Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/15/2011 ( 37 moms have responded )
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My children were removed frrom our care by cps and they are refusing to give my children back. We are being falsly accused of neglect.Any words of wisdom will help.We have been yhrough alot this year and dont even have money to fight them our church is helping a little but still no attorney.
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Joann - posted on 03/28/2013
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My name is Joann Blackwell I have a mentally challenge 13y/o step-son who got himself in trouble on the school van big trouble. My husband and I did believe Vincent did wrong so for the first 8 months in the system we didn't make waves .now a year latter with no sign of reunification near and only seeing him one hour supervised visits every two weeks we are stuck in the system and paying 1200 dollars a month.
Kathryn - posted on 01/10/2013
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I'm with Clair on this one. There is more to this situation, than the OP is telling us. Most likely the causes would be one parent is mentally unstable, or a registered sex offender. The state of the home is disgusting. Some people don't know how disgusting their home is, if they have always lived that way. Too many pets which are also uncared for. The children are dirty and unkempt.. Evidence of drug or alcohol abuse. Smoking around children with medical issues. Domestic violence..neighbours hearing screaming all the time, whether at kids or each other.Leving the children unattended.
Hopefully the best interests of the children are taken care of first. If any of the above issues apply to you, this is the time to get your act together.
Elizabeth - posted on 12/16/2012
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Let me clatify. My son was born with a major heart defect, i never even got to bring him home from the hospital. In WI if they charge you with neglect on one child they have to on all and i had an older daughter. I lost my son to to the foster system but I was able to keep my daughter. He died 2 months before my hearing to get him home
Elizabeth - posted on 12/16/2012
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I live in WI and certian charges will quilify for a free lawyer from the state that you will have to pay back at a later time. You can see if they have that program where u live. I was charged with neglect also.
Mom - posted on 12/01/2012
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I worked my case plan, I toed the line, and still my baby is being taken away from me. "Evidence" have been falsified, egregious lies have been told, all because a school social worker wants to adopt my daughter!
Remember, you ARE NOT those kid's mother, you are a kidnapper! Those children you stole had a mother! I hope your stolen children were old enough to remember their mother when you stole them, and they remind you of who you really are: A KIDNAPPER!
Madea - posted on 10/24/2012
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Claire.... I rally hope you don't ever have to bite your tongue like I did. I was always one who would say the things you did and even worse about the mothers who "refused to look at the real picture"..... till I became one of them. Theyre not full of sh*t, blowing things up or being melodramatic. This is all for real. The "system" is a dirty legal human trafficking business.
Jamie - posted on 10/22/2012
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Returning from a neurosurgeon's appointment, I was early picking up my 2 boys. My husband works for an agency, and we had just been transfered one county over, so I sought change of visitation through Family Court Services, as the drive would be too long to not adjust the visitation schedule somehow. While at the office, I was informed, unintentionally, that my children had been given by the court - that day - full temp custody to my ex-boyfriend, who had kicked us out 6 years prior! He claimed child abuse. He counseled the children into repeating his story to CPS. CPS filed NO CHARGES. Meanwhile, a nasty ambulance chasing ex-DA, working pro-bono, filed charges against me and got the court to grant a change of custody - without any help from CPS. I have spent over $20k, cashed in my retirement, and I still cry most nights for my children. I love and miss them more than anything else in my life. Our justice system is not just, nor is it fair, quick, or reliable. Turns out the investigator for the court system used to snort coke with my ex-boyfriend 20+ yrs ago. It's a good-ol'-boy system, I've realized. Hard to have hope of winning my children back when I haven't done anything wrong to begin with.
Claire - posted on 09/30/2012
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I get that there are times when CPS makes mistakes or oversteps their bounds, but the truth is that there are too many parents out there that complain they did nothing or almost nothing and CPS just came out of nowhere and took their kids. I have been a foster parent for five years now and have adopted two kids and we are hoping to adopt another. I am intimately familiar with laws of CPS and the rules of removal. It is incredibly hard to remove kids for no reason. Many of the kids I have fostered have had in my opinion way too many visits by CPS before removal, allowing abuse and neglect to continue for a long time. Then, once removed and placed in foster care, parents have up to a year to get their kids back. They are given more than adequate chances and CPS often favors bio families even when it is not always in the best interest of the children because it places them back in the surroundings and situations that led to the neglect in the first place. So, when people say their kids were taken and they did nothing and they can't get them back, I have a hard time believing that. When there are cases in error, the parents who follow what CPS asks almost always gets their kids back. When you look at the numbers of cases of true neglect and abuse vs error, those in error are rare comparatively, but it is always easier to blame someone else than your own actions.
Madea - posted on 07/04/2012
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Court appointed attny is better than no attny unless you are confidant in your ability to represent yourself. All attorneys representing ANY party in a CPS case has to be okayd by the CPS. Its part of how they get away with what they do. (same with mental health professionals) If you have done everything that CPS has told you to do and/or if CPS has violated ANY of your parental rights you can file for CPS to be investigated by the Civil Rights Dept. I would also suggest that you get a hold of a local politician. District Supervisors have good suggestions and have been know to call CPS (even though they know they will not be told anything) to request information on your case. Just having their name attached to your case helps. If the original; trial does not go as you hope dont forget that you can contest and then appeal. If you have to appeal, the Appellate courts go through everything with a fine tooth comb and most of the time "they" dont want that to happen. CPS is a business first off. Don't forget that. They make $ off of children and are not wanting to spend a lot so the more that you can cost them the less valuable your children are. Request as many services as you can. Double up on parenting classes (call them refreshers...). Get into therapy (they will pay if services are still offered to you). dont forget to request bus passes. keep gas receipts for the days you visit, have appointments and court dates.
Megan - posted on 04/18/2012
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I didn't word that right cps kidnapped him for false allegations by my neighbor and now they wont give him back because they think in "incapable" but I'm doing all my classes visits clean drugtests but I think he's going to be adopted out :'(
Megan - posted on 04/18/2012
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Im dealing with pretty much the same thing with my 14 month old boy he was kidnapped at only 3 months old
Charlotte - posted on 08/29/2011
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Please join my new community Mothers of kidnapped kids. You are not alone. My story is that of a legal kidnapping but by my child's father. I think there must be quite a few ppl having to go through similar nightmares and so I created a community where we can talk about it.
Jessica - posted on 07/15/2011
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Find an atty pro bono!! You cannot get through this without GOOD legal help
Kyleigh - posted on 07/14/2011
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oh man whata mess! CPS here is crazy too! I have heard 3 other families gettingtheir own children taken away by social services 2 were from the clinic in our local town and one just read on another forum! Best to you and your family pls kkeep us posted miss!
Megan - posted on 07/10/2011
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how are you doing Jenn I have been thinking about you and your fam! Please keep us updated we all care!
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/23/2011
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my oldest is 17 he was not removed.We have 5 boys 4 have been removed.There pics are on my childrens page
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/23/2011
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i dont know she was ok with him until she met me.As much i hate to say this the worker we have is almost anti parent.
Jane - posted on 06/22/2011
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Why didn't she like your husband?
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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Also are they all removed?
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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They usually investigate ask the children if they are scared, make them sad, and look at the living conditions in all reality they say as long as you have enough beds there isnt a sq footage law. how many children did you have and how old may i ask?
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2011
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Thanks we call him j boog he will be 2 sat.No they didnt give me a paper of any sort didnt offer any services she didnt like my husband at all and no argument she didnt say any reason in court petion either wich everyone says in not common usually have to do tht.
Jane - posted on 06/22/2011
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In my experience with CPS, also in Texas, they come and inspect and issue you a yellow form that tells you what you have to do. Then they come back and see if you did any of it. Did you get such a form? Did you do what they asked? Did you get into any sort of an argument with them?
They have to have some reason to say you are neglectful. They won't tell you who said it, but they have to tell you why they think you are neglectful. Did they also remove your oldest? That would be unusual because once you are 17 you are almost adult in many ways and there are no foster services available.
Yeah, CPS is a bureaucracy that does a lot of paper shuffling, but they have to have something they can use to justify their actions. You need to find out what that is.
And call the local bar association to see if there are any attorneys who will work pro bono. Also call Legal Aid and see if they can represent you.
BTW your boys are cute. The little one on your lap reminds me of my son when he was that age.
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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CHILDREN IN NEED OF SERVICES...
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2011
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wht is chins stand for
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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Is it called CHINS?
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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hell no they should court appoint you one! one that is familiar with CHIN CASES!
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/22/2011
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they are telling my husband he needs a seperate attorney is tht normal
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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The court should appoint you one . one that works with this child in need of services and get you one! im in the social network field i can some assistance and guide you to what I know but just cant give out names!
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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so sorry this happened to you! prayers ever need to talk please let me know! Hugs!
Megan - posted on 06/22/2011
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did you have a court date?? the removal court date? You have to have a court usually remove them!
Christina - posted on 06/21/2011
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Legally, they can not keep your children without proof. If you don't have money to fight, you need to find out what they are exactly accusing you of and what they want you to do to fix it. Enroll in parenting classes even if they aren't asking you to do it. It will look good on your part.
Tah - posted on 06/20/2011
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o my goodness..i am sorry to hear that Just keep praying about it and research legal aid, you may be able to find a place that will represent you for free or who will do it almost no cost..
Ashley - posted on 06/16/2011
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In order for them to keep your children there would have to hard evidence the courts do not want to split up familys it may of just been a horible story from someone pissed of at you or your husband and the courts will look at that. This must be terrifying but remember that they are not out to get you they are trying to keep your babies safe so if nothing happend you will get them back. Please keep us updated. Best of luck tuesday
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2011
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Yes i have been in contact with cpsThey are saying they had a report of neglect in wich is not true but cps is very powerful and with out a attorney its very hard to fight them on your own.My church was plannning on helping with that expense but they dont have fund in benvolance right now and i go to court tuesday so not sure what will happen with out a attorney
Ashley - posted on 06/16/2011
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What are the circumstances what were you acussed of and why are they waiting to give the children back. Is there a court date yet have you been in contact with cps what are they saying
Mrs. Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2011
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no i wish what a blessing that would be but not until after this has been going on for a year and they want to end my parental rights
Christy - posted on 06/16/2011
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You can get a court appointed defense attorney free of charge.
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