Surviving Twin

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Hello. I lost my son's twin at 15 weeks, we had been to several ultrasounds and all were fine, then one day Baby B didn't have a heart beat and within 2 weeks it was gone. I find it very strange because B was always the bigger fetus and seemed healthier according to the doctor. The hardest part was having to have ultrasounds everyday until B was gone. We literally had to watch our child break apart and disappear right before our eyes. But it was a true blessing to watch Leyland grow healthy and be able to deliver him. Our son is a very healthy baby and is doing great. He was born June 5, 2008. When I delivered the other fetus' parts had attached to my insides and caused severe hemorrhaging. I wanted to tell my story and was curious to hear others and to see how your little ones are doing. We have all of the ultrasound pictures of the twins hanging in our house and one of them over our sons crib. We hope that one day he will understand that he had a twin.

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Myona - posted on 09/05/2012

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I posted here over 2 years ago about losing my son's twin at 25 weeks. well Aydan is 4 now and i also have a 16 month old son now. I am happy and i am so glad we had Judah i feel like God heard my prayers and gave me my son back. he may not have been born at the same time as his brother but he is here now, i call it taking a detour..he decided to come later. God is Good ladies and he does answer your prayers. And even though losing a baby is hard your body knows things we don't, raising a special needs kid is no easy task, I should know i have 5 kids and my 15 yr old son is special needs and it is a super challenge everyday. God bless all of you :D

Alisia - posted on 08/31/2012

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I know this is an older post, but I'm pregnant with my 3rd baby. When I found out we were expecting in May, my husband, my 4 year old, and myself had a feeling it was twins. My daughter was actually the one who insisted I was pregnant and she kept saying there were 2 babies. Between 6 and 7 weeks I started cramping and spotting. I was sitting down about to call our ob when I felt a gush. I ran to the bathroom and saw blood on my underwear. I immediately called the doctor. The doctor only sent me for blood work and said get more blood drawn after 2 days.



I was furious she didn't do more and I insisted on an ultrasound. I had to wait a full week before finally getting the ultrasound. That's when we found out I was indeed having twins, but was miscarrying one. The doctor had me wait another month to see if the baby had completely come out. At 12 weeks it was confirmed our other baby was gone.



I'm now 18 weeks and waiting for our next ultrasound. It's very bittersweet. I keep having dreams that I'm still carrying twins and even had a dream that when we got to our next ultrasound, both babies were there! I am grateful we have one baby on the way, but I can't help but to feel sad for the baby we lost, the baby I won't get to feel kick, won't get to watch move on the ultrasound screen, the one we won't ever get to hold. I also can't help but feel nervous about our baby we are waiting for. I feel so nervous something might happen to this baby too. So for now I'm really just praying for the best and I'm really anxious for our next ultrasound. I just want to see for myself that our baby is growing and strong.

Melissa - posted on 04/13/2013

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I know where youre daughter is comming from. I was a twin. My mother misscarried my sister or brother. We did not know the sex but belive the twim was female and her name would of been Elizabeth. My daughters name is Eliza-Beth. I named her after my gram whos name is Eliza and after my twin whos name would of been Elizabeth. My mothers mom was carrying a twin with my mom and when I was carrying my daughter I misscarryied her twin. I do go through life of feeling a sence of loss and a feeling as something is missing and at times I feel her near and talk to her.

Alisia - posted on 09/06/2012

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Camille, I really hope everything works out well for you and that both babies thrive. It's not an easy situation to deal with when you lose one, at least not for me. I hope you update us after your ultrasound.

Camille - posted on 09/05/2012

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This is such an interesting thread and i'm really glad to read that what i'm going through isn't uncommon. I have just had my first ever ultrasound and they tell me i'm carrying twins. There were two clear heart beats beating away madly however one is 8 weeks 5 days while the other is only 6 weeks 2 days. I'm not sure how that works but the Doctor has told me to remain optimistic. Something tells me that that's a fairly large gap in time so as much as i want to get my hopes up, i know i can't. I am left waiting for two more weeks so the next ultrasound can tell me what might be happening. I find myself somewhat stressed (obviously) and a little sad because i was so happy to hear i was pregnant and now all this twin business has taken the shine off it. Don't get me wrong i would be over the moon if i had twins but knowing there is a possibility something may very well die inside me soon...well it's overwhelming.

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Claire - posted on 03/27/2014

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It's so interesting reading everyone's stories. I had vanishing twin after nine weeks but didn't find out until my 20 week scan that one of the babies had died. I was devastated because I was already resigned to the fact that I was going to have twins. The other twin my daughter Jessica turned 22 today. She has been a nightmare to raise and has been an angry emotionally affected child from day 1. I always wondered whether some how the loss affected her.

JESCA - posted on 04/23/2013

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HI am new member here, am currently having the same problem, i was caring twins, not sharing placenta, on my 19 weeks scan showed that baby b no heart beat and fetal movement. baby A is doing fine, currently am 22 weeks, is any one who had the same situation and deliver safely. Kindly assist as i cant stop worrying.

Rachel - posted on 01/02/2013

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My daughter who is 5 years old, told my mother a week ago that she had a sister. My mother asked her how she knew this and my daughter told her she just did.

Now that you know this, I lost her twin at 3 months in utero. In the last two years, my daughter has told me a couple times that she HAS a sister. I always wondered how she knew about this because she was never told about the other child. My husband and I never knew the sex of the twin.

I am so glad that I ran across this forum you have all help me feel like I am not the only one dealing with this.

Alisia - posted on 09/28/2012

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Camille, glad you're doing well and your baby is thriving. Thanks for the update.



Elizabeth, it's so interesting that your daughter says that. My oldest daughter actually told me we were having twins before we knew and the morning I started bleeding, she told me one baby died. She said it about 10 minutes before I started bleeding. I was so overwhelmed when she said it to me and it really upset me. Now, I look at her and think sometimes kids just know. She's been extremely intuitive this whole pregnancy with everything. She even said the surviving baby was a girl and sure enough we are expecting our 3rd girl.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/25/2012

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I too had a vanishing twin....was there at 5 & 8 week ultrasounds but gone by week 10. I have had mixed feelings about the whole thing until now. My now 4yr old daughter keeps telling me that her sister died when she was a baby and they never got to meet. I am freaked out and wonder what the heck she's talking about. She blurted out the other night that the sister in my belly died...i was speechless. How the hell could she know that....my husband and I have never told her about baby B before. So strange!!! Anyone else have this 'situation' before???

Camille - posted on 09/23/2012

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Just an update, the ultrasound came back showing one happy healthy baby and no trace of a twin pregnancy. Such a relief to finally know one way or the other and the sadness i thought i would feel wasn't there at all when i saw baby's little arms and legs waving about madly. As my friends all said, nature know's best. Thanks for your support ladies :)

Aimie - posted on 09/08/2012

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I had twins in my first pregnancy and my second pregnancy I was certain it was twins again, My sickness was just as bad if not worse than the first time round. I had my first scan and it turned out I was 5 weeks. There was the healthy baby and what the sonographer would only refer to as a bleed, they gave me no explanations abut this "bleed" but they measured it and asked me to come back in a week later for another scan to see how it was doing. my baby is now 4 years old and to this day I still wonder if that "Bleed" was a twin.

Camille - posted on 09/05/2012

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Thanks Myona, i'm sure nature will run it's course and everything will play out as it is supposed to. You've put my mind at ease.

LaKrysia - posted on 05/21/2012

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Thank you for sharing. That is what I am going through right now. I am trying to remain hopeful but the fact of the matter is I my other twin could have vanished. I am very emotional right now. I don't know what to feel or how to feel. My spouse keeps saying that he still feels we are having twins. Dr contradicted US by saying there were never two and ultrasound was mistranslated so I'm really confused on how there were two fetal poles with in one sac with separate measurements but now he's saying US was mistranslated. SO LOST

Myona - posted on 10/12/2010

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my son Aydan was an identical twin born 8-12-08...When i went infor my 25 week check-up she started the ultrasound then turn the machine off and left the room..i knew something was wrong but didnt know what..then she told me to get dressed and got to the last room down the hallway my doctor wanted to talk to me..i started to panic...i came in and he closed the door..his face was red and his eyes watery...he said sweetie i am so sorry but it looks like twin b passed away a few days ago..i burst into tears..he told me i needed to come in every week for the next 13 weeks, which i did and it was the longest 13 weeks of my life..i stayed strong but i was dying inside...finally i went into labor and gave birth to Aydan who was very healthy..and then15 mins later i gave birth to twin b who was wisked away and i never saw him.. his name was Alex and i miss him very much still to this day...Aydan is 2 years old now and bouncing around the house like a wild animal, but sometimes i cant help but wonder what it would have been like with 2 of them running around....

Heather - posted on 09/10/2010

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I had dreams right after I found out I was pregnant. The first one was that I was having twins, quads to be exact. Then two weeks later, right before our first doctors appointment, I had a dream that I had miscarried one. It really made me freak out. When we went to the doctors she told me I felt like there was more than one baby, and I pushed for an ultrasound. She looked at me like I was crazy. Three days later I had my ultrasound. The tech didn't say anything to us for a long time, and I got the worried vibe from her. Then all of a sudden she put the heart beat sound on, and asked what my doctor had said at my appointment. So I told her, and I also told her about my dreams. Before she even showed us the screen she told me that I was extremely in tune with my body. She turned the screen showing us our now healthy baby girl, which was where the heart beat was coming from. Then she shifted the wand and showed us the other gestational sack. The other child was there but not visible to us because it stopped growing at 6 1/2 weeks and I was now 8 weeks. My dreams were right. The tech told me about Vanishing Twin Syndrome and I started to research it. Then my dreams stopped until about week 12 when I started to dream of miscarrying again. The following week I started to bleed and went for a check up because I feared that I was losing my daughter. The doctor told me it was my body releasing the other baby. We have that first ultrasound picture, which has our daughter labels at fetus B so when she gets old enough to understand we can give it to her and explain to her that she was a twin and that her sibling will always be watching over her.

Laura - posted on 02/18/2010

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Mine hasnt vanished yet!
Baby B stopped growing at 6 weeks and 5 days. Ive just had a 14 week scan, and Baby A is doing great, Baby B is still their, no hart beat, just a grey smudge in quite a big sac for a 0.6cm fetus.
No spotting or abnormal cramps.
I guess it will just come out with the placenta at Baby A's birth

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i find this all so heartbreaking. i have twins b/g 18 months old. i found out i was pregnant at an early scan at just 5 weeks, i had to go back at 7 weeks because they could only detect a sac so they didnt no whether it was a pregnancy forming or the beginning of a miscarriage. that two weeks was hell for me. at my 7 weeks scan they found 2 heartbeats which was a complete shock and surprise for me as there is no twins in either family. i was then told that i could lose one before 12 weeks which was called vanishing twin syndrome. i was on tender hooks until my 12th week scan, but was very blessed to still have both my babies. although i knew i was out of the "danger zone" i panicked throughout the entire pregnancy and just wanted it to be over and have them home with me safe and well. i had geared myself up for the worse tho and kept telling myself that if i had lost one it would be for a reason.
my heart goes out to all woman that have lost a twin x

Sami - posted on 01/12/2010

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I was supposed to be a twin. My mother didn't tell me this until I told her I was pregnant with twins! Then when I told my Dr. about it he told me about vanishing twin syndrome. Evidently I was the stronger of the two. But after I learned about my twin it made my entire life make more sense. I always felt like something was "missing", and now I know why! I am glad you plan on telling your son about his twin, it will make a lot of things in his life make sense if he knows.

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I felt at some points of your story that I was reading my own. It was so scary at delivery because I delivered just fine and then bam I was rushed to the OR and was in surgery all day. I lost a ton of blood and Had to receive 6 units of blood back. My son was born at 959 am that day. I didnt get to meet him until almost 5 oclock that day.

Danielle - posted on 09/08/2009

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I lost my daughters twin at only 5 weeks, which is a lot different then most people. I discovered I was pregnant as soon as I missed my cycle. I don't know how most peoples experiences were, but I bled and bled bad. The whole month of February 2008 I bled. I went to the doctor at 5 months and since it was so early neither baby could be detected. They told me I probably got a false result on the pregnancy test and it was just blighted ovum. They sent me to get all kinds of bloodwork done and return the following week. The one thing that you could see was a line going thru the ultrasound picture. The doctor said it was wierd, that that typically showed up with twins. When I went they had a specialist doing sonograms, so I guess he didn't have much experience with that. He had some portable machine. The following week I came in and the specialist did the ultrasound. That was the first time I same my lil lima bean. The line was still present but gotten smaller. I was in no pain just bleeding really bad. The specialist told me I was in fact pregnant with twins and one just wasn't strong enough. I wasn't very far along, so I really can't say what I was feeling because I thought I was only pregnant with one baby to begin with. I was overwhelmed with emotion grateful I still had one little one growing inside of me, yet sad that it could have been two. By the end of February all the bleeding had stopped and when I went for 8 week ultrasound the line was almost completely gone. I had a very great pregnancy in the begininng the only thing scared me was that I might lose my little Lima bean. At 31 weeks I had severe pain in my stomach. My husband took me to the hospital. They did a NST and there was nothing abnormal. I went to the Dr. immediately after at which point I noticed that my weight had dropped 2 pounds and my stomach measured two inches smaller then it should. The Dr's said it was nothing. I went for my next check up the next week and I had not gained any weight. The dr. told me to come in twice a week for ultrasounds and go to the hospital for NST's until I delivered. Every week the baby was hardly gaining any weight. She may have gained 2 ounces in 4 weeks. At 35 weeks the doctor said he wanted to induce me that night, or I could go to Johns Hopkins for a second opinion. He didn't want me to be stuck in traffic and full of worry, so he called the specialist at johns hopkins and they told him to wait until I was 36 weeks. A week later on September 4, I was induced. On September 5, I gave birth to a healthy 5 pound 1 ounce baby girl. Within a half hr of delivering I was rushed to the OR. The placenta wouldn't come out, so they had to operate. Apparently the placenta grew into my uterus causing her to be IUGR. I almost died that day. I remember getting really hot yet feeling cold and wanting some ice water. I remember being in and out of conscious asking for my baby. I lost a lot of blood that night. I was returned to my room 3 hrs later. I couldn't feel anything from the waist down. They wouldn't let me sit up because of the blood transfusion. At 1:00 am I was finally done getting transfusions, and at 6 am I could feel my legs again. I barely let my little girl out of my arms for the remainder of the hospital stay. She just turned one and she is a very intelligent normal little girl. I am so blessed to have her, but I oftern wonder what if there were two, and what would the other baby be, how would I decorate the rooms, and how would they get along. I don't have an answer to these questions other then it just wasn't mean't to be!

Kelly - posted on 07/19/2009

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This happened to me 2 with our 3rd son....I'd never even heard of it before....I started bleeding at 7 weeks so went to hospital for a scan to check everything was ok and was asked if there was a history of twins in our family which there aren't, I was told there were 2 sacs....one had a heart beat but the other didnt, so I was told to come back a week later for another scan because a) it could of been that it wasn't as developed as the other sac and that it would develop into a healthy baby or b) it was a vanishing twin, which I was told was the more likely of the 2 the options as I was bleeding.

Anyway after a very worrying week I went back to the hospital to find find out that it was a vanishing twin...I had very mixed emotions at the time but decided to think of what happened as not a baby I had lost (as it had never really developed that far) and more of, it was never meant to have been, I was just happy that the other baby was ok.

A couple of weeks before this all even happened i'd had a very vivid dream about having twins....it would of been very nice to have twins but im just so glad that my son was born healthy.

I had a very bad pregnancy with him and ended up going into premature labour with him but hes doing fantastic and has never had any problems.

Kelly - posted on 07/19/2009

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This happened to me 2 with our 3rd son....I'd never even heard of it before....I started bleeding at 7 weeks so went to hospital for a scan to check everything was ok and was asked if there was a history of twins in our family which there aren't, I was told there were 2 sacs....one had a heart beat but the other didnt, so I was told to come back a week later for another scan because a) it could of been that it wasn't as developed as the other sac and that it would develop into a healthy baby or b) it was a vanishing twin, which I was told was the more likely of the 2 the options as I was bleeding.

Anyway after a very worrying week I went back to the hospital to find find out that it was a vanishing twin...I had very mixed emotions at the time but decided to think of what happened as not a baby I had lost (as it had never really developed that far) and more of, it was never meant to have been, I was just happy that the other baby was ok.

A couple of weeks before this all even happened i'd had a very vivid dream about having twins....it would of been very nice to have twins but im just so glad that my son was born healthy.

I had a very bad pregnancy with him and ended up going into premature labour with him but hes doing fantastic and has never had any problems.

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