when to separate b/g twins?

Sarah - posted on 11/16/2009

If you are keeping them in the same room then I would take the door off and put up a gate when you go to bed then set your alarm for a half hour before they wake up so you can take down the gate. That way you are up and they aren't roming around.

Sarah - posted on 11/16/2009

I separated my boy/girl twins when they were 4 in their own rooms. They did good.

Julia - posted on 11/16/2009

My twins still share room at 4 1/2 years old. They love eachothers company and they are best friends. The toddler years are such a growing time, emotionally and physically. They are learning at a young age to get along with the other sex.

I have 5 kids total with the girl twin being the only girl in the house. So it's not really optional at this point for her to have her own room.

I am planning on separating them in the next 4-6 months.

Courtney - posted on 11/15/2009

My b/g twins will be 3 in Feb and still share a room. My plans were to separate them at age 4 ( depending on their own thoughts). I dont think there is a right or wrong answer to this question, I think it's got alot to do with each family and different situations. They are in toddler beds. Have been for a while now. My son has his side of the room and my daughter has the other. They really enjoy having each other there and I personally do not look forward to having to split them up.

Heather - posted on 11/14/2009

I put my b/g twins in toddler beds at 2 in the same room. We just moved into a house at that point and felt like it would have been to many changes at once so we kept them together. We put a baby gate at the door so if they got up they couldn't get out. We out them in their own rooms at 3, by then they seemed to want their own space they had their own toys and wanted their privacy.

Ilene - posted on 11/13/2009

Before going on, understand that this post contains MY personal philosophy -- there are many other ways to do things, but this is what feels and seems right to me for my kids.

My g/b twins will be 3 in January. They've been in toddler beds since shortly before their 2nd birthday because the girl would climb out of the crib and land right on her head (personally witnessed this TWICE). Once making the change for her, I felt I had to do it for her brother as well. We put a safety gate on their door to keep them contained (and will do so until they are ready for potty training). I have no intention of separating them into their own rooms anytime soon. I'm already really upset and disappointed because it's looking as though they are going to have to go to separate schools starting on their birthday (they're both autistic) because different programs will address their specific needs.

Lately (last 2 weeks) they've taken to climbing into bed with one another and falling asleep that way. When I head up to bed, I separate them and put them back into their own beds. They have NEVER done that before. But I think it's important to them -- they have a bond that not many others can fully understand.

My personal feeling is that it's important that I do whatever I can to foster that unique relationship. There are many ways that they will be doing their own things, and that's ESPECIALLY true with g/b twins versus same gender where it's more likely they will be sharing friends and interests.

Again, please understand, this is MY philosophy. I'm not faulting any others for feeling differently. But, from what I've seen with my twins, for ME, this is the way to go.

Melanie - posted on 11/13/2009

Mine are 3 1/2 and are still sharing a room (b/g). They love it and so far we have no problems with it. We'll keep the arrangement as is until they are ready for a change. While I haven't found mine sharing a bed I know they have comforted each.

Ciera - posted on 11/12/2009

hmmm...my b/g have been in separate rooms since they were 5 months so i dont know since yours are much older but mine do just fine with it at night and during the day they are TOTALLY inseparable! (they are 9 months)

Sherry - posted on 11/12/2009

My boys stayed together in the same room until they were about 3 1/2, even though we had another bedroom available for them. They saw that their cousin had his own room apart from his brother and then they told me that they wanted their own rooms. So we moved Eddie to the new room. For a couple of weeks, we'd find Eddie in bed with his brother in the morning. Then they were fine with the new arrangement. No worries...they will let you know.

Karen - posted on 11/11/2009

At 19 months they're still babies! Don't worry about it yet - or for a long time, especially if you think one/both is comforted by the other being in the same room and/or neither one's sleep is disrupted because of it. One or both will let you know when she/he is ready to move in alone or your older daughter may want to move in with her younger sister at some point (or vice versa). In many cultures everyone in the family sleeps in the same room all the time. It doesn't lead to inappropriate behavior. Sleeping alone or having one's own room is cultural vs. necessary. Trust your instincts and each of theirs about what each needs.

Karen

Bonnie - posted on 11/10/2009

My twins are boy/girl and Camille I feel your pain. My son was climbing out of his crib by 18 months and the doctor told me that if he could do that I needed to take it down because it had become a danger and no longer a safety item. If he was too tired he could fall while climbing out and hurt himself. And I had to take her's down too or he would use it as a jungle gym. My house is very small so at five years old my twins are still in the same room and they love it. In fact, most nights they even sleep in the same bed. My theory on it is that as long as they are being nice to each other it's fine. They'll get to the point they don't want to be together anymore and hopefully we'll have a bigger house by then but for now, it works for everyone. At under two years old, there is no reason they can't stay in the same room unless it is causing problems. We have tried to seperate mine in hopes they would sleep better but have found that they sleep best when snuggled togethered. So until it becomes an issue of inappropriate behavior or not sleeping, they are welcome to like each other! I'm sure the days of competition and arguing are around the corner so I'm enjoying this while it lasts.

Camille - posted on 11/10/2009

this is something I need advice on to. I have 18 month old b/g twins and i am afraid of leaving them alone in their own room. another thing is at night when they get transfered over to thier toddler beds (which i am still deciding on when that will be because my girl is climbing out of her crib every chance she gets) i do not want them roaming the house. they are really close so it is a big decision to make!!