Anyone else with a husband who works from home and drives you crazy?
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Mrs Omg Im Going - posted on 12/12/2013
My hubs started working from home 3 years ago and it's slowly killing me. He NEVER leaves. I run all the errands, take care of the baby, the pets, the farm animals, the cleaning, and the cooking. He often sleeps in, he watches tv while I cook lunches and dinners, and when he is supposed to be watching our daughter. I work part time, but am thinking of getting another part time job just to get away, but I'm nervous because I know I'll still have to do the same amount of house and farm chores. He got a bunch of farm animals, without my permission, I think, to make sure I am always working when he is, he frequently complains about having to do all the "hard things," like taxes and paying bills and cutting firewood. Meanwhile, I'm having sex with him nearly everyday, when I never want it. THAT is the hardest thing of all!!! Things just revolve around him, because he is manipulative and bossy. When I want to leave to see a friend, he's like, "don't you have a lot of work to do around here?" He recently forbid me, on my way out the door, from meeting a friend, after I had asked him every day for the previous week if I could still meet her. I fantasize about living alone with my toddler...she's a hundred percent easier to take care of. How do you deal with a selfish spouse who makes debating with them not worth it, because they are so mean? It's not practical for him to get an office space. I need some tips ladies!
Michelle - posted on 11/23/2008
OMG, YES! Mine is so annoying! He makes a mess and is ALWAYS in my face! I started working full time away from the house and it's a relief to get away from him, but when I get home..he's always there waiting for dinner and then I have to clean up, cook and get the kids ready for bed...he relaxes. What's up with that???
User - posted on 04/09/2013
My husband has been working from home for the past 6 years. He's a good guy, doesn't complain about my sitting on the couch from time to time, he does his share of housework, all is good there, but when I ask him if he could leave for a minimum of 1 hour per day just so I can have some peace, he is totally confused. He does not understand why I need this time ALONE IN MY HOUSE. His office is private and he is not bothered by the kids' noise. I'm having trouble finding a way to describe to him why I need some total alone time in the house. I don't think I'm asking too much. I work part time, so I leave him along a LOT. He just drives me NUT sometimes him being there ALL THE TIME. No friends, no hobbies out of the house, just there. Our gas bill by the way is nearly nill, as he drives 3 miles a week to take the kids to school one day per week when I have to work. HELP!
Lisa - posted on 01/27/2009
Oh yes I do! He used to rent office space but became very expensive, so now he works from home. I have been a stay at home mom for 14 years, my youngest just started school and I was looking forward to being home alone to find "me" again. My husband drives me crazy! He wants to know what Im doing, who I am taking on the phone with and when am I getting to the laundry. My beautiful bedroom has turned into grand central! Files, Computers, Desks, Papers, Fax machine, and so much more. I should probably go back to work just to get away!
Suzy - posted on 09/10/2012
Yes mine has our whole married life. It only really bothered me when we had kids their now teens. I have worked part time for a number of years which has helped He is still annoyg on my days off and makes comments like ' are you enjoying your day off' etc. Even when I' m doing his washing etc. you really need defined spaces for it to work but I think but overall its not that great for a marriage but does save money. So way up the pros and cons first.
Lisa - posted on 11/20/2008
Oh, I'm sorry to hear how frustrated you must be. At least it's only temporary, right? Plus, you've got hormones flowin through ya that haven't been there before, so that's a whole nother ball of wax. That's too bad he asks more out of you, and isn't willing to do those things for you. You need it with just having a baby!
User - posted on 11/19/2008
Yes! I'm home on maternity leave so there is no avoiding him. It's like when he's busy you're invisible and the baby is distracting...he says leave me alone I'm too busy to help you what would you do if I wasn't here. But if he needs (wants) something and you are near by he has the nerve to say while you're up honey,could you get me another coffee?
While I'm up!? I haven't been sitting down but yes please let me add one more task to my day. Then to add insult to injury when he does finally decide to get something for himself he makes a mess in 2 minutes that will take me the next 15 to clean up. He'd never get away with such bad behavior away from home.
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