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Amber - posted on 12/26/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I am 20 years old, turning 21 January 29th,2011. I have twin girls to whom i became pregnant with at 16 and gave birth too at 17 and then had another daughter 7 months ago. 20 years old, 3 kids seems like a handful,it's about to get harder. I have just found out i am 10 weeks pregnant! i'm scared and alone. I don't know what's up with me but i have a tendency to choice men who don't want to stick around! it makes me feel like some sort of bad person! i'll have 4 kids, with 3 different fathers, all whom didn't stick around. It's not like i sleep around i just date and then this happens i can't even believe i let this happen. But then i look at my daughters faces and know that a beautiful child is coming from this dump of a situation,and even though i might be called a slut i love my girls and unborn child more than life itself!

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Sharlene - posted on 05/14/2012

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This thread is from 2010 ladies

Mardi - posted on 05/09/2012

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Thank god fresh air and parks are free.......

Time to get your birth control sorted out, quick smart. Next, do some personal developement to improve your choice in men, make some choices and stick to them......that flutter of love instinct isn't working too well for you at the moment, so I'd look into other choices.

Your not the first person to get yourself into this position, you wont be the last. Your obviously very trusting and while thats lovely, its not working too well for you. The next man that comes into your life has to be there for a long time before you even take that next step. If he can respect the position your in, he can respect your need to take your time and tread cautiously, not like you havent been burnt before.

Beth - posted on 04/17/2012

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All I can say is stay strong and look to the future. Show your children how to take responsibility and be a good role model for them. Look at doing courses so that you can improve your education and also qualifications. Like it's been said before - look at improving your birth control situation, so no new additions appear to your family until you are ready for them.



You are obviously a strong woman, who is capable of bringing up your children. Make sure that you also have some form of support network as well, which could be family and friends. Provide opportunities for your children where possible and together work as a team for the future.

Tera - posted on 03/05/2012

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I think you are a strong, resilient, beautiful person, whom can turn your situation into something good.



Ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering. There are cracks in everything. It's how the light gets in.

Christy - posted on 12/27/2010

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Goodness you do have a lot on your plate!

Do you have family that can help you out at all? Can you get a higher education so you can provide for your children (if you don't have one already)? There are grants out there for single moms to go back to school.

Don't depend on anyone besides yourself at this point- AND in the future. Even if you think you have found "the one", make sure you are using birth control so you can plan ahead better without additional babies.

Good luck and message me anytime. :)

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