Why do women get away with it and men don't

Cora - posted on 11/14/2011

there is a court order in place, this isn't the first time. But I do see your point, I just don't want any specific details out there. I'll just say she is refusing to pay and our judical system in my state is lacking in what should be done about it. Last time it was brought into court she was crying ti was too much and she had quit her job just before it was to be presented to the judge. The said it was her fault and that was where it was left....She can't hold a job because she is avery unstable person to begin with, claims it's because she is insecure or whatever else she thinks she can say to get the oh poor me card.
Bu like I said I do see your point.

Jane - posted on 11/14/2011

There is a lot more to it than that. Each case has many factors involved, which you are not listing here.

In our state, any parent who is in arrears can have their paycheck docked by the state to make up the amount owed and will have it taken out automatically from then on. In order for this to happen, however, there must be a court order requiring the payment, and there must be proof that the payment has not been made. An informal agreement to pay child support does not count.

Also, how often the state has had to intervene matters. If one person habitually is in arrears and has been contacted before, then jail might be the next step that has to happen. But if a person has been paying, but is in arrears for the first time, jail is not the next step yet.

You don't give all the details so it is impossible to compare these two examples.

Cora - posted on 11/14/2011

here's an example....say father is $200.00 in back support they threaten to throw him in jail...Mother is $4,000.00 in back support they don't care...how is that being treated equal?

Cora - posted on 11/14/2011

Not with in mine....maybe it's the state you live in...but either way one should want to make sure the children or child is taken care of and not act like there's no big deal for not paying what you are required to

Jane - posted on 11/14/2011

In my experience they are treated equally. However, it is often a more acute situation when the dad doesn't pay because even with EEOC legislation and women's rights, men generally make more money than women.