Mom - posted on 04/29/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
I have raised my children since birth, however, I have raised my stepson since he was 8. He has an extremely difficult mother. She is addicted to drugs and alcohol, however, now she says she is sober--we'll never know. The stepson lives with us full time and he is scheduled to see his mother 3 weeks a year. He just now saw her for 4 days, but hadn't seen her for a year and half before that. She is awful and evil, but that is not the big issue. The big issue is the stepson. He lies, he says horrible things about us. He doesn't try at school, we are kind to him. We are firm and set expectations for school, but he is the only child who doesn't care. We haven't seen or spoken to my husband's mother for over two years because the boy lied to them and said horrible things we don't even know about. She won't tell us what he said and neither will he. He did say that he said we were the worst parents ever. What ever was actually said I guess we will never know. He lies to our friends and said we beat him--so not true. We don't hit our children. They have consequences like the lose video games or something along those lines, but nothing physical whatsoever. This is so discouraging. Please help--any advice would be so helpful. Thank you.