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Married to a mommas boy!!!

Mary - posted on 01/21/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

well maybe i can vent just a lil..

i got married too young, to someone i didnt want to get married to.. i know you're already asking then why get married? i was 17 and had tried to break it off, we kept getting put back together by family members, and in the end i thought i had no choice. so i got married. well i got pregnant right off, found out i was extremely fertile when i found out i was pregnant again right after. my first are 1 yr 6 days apart.. then i had a miscarriage, then my youngest.. so i've been pregnant for 4 yrs!! awful!!

the thing that sucks tho is he's a hypocrite, a mommas boy, a liar!! i could go on and on..

take for instance a short while ago..

sarina, my baby, was extremely sick, she was throwing up everything for 3 days straight already, mother-in-law calls husband answers, says he's not feeling well and boy does she make a deal about it!!! she kept him on the phone and called twice the next day, in the morning to quickly ask how he was.. not bothering to ask bout the baby.. and called again when he was home, babying him.. and called the next day twice.. morning and night.. and the next day. she never bothered to ask bout the baby, or anyone else.

when he had a minor accident they were here the very next day!! there was nothing wrong with hm but they stayed 2 days!!

she hates me, talks bout me behind my back and my husband just laughs at me..

i could keep venting but the page wouldnt be big enough lol...

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Sharlene - posted on 05/14/2012

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Good on you mary, Stay strong and postive ,take care

Mary - posted on 05/09/2012

Ah yes mardi it was rough. But I did update. I been a very independent and strong person on my own for 3 years. I'm very proud of myself and where I'm at today.

Mardi - posted on 05/09/2012

Your being a great mum, dont let them get to you.

If anyone came back with something the mil said, I'd be like.....really and she knows this how....haven't seen/talked to her since xxxxx, and she just moddie coddles hubby when she has him on the phone, pathetic really....lol

And maybe remind your husband that while he gets his sympathy from his mother, you might look for a comforting ear elsewhere.......or better still, become an even stronger independant person, getting through it on your own......either way, that just deminishes his position in the relationship. A couple are only a couple if they are a couple.......

Karen - posted on 04/26/2012

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What a nice update!!! Good for you Mary!!

Morgyn - posted on 04/17/2012

Good for you Mary!!!! I wish I could fathom or find the same strengths. HERES TO YOU THOUGH!

Mary - posted on 04/17/2012

Beth :) I did take care of it. Friday it will have been 3 years single for me. I am happily single. I have yet to start a relationship with anyone but that's not my priority. I have my girls and I am proud as punch :)

It takes a strong heart and mind to do what I did and today I can say I am a success :)

Beth - posted on 04/17/2012

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Think it's time to have an adult conversation with your husband letting him know that he needs to grow up. As for your mother in law - she needs to know that there are boundaries and also that there are grandchildren as a result of your union with her son. Time for them to give you the respect that you need/deserve.

If you have had enough and can't see any future in your marriage, then it's time to look at getting divorced and ending the relationship. Like it was said before, document what's happened, your reasons for wanting to go your separate ways etc..

Tera - posted on 03/05/2012

My husband and his mother are the same way. Please let's chat.

Katie - posted on 01/21/2009

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HI Mary! Someone needs to give your husband and his mother a good swift kick in the butt. Confront them. Tell them they need to cut the umbilical cord and start setting good example for the kids. They are teaching the kids that it's okay to be lazy and disrespectful to others.

Is divorce an option? If so, keep track of everything he does/doesn't do with the kids in a journal, noting dates, times, etc. That will help you in a custody battle. It's not worth being miserable the rest of your life. And don't say you're staying together for the kids. They can sense the tension and when you are unhappy, they are unhappy. If you get pressure from your families to stay together, tell them it's your life, not theirs and you will make your own decisions for yourself.