastic mood=no they are 6 months apart; bad mood=no they are triplets, but if you cant see the 3rd you might want to get your eyes checked. I cant even tell you all of the stupid questions I have gotten! I have fraternal twin girls are 2 now. I ALWAYS have them in pick/purple and I get the comment "OMG how lucky that you had a boy and a girl" what?? Oh thats right... I am trying to make my little boy gay, so starting him REALLY early. LoL I have people that argue with me about if they are identical or not... one has brown hair, blue eyes, chubby face and the other has red hair, green eyes, and a thinner face. They do not look identical at all, but people with argue with me about it! I actually had one lady tell me that I needed to find a new doctor because he/she didnt know what they were talking about when they told me that they were fraternal. I was in a really pissy mood and told her that she needed a new eye doctor because she was blind if she couldnt see the difference! Then I walked away. DRIVES ME CRAZY! Do I have my hands full? Yep, but I wouldnt trade it! I get the "are they natural question alot and of course the personal questions that I dont want to tell some stranger the answer... I want to make a shirt that says

Yes they are twins

Yes they are girls

No they are not Identical

Any other questions??? $20 a question!

(Hey! twins aren't cheap!)

Karen - posted on 02/12/2010

This was my most awful response. But when in Walmart, holding 5 month-old screaming twins I said, at the end of my rope I was asked, "Awww, are they twins???" I felt like screaming ... so I calmly looked at the person and said "Well, they were actually triplets, but I couldn't afford to keep one, so I gave her away." Needless-to-say I wasn't proud of my response, but they left me alone.

I recall a situation where I had my twin girls dressed in blue-lacy dresses, and a woman telling me how cute my boys were. Who is gonna dress their boys in blue lacy dresses? Silly ... silly people.

And I absolutely hate it when I'm told, "Oh, you've got double trouble" ... I always correct them and say, "I've got a double blessing and thank God everyday for them."

My girls are identical red-heads, and are now 16. And I still thank God for my double blessing.

Melanie - posted on 02/12/2010

I got very tired of the comments about my twins. I never dressed mine alike. They are boy/girl twins. Yes, my hands are full. I like it that way. No, they are not identical, the boy has something the girl doesn't have. Yes, I am glad they are mine and not yours. I got so tired of the same comments all the time. One of the silliest ones was when people would ask me if they are twins. DUH!! Two babies with one mother that look a lot alike. How crazy can some people be??!!!!

Sammi - posted on 02/09/2010

i always get are they boys or girls n they obviously girls as they are always in pink and dressed girly!
i also get the ohh are they twins??? obviously they are their only 9 months old n the certainly dont look like they are 9 months apart!!!
then the next one is are they natural???? my reply is "no their made out of plastic!"
n the are they identical question everyone seems to think they look the same how ever 1 is quite bigger then the other they have different shaped faces and one has a slightly darker skin tone so to me they look completely different!!!

JENNIE - posted on 02/09/2010

My boys are fraternal & look different. People ask us How do you tell them apart. It's easy. Or they will ask, are they twins. NO they are just dressed alike for fun. When they were really little, people always asked if one was a girl. NO I always dress my girl like a boy. HELLOOO!!!

Jamie - posted on 02/09/2010

My favorite thing to say when Im asked if my girls are twins is "nope, I had em 3 mths apart"...that usually shuts em up...lol

Sandra - posted on 02/09/2010

a boy and a girl can somebody please explain how would they be identical?

Kim - posted on 02/09/2010

I think that the next time someone asks me if they are twins, I'm going to act panicked. "Twins!? And start looking around like I've lost something. "OMG! OMG!" Count the girls. Then suddenly calm down and say,"Oh, yeah. Just twins."

Laree - posted on 02/05/2010

dressed alike when young,people said are they twins? Even my twins got sick of it ine day one of my 2 1/2 year olds said"yes,we twins",they had on he's my twin shirts???

Laree - posted on 02/05/2010

the stupid,comments...Who do you like best? do you color ones hair different so you can tell them apart...I hate thinking people are really that stupid

Cherie - posted on 02/05/2010

When my girls were 12, they were still identical, we were in a mall and a sales woman asked them if they were twins. My oldest (by 10 minutes that is) looked at her and with a very straight face said: " We both have separate parents.". The shock on the womans face was priceless. We laughed all the way home!

Stupid questions won't stop but people don't realize they are stupid. They are just commenting on our beautiful and wondrous twins and don't know what else to say. Just smile and walk away.

Rachel - posted on 02/05/2010

Hahaha thats so funny i actually made a note up and sent it to all my face book twin mums ill post it lets see if anyone can add more 2 the list


Sorry this may be a bit long

Yes they are twins !
No they are not identical !
Yes i have my hands full !
No i dont care !
Yes im also glad its me and not you !
Double trouble !

Plan on adding more,No doubt i will hear a lot more !

I do get a lot of positive remarks to :)

Another one i remembered today are you sure they are not identical they look the same i cant tell them apart hahahaha brings a smile to my face ;)


It was funny yesterday in the doctors i was out the back getting my flu shot and i went out 2 grab john and there was a lady with boy/girl twins around 18months and john goes 2 the lady aww so they are twins and b4 he could finish she said well i dont think i could have 2 babies the same age other wise ! lol she was really smart about it ,Then he said oh i was just asking cause we have twins as well she was like oh thats okay i just get over ppl asking me that hahahahaha sooo funny ! We were like we are 2 !

Michelle - posted on 02/04/2010

I HATE when people ask "are they twins" and then say dumb things! If I am in a pissy mood I will say "No, they are 6 months apart" and walk away. My moms favorite response when she has the twins is "No, they are triplets, we left the other one at home"

Cindy - posted on 02/01/2010

A question I used to get a lot was are they natural? Like it is anyone's business, some would even come right out and say did you use fertility drugs?
I have boy/girl twins and used to get are they 2 boys/2 girls all the time when they were obviously dressed in blue or pink!
I know people mean well but it is frusterating sometimes.
When I see someone with twins I often ask "are they twins?" I don't want to assume and I don't know what else to say!

Sheila - posted on 02/01/2010

Ladies, I so appreciate the comments and great stories. Sometimes conversations such as this brings out the best laughs. To those of you who are at the beginning of this journey, I must say that you truly are blessed, no matter how hectic and hairy things will get for you. To those who have gone through this journey before us, I say thank you for your support and encouragement. To all who are going through this journey along with me, I say thanks for being there to share in the trials and the joys of motherhood of multiples. Nobody really knows what we are going through unless they have been there themselves. God has truly blessed us!!!

Patti - posted on 02/01/2010

we went to the mall one day and a lady was saying how cute them both were, she looked up and asked us if they where ours.. my husband said "no, one is hers and one is mine" the lady looked at us with a dazed look and end the conversation and left.
our girls are nine and to this day, I laugh everytime I think about that...

Jessica - posted on 02/01/2010

You just have to smile. They mean well. You get a lot of attention when you have twins, which is cool sometimes but most the time you just want to get your grocery shopping done and don't want to talk to someone on every isle. I have learned to politely say " wow it was nice talking but I have a lot of shopping"

Sarah - posted on 02/01/2010

ok ladies I have said it twice research before you laugh at people who ask if B?G twins are identical it is rare but possible and as for breastfeeding I not only made enough I could have fed four more. I nursed my twins till they were 16 months old it can be done they are three now and I would still be doing it if not for incorrect advice from a pediactric dentist.(Nursing twins was the best diet I have ever been on)

Kersti - posted on 02/01/2010

I love the comments you get when you're out with twins. Everyone always asks "are they twins" I always want to reply with a smart remark but I hold it in. And just say yes.

I too get the your hands are full when they see me out with my twins along with my daughter. I just let it go..I just think people aren't sure what to say

Cherryl - posted on 01/31/2010

Love the topic - I get the same all the time! Both girls (17 months today) are usually dressed the same but people still ask if one is a boy! Comments about hands been full etc. - some people are just been courteous and try to make conversation - I let it pass sometimes other times I tell them they can have them lol!!! I have a "larny" pram with a steering wheel - now that really attracts attention (woman and men) - I tell them if they want the pram they must take the kids too!!!

Brandichadae - posted on 01/31/2010

i hear ya i hate when ppl come up to me and say ahhhhh are they TWINS!!!!! not i just had them at the same time

Shawna - posted on 01/31/2010

i hate when people say i have my hands full...when i was pregnant and i told someone i was having twins they would say "oh no what are you going to do, thats going to be crazy!" i would say "idk! should i give one back?" lol you almost have to let them know ur offended & im glad i dont have boy girl twins im sure i would get asked are they fraternal or identical lol the fact is people are fascinated by twins and i think its just something we are going to deal with.

Ashley - posted on 01/31/2010

I agree completley I hate when people say thank god i dont have twins...ugh its like well i feel blessed..they also say the usual do u have 2 boys a boy and a girl?? while they have pink blankets around them and are dressed in usually pink or something girly..and then the famous question if i have twins period...its so stupid...lol i swear we can't go to the store w/o getting stopped by every single person getting asked these questions!! id like to go shoppping for once and just get through the store like a normal person

Rachel - posted on 01/31/2010

my girls are 5 months old.. and lol yeah you get some stupid questions! when i was shopping for strollers all i could find were blue and brown and black, i liked the blue one best... but put pink blankets on the top my girls even can have dresses or pink on and people will say "awww 2 boys!!" lol yeah i put my boys in dresses and pink! how stupid can people really be??? the only thing i think that has really pissed me off is when people are like, " oh twins!! better you than me!" yeah they are right better me than them! i love my girls and would never have it any other way. i couldnt imagine only having one now that i do have 2!!! people should really think before they open their mouths!

Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2010

Oh, my favorite from so many people, including medical staff at the hospital where I delivered, "you'll never produce enough milk to breastfeed twins!" hahahaha! One resident even told me they were jaundice because I was trying to breastfeed twins!! Stupid stupid stupid. I did breastfeed successfully and exclusively for 6 months, and still feeding now! Also get all the other questions like are they identical? (they are boy/girl) How do you manage? Do you have hired help? Are they good? (No, they're amazingly great!!!!)

Ruby - posted on 01/31/2010

Oh boy, I'm having B/G twins in two weeks, and I was hoping some of the comments would stop after they're born! I guess not! :) I get soooo sick of the comments about how huge and miserable I look! If someone says that, I reply, "at least I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?!" That shuts em up. The other day I was grocery shopping and the butcher, from way behind his counter, yells acros the aisle, "Wow!! Any minute now?" I just retorted, "Oh, I'm not pregnant!" Lol, the look on his face was priceless! :)

Danielle - posted on 01/31/2010

Destiny i have the same problem with my boy/girl twins....the one that gets to me is: Are they identical? seriously! Then I have 2 older boys that r 15mths apart so they say:oh u have to sets of twins lol they dnt really look alike

Cherie - posted on 01/30/2010

I have identical nearly 3 year old twin girls and had those comments myself but also the classic one nof "Are they twins"!!!!!! A friend of mine replied with "no they were born a fortnight apart..." To the hands full I agree but add in "Yip got my hands full but I also get twice the hugs and kisses"..... My girls are either playing dressup and babies, or with trucks and diggers in the sandpit.... but they look like girls anytime so I have been mystified as to why I get asked if they are boys



The other question I HATED was when they were born "How do you know who is who" and now we get the classic "how can you be sure you haven't got them mixed when they were younger and are now calling them by their wrong names"..... Jorja has always been 600 - 700kgs heavier than Kassie and Kassie has s slightly narrower face... we know the difference!!!



According to Discovery channel and medical websites, most identical twins are slightly different, DNA is the same but it is the mitochondrial DNA that creats the differences. They have exactly the same chromosomes, they have a perfect resemblance and are always of the same gender, except in extremely rare cases of chromosomal defect.



We are all just very blessed to have these special kids, and multiples are very special

Kristy - posted on 01/30/2010

I just respnd nicely and then have a good laugh about it later. It's amazing the stupid questions and comments you get, and mine are only 2 months. I have g/b twins as well and they look nothing alike and get asked all the time if they are identical. I have to try not to laugh some people just don't think.

Lori - posted on 01/30/2010

I am laughing and reminising while reading all of the above comments...I think I got 90% of those comments too! I remember one comment that I absolutely hated while I was pregnant with the twins. People would say "Gawd - You're Huge" as if I didn't already know that fact. My response was usually - "Yes I do have a mirror but thanks for pointing that out to me in front of everyone" Most times those people would just turn pink in the face and walk away... I guess towards the end of my pregancy I had lost all patience with people stating the obvious - LOL!

Christiana - posted on 01/30/2010

I agree about people saying that you have your hands full. Expecially when it is obvious when I am out alone with them and one is going one way and the other another. But I think the one that bothered me the most was when they were newborns people would ask if they are twins and they both looked like newborns. Granted one was 2 pounds bigger but it was obvious that they both were newborns. Then no matter what I had them dressed in they would ask if they were boys. Even if they had on shirts that said "Thank Heaven for Little Boys". Then there is the question as they are looking at them if they are identical (one is blond and one is brunette).



A couple of times I wanted to say no they aren't twins and point to the littlest one and say that he is a year older.



They are 5 years old now and granted they are such a size difference people automatically think they are a year apart. Okay I'll give to them now because there is about 3 inches and 5 lbs difference, but not when they were babies.



But if I say they are both 5 years old. They ask "Really?"

Sheila - posted on 01/30/2010

Thanks for all the comments. Gave me some great ideas for my next shopping trip. Sorry I don't plan to use the lesbian or lover comments, but They were great.

Anita - posted on 01/30/2010

I just remembered another frustrating thing people have the stupidity to ask - I have 3 boys - twins 5 and the next 3. (Am I not busy enough????) Clearly Not when every second person asks - are you going to go back and try for a girl!!!!! You have got to be kidding right? What person in their right mind after 3 same sex children would even be game to go back and expect a different outcome. Even worse now that I have had to have a hysterectomy due to medical reasons. Kinda annoy me that people have to ask silly questions.

Alexis - posted on 01/30/2010

Are they both twins... NO! They are 3 months apart. They don't get it until they (or you) walk away!

Allison - posted on 01/30/2010

I had t-shirts made for my boys that say
YES we are twins
NO we aren't identical
and YES we are cute..

Sonya - posted on 01/30/2010

my twin daughters are complete opposites and i get sick of people saying they cant be twins i turn round and say i think i would know i gave birth to them and have the dtretch marks to proove it. i remember when my twins were born mia was 2lb15oz and isla was 4lb 9oz mia came home at 3lb i took them shopping for the first time and it took me 3 and half hours to get round morrisons and i just actually thought to myself can people just let me get on with my shopping without stopping me for 2 mins. my twins are 7 next month and girls it doesnt get any easier as they get older

Sandy - posted on 01/29/2010

I also have b/g twins very clearly blue/pink dressed who are nearly four years old and aside from the constant question "are they twins" sillyness I am shocked at how many people ask if they are identical. The kicker was when a nurse recently asked me that. I coulldnt control my "what the what?!" facial expressions.

Sophie - posted on 01/29/2010

Oh gosh this thread is so funny.I am having twins but its interesting that even now I get "boy/girl question when she has pink on and I just think what's it going to be like when my twins are born... and yes people just automatically think its going to be hard...how about some encouragement.

Trish - posted on 01/29/2010

I identical twin boys that are almost 3, and I always get the question, "are they twins"? I reply, "no, this one is 10, he just has a growing condition". Shuts them up fast.

Debbie - posted on 01/29/2010

I totally agree. what drives me mental is people saying 'ooh buy one get one free' I feel like saying exactly now BOGOF!!!