Two years this March

Pati - posted on 02/26/2009

I lost both my parents and my father in law in 97. At the time I was 33 and went from being the baby of 11 to an orphan and I was lost. Completly lost without my mom. I will never be the same.

Brenda - posted on 02/22/2009

I lost my mother in 2001, and now it has been two years since I lost my mother in law (who I was probably almost as close to as my own mother) and I know how you feel.  It feels strange and surreal at times, and it is almost like no time has passed, but other times it feels like it has been ten years since either of them passed away.

Tara - posted on 02/19/2009

After having my daughter I gained a greater understanding and respect for the position of parent, not necessarily for mine.  I didn't get to know my mom, I was young.  My dad on the other hand, was physically there.  Since I've had children I have used what I experienced with my parents to provide the best environment that I can imagine and/or am capable of.  I think that we, as mothers, take all the good and all the bad into consideration with our own children.  I think the most important thing we can share with the kids is love, however we come to it.  I don't have many good stories to tell mine about grandparents.  I can show her how much I love her and not only will she be led to believe that all parents love so much, she will also not worry about going through the heartaches I've had.  It often makes me feel better to give the love and attention that I miss out on.  Just knowing that my little angels are loved makes me feel less 'left'...if you know what I mean.  Mine are little right now, and don't ask too many questions though.  I'm sure I'll be forced to 'give up the goods' at some point.  lol

Tanya - posted on 02/19/2009

After having my daughter, I've gained a greater understanding and respect for my own parents. My father and I were not close until my early 20's and not long after he died from cancer. It's not an experience I wish on anyone! I didn't get the closure I needed from him because I was to scared to discuss it with dad. With mom..I did. I have made a point of telling stories and showing old pictures to my daughter to keep their memory alive. It helps.

Tara - posted on 02/17/2009

My dad is still around (somewhere), but it's a huge transition when you loose someone in your family.  Even more so if you're close with the person or have children to consider.  I know that all my issues with my parents have changed or intencified since I've had children.