how to handle exhusbands live in girlfriend....????

Sharlene - posted on 06/12/2012

Speak to your ex and explain to him that she cant touch or spank your children at all, Do you have a court order or documents.

Josephine - posted on 05/29/2012

I am nineteen and first off I would not date a thirty year old man with kids, but that aside. You should talk to her and let her know that just because she is with your ex husband that does not mean your kids are hers. You need to make it clear that it is not okay to spank your kids and that the only two people that should be correcting the kids should be your ex husband and yourself. She is young and probably thinks she has the right to do that kind of stuff but let her know she doesn't. You should probably talk to both of them together so that they both understand how you feel. I would be angry if someone hit my child, I can only imagine how you feel. I hope I helped.

Josephine - posted on 05/29/2012

I am nineteen and first off I would not date a thirty year old man with kids, but that aside. You should talk to her and let her know that just because she is with your ex husband that does not mean your kids are hers. You need to make it clear that it is not okay to spank your kids and that the only two people that should be correcting the kids should be your ex husband and yourself. She is young and probably thinks she has the right to do that kind of stuff but let her know she doesn't. You should probably talk to both of them together so that they both understand how you feel. I would be angry if someone hit my child, I can only imagine how you feel. I hope I helped.

Cynthia - posted on 05/29/2012

I agree w/Shada. Really good answer

Shada - posted on 05/29/2012

You should really talk to both of them about this. No matter how frusterating or nerve racking this may be, communication is important. It is important that the gf knows what is acceptable and what is not when it comes to your kids. I would also explain that you dont care how she raises her kids but you do care how she raises yours. I would just explain this and see if you get anywhere. If not then you may have to talk to your exhusband about him seeing the kids without her there.