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is the big D the wat way to go?

Amy - posted on 05/03/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

I am in a marriage that I'm not to happy with, but do still love him.
we have been together for 5 yrs and married 4 yrs in June. He is an alcoholic.

I have let him know that I do NOT like the way he is towards me when he drinks, and that everything he wants to do involve drinking. he puts me down on how I parent our kids he wants to "Beat our daughters a$$" every little thing she does. she is 10 yrs old. I don't feel that is the answer. our 3yrs old is a smart mouth and I have tried everything when I am at my limit my husband does nothing to help in this area. I won't get in to my what happens with my SS. all I can say is "don't rock that boat".

Confronting him with this is like running in to a brick wall!!!

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Julie D. - posted on 05/12/2012

Get yourself to an Al-Anon meeting as soon as possible. Google Al-Anon. They're specifically for people dealing with an alcoholic spouse. They have experience with exactly your sort of situation. Do it for yourself & your family to help u feel like your life is less chaotic.

Beth - posted on 05/04/2012

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It is worth giving him the ultimatium - either change his ways or you and the children will leave. It is tough being a single parent, but better to be a single parent with the children rather than being in an abusive relationship.

With your 3 year old, he may be picking up on what he hears and repeating it as he knows that gets a reaction.

Do what is best for you and your children. At the moment, it sounds like you will all be better off without him in your lives until he acknowledges and deals with his alcohol dependancy.