what was the best advice you ever received?

Grace - posted on 06/18/2010 ( 69 moms have responded )

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i have no friends or family that have twins so some of there advice doesn`t work for twins (i`m a first time mum ) and i was just wondering if u were starting over,what is the one piece of advice do u wish someone had giving you

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Khadijah - posted on 06/20/2010

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I received so much good advice after having my twins (They are now 16 months old). Here are a few tips: First and for most get them on a schedule, but know that during the first 3 months or so they pretty much have a mind of their own. They sleep when they want and they wake up to feed at any hour.



Next...Sleep when they sleep!!! I was so exhausted during the first 3 months. Even if your house is a mess from running around caring for the babies...let it stay as is and GET SOME REST!!! Get to the cleaning wheneven you can. Do a little here and a little there. The main cleaning to be concerned about is their bottles/breast pump attachments etc., and the babies clothes/linen etc.



And Finally .....Make Time for Yourself!!! I know its easier said than done when you are the Mom of newborn twins but it is soooo important. It will ensure that you will always be at your best for your little ones. Believe me its very hard to "get away" but my husband was heaven sent. Small things like: trips to the grocery store (or any store for that matter) alone, a long bath/shower, I use to go to the book store (where its quiet) and look at some of the latest releases, buy yourself something small that's JUST for you!! Like new lingerie or frangrant bath salts. It felt good to get some tiny bits of my previous self back into my life.



You will be AMAZED at how these few tips will make your life easier and more manageable. On those nights when you are exhausted and there doesn't seem to be an end to your day....take a deep breath and know that as time goes by things will get a little easier day by day.

Wendy - posted on 06/25/2010

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My twins are now 13 years old :-) Yes, you will get there. For the babies it is definately get them on a schedule and stick to it - but for other things ... Make sure you take pictures with each of them in them, not all together - you don't want to end up with a collage of life (like at a wedding) and every picture has both babies/kids in it.
Make two cakes!!! You have two kids - if they were born on separate days in separate years they wouldn't have to share a cake. (I have grown twin friends who still complain that they always had to share a cake)
Put them in the same kindergarten class - if the school says it is against their policy - DON'T BELIEVE them. It is traumatic enough to suddenly separate them from you - they don't need to be separated from each other. This is especially true if they stay home with you.
Don't let people fall into the habbit of calling them "The Twins" - if they do just say "Oh you mean (name) and (name)" - on the same theme - one gift for both kids - TOTALLY NOT COOL.
Hope it helps.

Pip - posted on 06/22/2010

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My twins are baby number 5 and 6 and the best advice I ever heard was from a nurse in the NICU, I was fretting cause 1 twin was crying and I needed to finish with the other, she said "darling we never lost 1 to crying yet", as simple as that. I've said it to myself all the time since. The only other thing I can say is try to feed them and sleep them together. Good luck

Laura - posted on 06/19/2010

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Put them on a schedule as soon as you can! My babies are 8 months old and we had them on a schedule when they were a couple days old. They know what to expect and I know where we can be at what times and what time we should be home. It was the best advice that I got!

Rebecca - posted on 07/01/2010

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Hi Grace,
I have 21 month old twin boys and a 13 year old boy and what a ride it's been so far. I think the best piece of advice I was ever given is to smile and politely listen to others advice and then continue doing what works best for my family. The best advice I can give to any new parent would be never forget to parent with a sense of humor. If I hadn't learned to find humor in most situations I think I would be in the corner pulling out my hair by now.

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Allison - posted on 02/02/2012

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make sure that you read, sing and play games with them a lot and start the process from early...best advice anyone could ever give..they will cultivate the habit of learning and it will replace mindless television shows and foster great learning habits while they are at a very impressionable age...

Roya - posted on 01/25/2012

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Get them on the same feeding times. Have them sleep trained asap. Call a postpartum doula who can help you with this. It will be the best investment you make.

Kylene - posted on 06/24/2011

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the bet advice I remember receiving was if you can get through the first 6 weeks you'll be fine. They were right after 6 weeks we were into a fairly good routine and you feel human again. The other advice was don't be afraid to ask for help. We were fortunate enough to have all our family in the same town as us but if we hadn't I would have been reaching out to friends.

Justine - posted on 06/24/2011

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all of the above, plus remember that it DOES get easier - my girls are 3 1/2 now and it's just great to have two kids the same age - same school routine, same activities, same interests, they love playing together - WAY easier than having either one child this age or two different ages - so hang in there, and be kind to yourself!!!

Tiffany - posted on 10/31/2010

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Keep a journal! I think this is for all moms. When something happens you always think that you will remember the event but I can tell you first hand that it doesnt always work that way. You will forget certain details. Especially when you have twins.
Also, dont worry about what other babies are doing. Each child is different. Each twin if a seperate individual. They will do everything on their own timetable not someone else's.

Molly - posted on 10/30/2010

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OWH SWEETY,PLEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASE READ (KHADIJAH LEWIS)REPLY TO YOU AGAIN&AGAIN...ITS REALLY HELPFULL &I DO IT SAME EXACTLY 4 MY SELF AND IT WORKS IAM TOTALLY HAPPY WITH IT WITH MY 2BOY 9 MONTHES TWIN&THIER ELDER 2 YEARS&HALF BREETY GIRL&LIFFFFFFFFFFFE KEEP ON GOING :))GOOD LUCK

Heather - posted on 10/30/2010

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I was in the same position as you, 1st time Mummy having twins when there were no other twins in the family. I got a lot of advice given to me, most of it not applicable at all but the best thing I heard was to listen to it all with a smile on my face no matter how annoying it is and then ignore it completely and raise your children the way you want and not how someone tells you to.

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I agree with every other mom who said "put them on a schedule." It makes your life so much easier. I also suggest starting a bedtime routine early on, maybe at 4 months or when they're starting to sleep longer at night. Follow the four Bs... Bath/Bottle/Book/Bed. My boys are now 2. Bathtime is 7:15, then they get some quiet time with their dad and me to read a book and sit quietly until a little before 8 p.m. We don't wait for them to fall asleep but they're usually ready for bed at that point. They're in bed by 8 every night and sleep very well.

F. Janee' - posted on 07/07/2010

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I have 6 months old twin boy and girl and the best thing you can do for you and your babies is to make them do everything at the sametime, naps, feeding,playing, I meaneverything. It has almost took me 6 months but it is working now and it is nice to have then nap together and go to bed at the same time. But you will have to make them or you will be on the move at all times.

Amanda - posted on 07/06/2010

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Ohh and I have to echo Gina's advice from earlier. The BEST ADVICE I ever got from another Mom was this.... Crying won't kill them. As long as they are fed, clean and safe, letting them cry if you absolutely cannot get up or if you need to have a 5 minute shower or a breather - let them cry. THEY WILL BE FINE!!! YOU WILL BE TOO!!! I reached a point where I had to shut my door and sleep...my PPD and sleep deprivation ran me into the ground. They were fine. They actually went back to sleep. And are VERY good sleepers now that they are almost 2.

Amanda - posted on 07/06/2010

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RELAX! Two babies are harder than one but you don't have a choice and you will find a way to do everything they need you to do. Worrying is normal but if you let it take over your life you are going to miss out on the joys of your babies and someday you'll realize you should have just enjoyed the ride instead of stressing out about every little thing. They are a lot tougher than they look. If I can do it, anybody can!!!

Amanda - posted on 07/06/2010

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Hi, my twin daughters are now 18 months old. but what was the best pc of advice was to get them on a schedule - the same schedule as best you can. Especially when it comes to sleeping. Do the same bedtime routine everynight at the same time so that they start to understand that its bedtime. I kept mine in the same crib for awhile, but you could do seperate ones in the same bedroom. When one wakes up to feed in the middle of the night, get the other one up to feed as well. B/c if you don't by the time you are done with the first one and head back to bed the next one will be up and you will never get any sleep. Also keep them on the same naptime schedule if you can. that way you can get some well needed rest. The one thing that no one ever told me was that with twins they are very demanding and life changes in a huge way. It takes both my husband and I to take care of them, and some days can be very exhausting and frustrating (especially when they are both cranky and both want to be held). But do treat them as individuals, they might be twins but they each have their own personalities. Good luck!! Oh, one more little thing: when you take them out shopping or anywhere in public be prepared to get a zillion questions (some stupid and annoying) from everyone in the store. My favorite is: are they twins?)

Lisa - posted on 07/06/2010

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Okay, I've looked at some of the replies and my answer is redundant: SCHEDULE!

My b/g twins (now 4 1/2) spent the first 6 weeks in the NICU, and so, admittedly, they were already on a schedule when they came home. But I think it's so important! I don't know how many times I've heard "you're a new mom? Okay, the most important thing to remember is 'sleep when the baby sleeps'!" but, with twins, if they are on different schedules that pretty much means you don't get to sleep. Ever. And if you're trying to BF and have to also pump, it definitely means no sleep for mommy.

My twins ate at the same time. Napped at the same time. Etc. This actually meant waking a baby up on occasion to "eat" -- a concept which positively scandalized every parent I ever met who did not have multiples. One anecdote stands out for me. They were already a little older (a year, maybe?) and my daughter just wouldn't take her morning nap. He slept, she didn't. When they were playing on the floor as I was preparing "lunch", she fell asleep. On her face on the floor. About five minutes before it was time to eat. And I woke her up to eat, and put her down for her nap after lunch at the usual nap time. My family was aghast, insisting I should have let her sleep then and get up and eat whenever. But, if I had let her sleep, they would have been on reverse schedules for at least that day, with waking/sleeping/eating, leaving me with exactly zero time to, you know, do the same.

Scheduling is something that saved me then, and saves me now. Had I one baby I am pretty certain I would have been (and would still be) a more laid back parent when it comes to schedule -- I am NOT a regimented person by nature, at all -- but I can't imagine doing this any other way.

Nete - posted on 07/04/2010

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Oh here is another one.... Coconut butter !! rub you belly 2-3 times everyday or more ... I'm tiny - gained 65 pounds while I was pregnant (thats more than half my body weight, when I got pregnant) I don't have one single stretch mark!!! rub rub rub.. and rub some more especially the last 3 months!! I did loose all the weight and still no marks !!

Diane - posted on 07/04/2010

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i have twin girls 19 months old and i agree with most comments...routine is the best advice you can be given. Even if you need to wake one to feed at the same as the other. get rid of night feeds as soon as possible. and most importantly do not stress about things that do not really matter !! so what if the washing up isnt done or you havnt polished for a few days. take time for yourself and make sure you enjoy it because time flies. good luck xxxx

Carla - posted on 07/04/2010

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hi i have twin girls 8months now and i agree with most of the mums get them in a routine, and don't worry about asking for help from friends and family, because they will be more than happy to help, it does get easier once they are on solids

Tami - posted on 07/03/2010

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People say to let sleeping babies sleep. This does not work for twins. When one is ready to eat, wake the other to eat at the same time or right after. They will get used to this and be on a schedule rather quickly. My babies knew day from night by a week old and were on a napping schedule by 3 months. I have friends with 1 yr olds who aren't on a sleep/nap schedule yet! Twins MUST be on a schedule. It's the only way you'll be able to function! Also, never heat formula. Room temp is less work. And the double sheet/mattress pads work for a long time-great for when potty training also.

Dawn - posted on 07/02/2010

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My g/b twins are 17 months old and my only children. Everyone told me it would get easier and they were right! I also hear that as they get bigger so do the challenges so enjoy now.
My (limited) personal experience has taught me to do what feels right for you and your babies and not worry so much about what others say you\your kids should or should not be doing. We are all just doing the best we can.

Laura - posted on 07/01/2010

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Have them on a schedule!!!!! If one gets up at night then you wake the other one to feed too. Otherwise you will just fall asleep and the one who didnt eat will then be up. Trust me your mom instincts will kick in and when to stop waking for feedings. Good luck and enjoy!!! :) I have twins.......they are now 3 1/2yrs now,boy and a girl..It goes by soo fast.

Alison - posted on 07/01/2010

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My b/g twins are almost 13 now, but if I had to do it all again, I would feed them both together at night, not when ever they woke because mine woke an hour apart every night for the first 3 months, I felt like a zombie I was so tired being woken up ever hour. if I had fed them together I would have got at least 2 hours sleep between feeds. I thought they would learn to sleep longer at night if I didnt wake them, but I should have got them into the same routine feeds at night for my sake, they were always fed at the same time in the day. They did everything at the same time in the daytime, they even learnt to walk on the same day! If they are fed, bathed, nappies changed and sleep at the same time, twins arnt double the work, more like 1 1/2 times the work of a single baby, which I know because I already had 2 older children. I found looking after my twins (after the first 3 months anyway) easier than when I had each of the other two, because I was experienced and because my eldest was just starting school then and there was a routine that they got use to. With the first two there was no routine I fed them whenever they cryed, there probably wasnt a set nap time either, so a routine is a good thing. I hope this helps, all the best, try and have naps when they do too. The hardest time is the first three months it get a lot easier after that when they learn to sleep longer at might time, and you get more sleep.

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1. Put your twins on a schedule (feed, nap, bedtime together). "The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems: Sleeping, Feeding, and Behavior--Beyond the Basics from Infancy Through Toddlerhood" by Tracy Hogg has some good advice about schedules and how much babies should be eating at different ages; however I never did the "pick up/put down" thing she suggests. I think that would be impossible with twins.

2. Sleep training will not only make your life easier it is healthy for your babies to learn how to sleep on their own. Although I love to rock my babies to sleep I found it totally liberating when I could put them to bed awake and have them fall asleep on their own. No more running from nursery to nursery to sooth my crying babies! To find out more read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, by by Marc Weissbluth M.D.

Ironically, although I found both books very helpful the authors totally disagree on which method is best to get your baby to sleep through the night. You will have to sort out what is best for you.

Nete - posted on 07/01/2010

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Oh! one important note about the bounce chairs, swings and car seat carriers ... do not let your babies spend to much time with their back of the head always resting in the same position... they will end up with flat heads and in helmets

My son was born with a cranium deformity due to lack of room and that, they had to stop premature labour at week 30 ...(no not fun:) anyways he had already moved into position and was stuck there for another 3 1/2 weeks and to make matters worse our first doc ignored my concerns for the first 4 month!! After we changed Doc we got on the issues and he was treated with a helmet for 14 months ... so I had a chance to meet a lot of mothers of kids with flat back heads and by fare most of them had it from the car seats or swing/bouncers ...so be careful and give lot of belly time during the day and rotate the side of the head they are leaning on ..... anyways the swings was great but just use them and alike, carefully



If you do need to prop bottles, the little ty teddy bears worked great as bottle buddies and a helping hand ...

- that way you can take turns holding one twin, but feeding them both at the same time .... I'm not saying probing bottles are ideal ... but hey you got twins.. so you have to use the tricks the bag sometimes.



If at all possible try to breast -feed.. formula is Expensive !!! but if you do end up using formula after a while or any time... it's perfectly fine and that was possible the best advice I got from a dad .. telling me not to feel bad about myself, if I got to that point... and that he had 5 kids all bottled w formula and they are perfectly fine and healthy

-There is so much judgment from other people about breast feeding, that it can be difficult not to feel as a failure ...if you don't breast-feed ... just people forget that there might be a reason for it and that their comments can be hurtful ... they forget they don't know the story behind and that you might be upset about it, before they say something....

so if you have to cross that bridge ...know that it's ok and that they will be fine!

Gina - posted on 07/01/2010

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Best advice I was given was, no one died from crying, take your time, finish what you are doing, breathe, count to 10. My advice, never forget you have two babies, they are not one, there are 2! If your bottle feeding prop bottles up, it gives you some time to do what ever.

Candyce - posted on 07/01/2010

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i have 18 month old twin boys and my best piece of advice would be ROUTINE! make your own routine for them you are the parent they are the kids you make the rules not them! and accept help when it is offered you need time for yourself too!

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I am also a first time mom and mother of twins. Despite what some may tell us, we didn't have a baby... we had a family. It's not the same.

SCHEDULE!!! An absolute must. It takes time to figure out - do what works best both for you and your babies.

SLEEP!! *sleep when they sleep.. that's a funny one when there's no schedule in place. But once you get the schedule in place, grab a nap whenever you can.

HOUSEWORK!!! Trust me when I tell you, the dust bunnies aren't going anywhere. They won't go hungry or get lost or into trouble. To date, there has never been a dirty house in therapy. The dirt will wait for you, your children need you now.

TEARS!!!! When you feel alone, overwhelmed, frustrated, angry...(the list is long)...* * * Put The Baby Down And Walk Away * * * No baby has ever hurt themselves crying and mom, accept the fact you are outnumbered and only human.

ACCEPT!!!!! Now is no time to be proud. Accept donations of clothing, offers of babysitting, free housecleaning... Learn to say, "Yes, I could really use that" and "Thank you" - and may you be blessed and fortunate to have the opportunity to say those two phrases often.

Rebecca - posted on 07/01/2010

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My twins turned two in March. The best advice I ever received was, when one wakes up to eat, wake the other one up and feed them, too. It made life so much easier to keep them on the same schedule. As they got older, I kept track of who was waking up first in the middle of the night. I did not want to keep them from sleeping through the night. They were both sleeping through the night by age 4 months.

The other thing I would recommend... I felt the need to get a pack and play with twin bassinets. Since I ended up buying a second pack and play when they out grew that, it would have been much cheaper to buy two pack and plays with their own bassinets from the start!

Lisa - posted on 07/01/2010

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Hi! My twins are 2 1/2 years old (identical girls). Babies need love, and when they cry, it is to communicate that they need something - maybe just to be walked around. I also say trust your own instincts (my instincts told me to attend to them ASAP when they cried, and I have NEVER regretted that. There are even studies now supporting this attachment - type of parenting. The NICU nurse tried to tell me that I couldn't hold both babies at the same time, but I knew she was wrong and figured out my own ways of holding them both, nursing them both, etc.. (EZ to nurse Twins boppy pillow was VERY useful!) I highly recommend any book by Dr. William Sears, such as The Baby Book. Everyone seems to say that babies grow up fast, and I would encourage you to cherish the time you spend with them. (and take lots of pictures and videos). And if there is a time when you have to change one's diaper and the other is crying, I found it helpful to talk to the other one: "I'll be right with you, I'm just changing Melody's diaper.... It's okay, sweetie..." AND I always had heard that you should talk to your babies all the time, so even though other people thought I was crazy for explaining everything to them at a very young age, ("This is a drinking fountain - see the water...") I believe that is part of the reason they are so verbal and smart now!

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My twins are now 20 years old. The best advice I received was to ask for advice and listen to other people's ideas - but follow your own instincts. You are the one person who knows intuitively what is best for you and your children...

My advice to you and to all Mums of twins is don't allow yourself to feel guilty: in particular for not being able to give two (or more) babies the same amount of time and attention you could give to one baby on its own - remember they have each other ...
The feed diary is a good idea - but don't feel guilty if you feed one baby twice and miss the other out - I did that once and was mortified until other twin Mums told me they had done the same thing - so don't be hard on yourself for making mistakes - guarantee that whatever you think you have done 'wrong' thousands of other twins Mums will have done it too :-)

Kel-Cie - posted on 06/30/2010

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My boys are 13 months me best advice is get out of the house, you'll all feel better, two infant carriers DO FIT in a grocery cart so browse the mall. Ignore those who give you sh*t for propping bottles, not immediately picking up your crying babies (you do have two so its not as easy as carting one around all day like some moms with a single baby) and doing what works best for YOU. I found the first 4 months easier because they slept so much and I fed them at the same time (even if one was sleeping, they'll suck a bottle or boob in their sleep) and 4-8 months harder because they wanted to be entertained more esp by mommy and they didn't sleep as much. Now when they are in their high chair for breakfast I give them some finger food and sweep the kitchen floor then feed them breakfast, then when they are in their highchair for lunch, again finger food (like grated cheese) and vacuum the living room, then feed them lucch and when they are in their highchair for dinner finger food, load up the washer/dryer, then feed them dinner. They are learning hand corordination and how to feed themselves and I manage to keep the house atleast slightly presentable lol.

Justine - posted on 06/30/2010

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Me again - another thing - clothes - mine were in baby grows (short sleeved or long sleeved, or both depending on the weather) for about the first year - one piece, no fuss - you don't want to be fussing around with pants and shirts and socks and shoes and jerseys for two babies - also, with a one-piece baby suit you can do a clever manoevre known as the 'kitten hold' where you basically grab hold of a chunk of baby grow to lift one baby up to breast feed while holding onto the other with the other arm!!! The only way to securely lif a new-born one handed!!!

Justine - posted on 06/30/2010

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Also definitely agree with Christine - put them to sleep awake - I remember coming home from hospital and my hubby and I just completely freaked out at these two crying babies who just wouldn't go to sleep - so we just left them in bed, came into the lounge and had a cup of tea (I'm English, so a nice cup of tea is the answer to everything - lol!) and by the time we went back they were asleep! From then on we put them into bed awake, and at first they'd cry for bit, but very soon they just went to sleep, and now, at 7.30 every night we put them into bed awake, no major bed time routine - not even really calming down, sometimes we chase them around the lounge to get their pyjamas on - but about three seconds after we put them into bed, they are both fast asleep - it's a really short term trial for a massive pay off!!!

Christine - posted on 06/30/2010

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from day one we put our kids to bed awake, lol we were so exhausted that we didn't have the energy to rock them, now at almost 7 months they go to bed and down for naps awake and go to sleep on their own. I have also put my children on a schedule and it is awesome, I am a very happy, well rested mother of twins as my little ones have slept 10-12 hours every night since they were 2.5 months. Another thing I recommend is Podee's. These are the most wonderful feeding system where you can feed both children at the same time. They are basically a bottle with a straw in it that comes out the top with a tube attached to a nipple/pacifier and the kids can drink their bottles on their own without help, from any age, we started ours at about a month old, we just put them in bouncy chairs to feed them. If you google Podee you can find lots of information on them and how to order them.

Justine - posted on 06/30/2010

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My twin girls are now 2 1/2 and I definitely agree with the main advice already coming through here - schedule as soon as possible - I would even wake up one baby to feed her at the same time as her sister just to make sure they were on the same feeding schedule - otherwise you would literally do nothing other than feeding. My other advice is not so much practical tips as a mindset for suviving twins: 1) Accept and ask for as much help as possible - and not just with the babies, but with everything else - shopping, housework, cooking - enroll other people to do whatever they can and 2) lower your expectations - again, not just with the babies, but with everything else - time goes SO quickly, and really twice as quickly with two babies, because it's all such a blur ... so make the most of every precious minute with your babies, and don't sweat the small stuff - have sandwiches or take-out for dinner, leave the washing up until you actually run out of crockery, bath the babies every other day, not every day (every single thing you read will tell you it is not necessary to bath them every day) - just focus on getting as much quality time as you can, because that is probably the hardest thing with twins, is getting the quality one-on-one time, so let everything else go, and just make the most of every moment - enjoy your babies, and to hell with everything else. OH, and, hold on to the fact that it WILL get easier - as they get older, they play together, amuse each other etc and demand so much less from you than a singleton toddler would ... truly double the trouble, but twice the joy

Tanya - posted on 06/30/2010

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Oooh, something else I found useful in the early days was to write down when each had a feed, a nappy change (and what it was) and how much they slept and when they went to sleep. This also really helps if they need any medicine at any point. In those early days you can be so tired that you don't know who has done what or had what.

Drusilla - posted on 06/30/2010

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i have Irish triplets (twins and one more a couple of months older). enjoy the ride. watching them grow is the greatest joy. it may be work at times, but they are such a joy to love.

Jackey - posted on 06/30/2010

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If you want your twins to share a cot in the first months, buy 2 of the changing mats, those with the plastic material and the roundings at the sides, therefore your twins will be together as they are used to each other and they won't roll around in the cot.

Hilary - posted on 06/30/2010

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Hello and congratulations on your twins!!

My girls are now 4yrs7mths and were children 3 and 4 in our house.

I'm a bit like you in that I didn't have family members with twins to get advice from so pretty much had to find my own way. I agree with the bouncy chairs for bottle feeding, but that only worked once they were a few months old, and a bit stronger. I went the alternative route to structure and routine with feeding, I found demand feeding was better for them. It seemed to me that they were going to be small for such a short time it wasn't a problem to do it that way. Bed time was a different matter, early routine on that front was a lesson I learned from not doing it with my eldest so bath, milk and bed for a story was how we did it. The story seems like a silly idea for little babies but its a nice way to soothe them off to sleep and if Mum and Dad take it in turns they get to be useful too. They obviously don't understand a word of it but it really can begin a lifelong love of books.

The idea of two mattress covers is inspired! Something I now know is that you really don't need double of everything, in fact I had 6 bottles for my twins which was perfectly adequate for them but a friend with a single baby needed more than 12!

There are going to be times when two of something is a must but not always, last christmas one of my girls wanted trains and the other wanted a cinderella doll, imagine the disappointment if they received the same gift. Some things you do need 2, a ball each for example and as they get bigger bikes etc but don't waste vital funds on buying too much, we know that when twins arrive they are expensive and any savings you can make will be welcome. Buy less of something than the books tell you you will need and see how you go, but stock up on nappies! If you see them on special offer for bulk purchases go for it even if they are a size too big at the time they'll grow, it doesn't take long either!

Good luck to you, twins are hard work there's no denying it but they are an absolute joy and you've joined a very special group of ladies...The Twin Mummies xx

Nete - posted on 06/29/2010

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GINA FORD 4 sure, get her books !!
Pamela... (twins are 27yrs) Everyone, please give her a high five!! girls we have a survivor!! that is encouraging :o)

Dotty - posted on 06/29/2010

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Routine right away.....its easier to start a routine straight away with twins....then everyone knows where they are...Routine,routine,routine....lol

Valerie - posted on 06/29/2010

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My twin girls are 14.. almost 15.. going on about 25!!! Enjoy every minute of it now... it is hard, but you will survive!! Schedules are good- but it's the babies that will determine what and when that will happen.. so don't get frustrated if they aren't on a schedule, or not on the same schedule.. if they are now or soon, then GREAT, but if not.. it's OK.. it WILL happen eventually! ;) I find that the challenges have changed over the years.. from no sleep when they were newborns, to running around like crazy when they were toddlers, to the school and separation issues in school.. to the independence they both wanted (and want) now that they are older.. It's been a long road, but worth every minute of it! (Although on some days I may not feel that way at all!! And that's OK too!!)-- make sure to find some "adult" time.. coffee with a friend, or time with husband or significant other, even if it's not alot of time, but wihtout the babies.. you will need some adult conversation as I found with my twins, they do consume most all of your time, and it's important not to forget about yourself (as we probably all have at times!!).. I found that when my girls were little, they loved dressing in the same thing- Probably from my little obsession I had when they were babies.. but now as teenagers, they have branched out into their own identities.. and I let it happen when they wanted it to happen, not when I wanted it to happen... Now I treasure the days when they actually want to dress alike ;) Good luck and hang in there!!!!

Diane - posted on 06/28/2010

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Exclusive breastfeeding IS possible with twins! A normal human mother can produce enough milk to feed triplets without ever using formula and since breastfed babies get sick much less often it is well worth the effort rather than having 2 sick babies all the time. My twins were 10 months old before they ever got sick, what a blessing! I would go see a lactation consultant before you have the babies to get help and advice from the very begining. Nurse on demand and co-sleeping makes supply issues and nighttime feeding much easier to deal with. By about 4-5 months most twins start holding hands while they nurse, it's very sweet and very worth it. Good luck.

Mindy - posted on 06/26/2010

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to make sure you enjoy every moment with them because its hard when they are little but they get more exciting as they grow and it gets easier.

Grace - posted on 06/26/2010

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thank u all 4 ur comments u have made me realise that no matter

how hard i`m finding it that this time will go by soooo fast and i need 2 enjoy every second even the stressful ones as there probably the times i`ll look back and laugh at



once again thank u all so much

Rachel - posted on 06/26/2010

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Keeping a SCHEDULE is by far the most important thing. No matter what everyone else wants, your kids come first. My twins are now over two years old, and they still Sleep for 3 hours at nap and around 10 at night. The other very important thing is to keep reminding yourself that this is their first time too. DON'T LET YOURSELF GET FRUSTRATED, because it will only make things worse. Crying is not a bad thing. Every now and then you should LET THEM CRY it out. If they don't get exactly what they want at that exact minute, they will most likely survive a few more. Make sure you and their father, (and any other care takers) are on the same page with everything! Don't tell them not to do something one time, then let it go the next time. Be CONSISTANT! Treat them as INDIVIDUALS as well. They are two different babies with two different personalities. Don't worry about not having enough love, you're heart just gets bigger with every child you have. And don't be afraid to ASK FOR HELP when you need it. Good luck with everything, and just remember...When everyone tells you that time flys by, it's the truth. Enjoy every second that you can with them. You'll never get it back.

Julie - posted on 06/26/2010

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Trust your own instinct not someone else's. If you are not hungry do you eat? Mine refused to feed if woken in the night because his brother had woken for a feed. Try not to worry/stress - housework will wait, if they're sleeping sleep yourself. Re school split them asap - mine are thriving, just because they were born together does not mean they are one person, they are individuals with different personalities, let them develop that, it will help them survive as older kids/adults. Its damned hard at first I went 7months before I had a full nights sleep and a 22 month old too, oh and 2 housemoves in 6months!! Now they're 8 and 10. Accept help wherever you can..
Enjoy and love them!

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