What should I expect when expecting twins?

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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I am 13 weeks pregnant and I am having twins. I have no idea what to expect. Twins do not run in my family so I have no one to compare this pregnancy to. I also have a 2 year old daughter. What extra precautions should I take. What can I expect during and after delivery? HEEELP! lol Im so clueless to all this.

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Cristina - posted on 03/14/2012

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I have identical boy twins that are almost 11 months old. I didn't know anyone with twins either and they didn't run in my family so I felt the same way. It was not as scary as I thought it would be. I had a great pregnancy, used midwives and delivered naturally at 38 weeks. I didnt' have to do anything but get a few NST's and extra ultrasounds and I even worked out (for myself and I'm a personal trainer) util I was 7 months.

Don't let people scare you or think you need all this intervention or a c-section. You can have any a totally normal pregnancy and a wonderful experience. Most people were unsupported of me having the boys naturally and breastfeeding but it all went great. Stay positive and have only supportive people around you because it really makes a difference.

Chrissy - posted on 07/29/2011

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I have identical twin girls, 16 months old. Bottles, bottles, bottles.....I had 16 bottles and went through every single one every day. I had breast augmentation and had a very hard time breast feeding and "dried up" after 5 weeks and they were on Neosure for the remainder of their bottle drinking days. The absolute best thing was a coffee carafe to keep warm purified water in to mix the formula throughout the day and night. We didn't use a microwave for warming the water with any plastic or for warming their food now (too many toxins leak out from the plastic into the food). Also, have diaper changing stations all over the house especially when they start rolling around. You don't want to leave one when one is playing on the floor. I rarely used the changing table. To this day I have little "changing stations" of wipes and diapers in the living room, bathroom, and their bedroom. Go to Amazon.com and get a subscription for diapers. You'll save up to 40%. Right now I'm paying $60/month for 2 cases of Pampers Cruisers. They're delivered each month at the same time right to my front door. Sooooo convenient. Have fun and good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 07/26/2011

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Don't be nervous...just keep them in as long as you can! I say dont be afraid to gain weight...it makes for healthy babies!! I gained 70 pounds, delivered at 37 weeks, and they weighed almost 7 pounds each. I lost 90 pounds nursing until they were 12 months old. I highly highly recommend nursing them as long as you can. I made plenty of milk adn so can you! call a lactation consultant to come to your house if you need to and she will help! I had a c-section so it was slow getting around at first, but your motherly instinct takes over and you will be fine. I had the girls sleeping through the night at 8 weeks (meaning 6 hours) by following the Babywise program. Once they weigh a good 10 pounds they are ready to drop their 3 am feedind and give mommy more sleep. Read the first Baby wise book cover to cover before they re born. Accept people's help when they offer. you will do fine!

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Betty Jo - posted on 02/14/2013

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I am currently pregnant with twins 17 weeks I dont know the sex of them yet. I have experienced a lot of pain this time around. I have a daughter who is 6 I never experienced any pain with that pregnancy. Any advice would be very helpful

Cristina - posted on 03/14/2012

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Oh, and breast feeding is a bit hard, I won't like. Get the twin nursing pillow like someone else suggested. It was uncomfortable for me, it hurt my back because I was doing football hold and I had to lean over a bit. Once they got to 5 months old they were too big to nurse together and I did it separate which was a lot easier. I got on a great schedule about a week after they were born. I saw that they were eating about every 3 hours so I would pump every hour and a half. It was very demanding but I did it while on maternity leave from work and by the time I went back to work I had saved about 200 bags of milk.

Nicole - posted on 03/06/2012

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Both fraternal and identical r heredity on the mothers side.as for sex, i was told i could have it up until i went on bed rest, coffee or any caffeine i was told was a no no and i stopped as soon as i found out i was prego, dying ur hair or getting ur nails done is no good when prego, the fumes and chemicals used r not good.

LATOYA - posted on 03/02/2012

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I am also expecting twins. I'm 8weeks along. I was in total shock and laughing because it's truly a blessing..but, now what. Need help for intake of calories and what to expect at my 12 week visit. Do excited, yet worried. I also have a 3yr old son.

Amanda - posted on 08/22/2011

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I had my twins at 33 weeks. I had severe edema and pre-eclampsia. I didn't have a hard pregnancy at all not like I was expecting.. However my iron did stay very low and I had to have a couple of visits because of my iron. Then When I was about 20 weeks I started havign contractions, I had to have my labor stopped i guess maybe 3 times a week it seems up until I had them in June. I had to have a c-section. You ask about a c-section well for me I had a bad experience with mine. I ended up catching infection in my wound and wasn't able to do anything for several months. I would try my best to kepe those babies in as long as you can and try and have them natural if you can.

Lauren - posted on 08/05/2011

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Healing from a C-section can go easy or rough. It is a major surgery. I have had 2 of them. My first one was an emergency c-section and my incision got infected and it took 3 months to heal, and I was not up and moving well for about 3 weeks. My second C-section was with my twins, and I elected to have it. The recovery for that one was very quick. I was up and feeling great just one week after, although I did get a cellulitus infection from my incision, but it was easily treated. So there are many things that can go wrong (or right) but you will be more worried about your babies than about recovering. It does hurt a lot! But there are things you do to overcome that. It is important to get up and walk around and be active as much and as soon as you can after the surgery. My twins are 4 years old, and to this day, my stomach muscles are not strong, and will never be the same.

Carla - posted on 08/05/2011

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No not at all. I healed with in I would have to say my first 2 to 3 wks of being home. I started to do little work outs to get my muscles back and working. It all depends on how your body heals. Everyone is different and does not heal as fast as others or visa versa.

Carla - posted on 08/05/2011

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Try and keep them in as long as you can!! I had my identical twin girls at 38wks and they were and are the most amazing babies in the world. I found it hard in the first month with feeding them, but only in the night since I had no help n I was breast feeding. I felt wore out but after that I formula feed the because i had lost my breast milk and it was much easier. It is not hard at all I must say. I to today have nothing to complain about. It is easy if you have them on a schedule. Everyone is different with having natural n c-section. I had a c-section only cause my girls were breech. I was up and walking right when the spinal block wore off. I felt great and was moving since 5 hrs after having them. All the nurses n dr's were so pleased to see me up and moving. Just if you have a c-section don't over work your self and do only as much as you can. If anyone offers help accept it cause sometimes it may feel over whelming. My babies started to sleep through the night about 2 months and the started to eat every 3 to 4 hrs in the am till 4 pm. I have nothing to complain about at all. I hope this was very helpful.

The best of luck the the rest of your pregnancy and congratulations!!!

Nicole - posted on 08/05/2011

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well from my own experience. you should eat healthy, expect lots of dr. apps. many sleepless nights and double everything. i had a lot of help from my husband. my girls were born at 35 weeks they both weighed 5 lbs plus and were healthy. i was on bed rest a month before they were born. they r my first and my last. twins do run in my family, however from things i have read twins only run on the mothers side and the fathers have nothing to do with it. i had a c-section because one would have been breach.twins r a lot of work but they r also a joy. mine r now one and they play together and fight. they also gain up on me. they do get jealous if i hold one and not the other so i still hold and carry both. i breast and bottle feed them and that worked for me. i invested in a good breast pump, this helped me so that my hubby could also feed them. i breast feed for 4 months. i found the sitting on the floor with them in a boppy helped me to feed them at the same time.as for ur pregnancy try to take it easy and please eat healthy.

Vanessa - posted on 07/29/2011

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Congrats!! Twins are a blessing! I have 2.5yr old twin boys and they were my first babies. So I had nothing to compare it to and no mommy experiance. The good thing was I had lots of help and family close by. Twins run in my family and my older sister has 11yr old twin boys and a 14yr girl. She was and still is my biggest help! My best advice for you is to spend as much time with your 2 yr old daughter as you can. I can remember when I brought my niece to the hospital to meet her new brothers she did not take it very well...she said "mommy put them back" then turn to me and said "aunty take me to your house". At the time I did not have any kids and i think she figured out in her little head I was the only aunty with no kids and she would be the center of attention. But once the boys got home she came around. We would set up playdates for her with her mommy ONLY so could feel like she was very special. Her Dad or I would do one on one bedtime routines with her. I think the key is finding time to make her feel extra special. Also, keeping her envolved with helping her new siblings is good. this will help her to bound and develop a relationship with the babies. It will be hard but try to find time for her. Some days you will fill like you are being pulled in several directions...just remember they are your most special gifts of life! Get lots of rest while you are pregnant. Cause when they come you will need it. Try to keep them on the same feeding schedual. My boys feed every 2.5 or 3 hours... in the first month or so the feed 10 to 15 minutes appart. Then we got to feed at the same time. One good advantage with feeding 15 minute appart was I could have time to bound with one baby at a time. I did not breastfeed cause my boys did not like it but I pumped for 6 months. I think the best advice is do what works for you. Also, try to do everything in your power to keep them in as long as you can. It can be a very challenging pregnancy carrying twins but the baby making business is a tricky one. For the most part I did not have much morning sickness. I may have vomitted twice thruoughout my pregnancy. The only other complication was at 16 weeks I started to dialate and I was going into labor.I had to have a Cervical Cerclage(is a surgical procedure, in which the cervix is sewn closed during pregnancy) done due to my weak and short cervix. Then I was plased on bed rest for 3 weeks. I was able to go back to work after the 3 weeks but I should have listen to my doctors and stay on bed rest. However i managed to convince them that my job wasnt strainious or strass full and I would take it easy. Finially I was placed on bed rest at 28 weeks and I had the boys at 34weeks. So my point is listen to your body and take it easy get lots of rest. As for diapers, in the beginning we did disposable diapers then at 4 or 5 months I started cloth diapering. This was a big help and cost effiective long term. the initial cost is a little pricey but it is well worth it. I have tried a lot of different brands but i have found that Fuzzibunz cloth diapers worked best for me. Read up on as much twin material as you can and don't reject any help from family or friends. Good luck!

Lauren - posted on 07/29/2011

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Wow, I asked the same question, but you never really know what to expect until you go through it. Every woman has their own rhythm, and I've heard that a lot of women go early, but I went all the way to 38 weeks, and would've gone longer if the doctors would've let me. Because you have a 2 year old, I suggest that you spend as much time with her as you can, because when the twins come, it will be a lot harder to put her first all of the time, and you will definitely miss that. As for feedings, everyone has their choice. I breastfed for as long as I could. My twins were different though. One was good at nursing, while the other had difficulties. Contact your La Leche League, and you will get a lot of support if you plan to nurse. I invested in a breast pump, and that did help. Don't feel guilty about anything! I always felt guilty that I wasn't doing enough of this or that the right way. If you have friends or family nearby, talk with them and ask them if they'd be willing to help once in a while so you can go grocery shopping. There were several people that donated meals to my family so I wouldn't have to cook while they were so young and it saved me a lot of time! If you can't afford to buy 2 new of everything, don't worry. There are other ways. Borrowing from a friend is good, Freecycle on Yahoo groups is another way to get things that you may need for free. For the pregnancy, I had horrible morning sickness for a while, then at the end, it was really uncomfortable. I could barely sleep it was crowded in there. Lots of heartburn, like I said, though it's different for everyone. The first week they were home, I think I maybe got a few hours of sleep. It was really difficult. So try and prepare yourself for exhaustion. Depending on the help you have at home, and because you already have a child, you already know how to take care of a baby, and there is nothing different in that, now there will just be two poopy diapers to change, mouths to feed, bodies to clothe, and 2 more little angels to give yourself to, and try as hard as you can to get them on the same schedule of feeding, sleeping, etc. because I didn't do that, I wish I did because I probably would have slept more and been able to nurse for a longer period of time. While you are expecting twins, make the most of your time alone with your 2 year old, rest as much as you can, enjoy your pregnancy, What I needed the most: Diapers! There is so much to think about when you are expecting, but remember that you will survive the chaos and enjoy your family.

Vanessa - posted on 07/29/2011

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Carry as long as you can! I carrie 38 weeks 6 days and 39 weeks. Yes sounds funny but my sons were born on two different days. Also had one natural and c-section. Weight wise gain what you can. I gained close to 40lbs and my sons were 5.9/6.13. I lost all weight one month after they were born. I pumped up until 3 weeks after born (not enough milk). Breast feed if you can. Um during pregnancy do what you can. I worked up till 1 month of delivery. I was unable to fit my feet in shoes anymore and my job required that. I was able to have a cup of coffe or tea or even a coke. Reduced is better. I would recommend exercise. Except tons of help because it is a god send. Twin groups are a big help. My big suggestion is keep them on a schedule. It does wonders. Congrats and many blessings. Its a very fun time. Oh and I would suggest buying a pregnancy pillow.

Erin - posted on 07/29/2011

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Congratulations! Having twins is a wonderful experience. I would try to keep your weight to the recommended gain which I believe is 35-45 pounds. Don't exercise too vigorously, but walking is great. I breastfed and highly recommend it. Sure it's a lot of work, but my twins were very healthy and it helped me to lose my pregnancy weight(45 lbs) without even trying. My boy/girl twins were a little over 6.5/7.5 pounds respectively and I went into labor one day shy of 38 weeks. The key to healthy newborns is getting as close to 40 weeks as possible. My babies went home when I did. I'm amazed at how many moms said there babies slept 6 hours around 8 weeks. My kids ate every 3 hours for about 6 months. After that time they seemed to sleep in longer increments. It is definitely tiring, so sleep whenever you can throughout the day. A well rested mommy is much better than a spotless house. Help really makes it easier, so don't be afraid to let others assist you. It's a big job, but the rewards are amazing. My twins are 3 years old now and I am so grateful that I was blessed with my two sweethearts at the same time.

Ianina - posted on 07/29/2011

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Hey! Congrats on the twins. With my pregnancy I had sex (when I felt like it, drank coffee (no more than 2 cups) and dye my hair last trimester.

I made it to 36 weeks, both girls were 5 lbs and i gained 34 lbs. They were not in NICU and we all went home after 3 days since I had a c-section. They also started sleeping more than 6 hours at 8 weeks and now that they are almost 3 months is the same :)
I bottle feed them because I didn't had enough milk but it made my life easier since anyone can help with the feedings.
Sleep while you can since taking care of both babies at the same time is exhausting. If anyone offers help, take it. I take care of mines 24-7 almost alone. My bf works from home so he can help when he is done working. I do it on my own because I want to. It is not that bad but since you have a toddler will be more dificult. Once you have a routine going, gets easier, I promise :)

Best of luck

Jessica - posted on 07/28/2011

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Thank you everybody :) I have a question though. When I was pregnant with my daughter my doctor told me it was ok to have sex, to drink 1 to 2 cups of coffee a day and to dye my hair. Is any of this different when carrying twins?

Kim - posted on 07/28/2011

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From my own research.. identical twins are not hereditary, and fraternal are. I agree with Stephanie, focus on keeping them in you as long as possible and do whatever the doctor tells you. There are more limitations as to what you will and won't be able to do. It was recommended by my doctor to stop working at 28 weeks, even though my boys were healthy. It will be a challenge for you already having a daughter, but then again having a little helper around will be great for you! I say plan for the worst and expect the best! Cross all your T's and dot your I's because you never know what will happen from this point on. Since you already have experience with one, you know the non-essential things that you don't need. I would definitely invest in 2 swings and two poppy pillows. And if you bottle feed... lots and lots of bottles. The first few months we went through 8-9 bottles each, they ate every 2-3 hours. Let me tell you how excited I was when they stopped using them. I was lucky to have very healthy boys, delivered at 37 weeks with no C-section required. Just expect the twins to be small. Buy car seats meant for smaller babies. My car seats were made for babies as small as 5lbs, most car seats recommend babies be 7-8lbs I believe. Enjoy!! It definitely was and is an experience. Oh yea... and be prepared to go out into public....I hear "God bless you" and "you must have your hands full" at least once a day. lol

Holly - posted on 07/28/2011

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i had twins when my oldest was 19 months old. i read everything i could, but it all focused on the bad things that could happen. twins didn't run in my family either, so no worries. i became a member of a multiples group after i had the twins and i wish i knew about it when i was pregnant. those women are wonderful! twins are amazing, you are going to have the best time. i nursed them as long as i could. you will need help, so accept it when it's offered (that was the hardest thing for me to do).

Stephanie - posted on 07/27/2011

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TO me it was easier than holding 2 bottles at a time...you can buy a twin nursing pillow and it is pretty easy. I loved it and wouldn't trade it for the world. But there will be difficult times when you first start...but your local hospital should have lactation consultants that can come to your house!

Jessica - posted on 07/26/2011

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Thank you for all that. And I completely expect to gain some weight I have a 2 year old daughter and when I was pregnant with her I gained a total of 70 lbs as well and that was just one baby :) That was definitely my fault though I used being pregnant as an excuse to eat what I wanted when I wanted and I guess you can say I went a bit over bored lol Is it difficult to nurse two babies?

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