Nicole - posted on 10/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
i gave birth almost a month ago, and i'm so happy with my little girl. she's so sweet and is always making me smile.
but my relationship is kinda on the rocks. it's been so rocky with the both of us since we barely sleep anymore. i find us arguing more at night when haylee wakes up to be fed (every 3-4 hours). we have stupid little arguments in the day, but at night they've gotten to the point where i don't want to be around him because he pissed me off pretty badly.
he works full time, usually from 12pm to 9pm or from 730am to 430pm. i'm usually the one that gets up at night to feed her (he helps here and there but on the days he works really early in the morning, i tell him that i'll get up and do it since he has to work) or change her diaper. he's got a great relationship with haylee and she clearly loves her daddy, but OUR relationship isn't going too great. on his days off he tells me to relax and take time to myself. how can i do that when we all share one room together? i don't want to sleep during the day because i actually WANT to spend the time with him on his days off. i find myself snapping at him over the smallest things and of course hes going to get defensive, but i get even more pissed when it happens. i know he works, but a little more help would be nice. we've talked about it, but no matter what it's like we fight. every issue we have we fight over it. i know it's because we don't sleep anymore, and well, i JUST had this baby three weeks ago.
a couple nights ago we had a big fight, but talked it out when we had time to ourselves. it made things better. we barely have time together because he works 5-6 days a week and then haylee is up until late and is in our room. we're moving in march of next year so maybe when she has her own room it'll help?? my mom helps a lot too. she understands that we need time to ourselves so we can start going out once a week by ourselves while she watches haylee. i just recovered from giving birth so i can actually start going out again. it's only been three weeks and i feel like the relationship is going to be damaged.
basically, i just need some advice::
i know this is all from sleep deprivation and lack of time spent together, but how long until your relationship got better ladies? after how long until things started to get better? what can we do to make the relationship stronger again? i don't want this relationship to end, i love him so much...advice please?