Alienation by Step parent

DeeDee - posted on 06/14/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I know step parenting is a big responsibility and its the thought that counts rather than the actual actions. No parent biological or step is perfect. However where do you draw the line when your children are being forced to call another woman "MoM", and the father allows that woman to call you a bad mother in front of your children, How do you handle being called by your name rather than Mommy and so many other things. When in the last year the father has made no attempt to allow you to see your children after running off with them and the step mother makes decisions according to your childrens well being that you feel is more damaging than helpful. I really need some advice as to handle this.

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Bri - posted on 09/19/2011

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very sad to hear!!! i would get a therapist and prove it like i did with my dd5 1/2

Kyleigh - posted on 09/19/2011

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So sad people do this to their children in the long run it bites them in the end

DeeDee - posted on 06/16/2010

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I appreciate everyone's input and I apologize if at any point I seem irrate or anything other than appreciative. This is such a hard thing for me to have to deal with. And everyones help is extremely wanted.

DeeDee - posted on 06/16/2010

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Its worse than that, She makes all decisions about medical care, and alot I don't agree with, she and my ex make excuses for thier lack of informing me of educational issues, on all paperwork she states that she is their mom, We have joint custody and I am only allowed information regarding anything. This woman has my children on a daily routine of a laxitive, complains if she does not get her way and I have no say in anything, I have documentation of her calling me a bad mom infront of my kids. Telling my kids I am not their mom and my ex, Don't even get me started. He is a horrible man, he has little to do with these kids she controls everything.

Di - posted on 06/16/2010

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Hi Dee Dee, I feel for you. There are so many wrongs that are done with children from broken relationships that its criminal really. I cant tell you how to handle this. I wish I could give you some advice. The other parents (please don't take offence to that) are deff doing the wrong thing. The worst thing that you can do to a child is to try and alienate the other parents, and especially if the other parent is bio. Usually the child resents the person that is doing it. You said it yourself, she forces them, its not out of love that they call her mom. It sounds more like out of fear. In the end it doesn't matter because they know the truth. Don't underestimate that bond that you and you alone have with your children. No other woman will ever be as good. No other woman will ever love them like you do. They know that deep within their hearts and nothing that she does can change that. Trust in that. Good luck.

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You don't need a lawyer to go after custodial interference, or to even take him to court. It's usually more difficult to do yourself, but it can be done. You might be able to see if anyone might be willing to do your case probono. Good luck!

DeeDee - posted on 06/15/2010

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I can't afford attorney and have documentation of everything but the courts said its a he/she said issue. I ordered a Home study. Hoping that things work out. I am so lost because I took care of these kids all but the last yr and a half when he ran off with them and got married. I had them on my own and got no help from him and now I am fighting for my life just to be a part of my babies lives. But I appreciate you taking the time to read this and for your wishes. You have no idea how much it means to hear some sort of support.

Amber-Dawn - posted on 06/14/2010

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Go to the courts. Get yourself a good lawyer, and if you guys have joint custody, or he has full, fight for sole-custody. Document everything that happens to use in court. It sounds like these two aren't very fit parents. Good luck hun.

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