My alcoholic mom and her husband abuse each other in front of my kid...

Nina - posted on 06/04/2011

Thanks everyone :) Yea we are BANNING them from seeing our daughter alone. My husband and I are going to be supervising and we are never going to even let them take her out for a ride or ANYTHING. It's hard because it's my mom, but I choose my daughter and any other future kids I may have.

Carrie - posted on 06/04/2011

You know I do not even need to read further than the title. I would never expose my children to that. If anything happened you would have to live with that forever. Your children are learning how to be big people, so what they see is what they learn....Is that what you want your kids to grow to be...Your Mom? Good Luck Sweetheart...you know your gut, just be true to your kids, not your mom...

Samantha - posted on 06/04/2011

My mom died from alcoholism, and cause of that i never drink im 20 years old and have only been drunk once in my life. So my son will never know his grandmother, he has all his great grandparents though. My dad drinks only on weekends but it got worst after my mother passed so i only allow him over there when my step mom is there.



I personaly wouldnt let my child around alcoholics like that, never experienced physical abuse before but i know alcoholics can leave scarring effects on children in many different ways. I thinks its a very wise idea for you to only let them see your child when your around.

Bridget - posted on 06/04/2011

My mom and her ex husband were the same way i put it with it from the time i was in middle school they would get drunk and he would beat her. I have PTSD from it, and i hate her ex for what he did to her. She and him are both alcholics and i promised myself that my kids would never EVER be around that type of thing. I don't want them going through what i went through. Well she finally left the loser and now she is with another guy who is ok but i have only met him twice. Keep in mind to that the abuse was so bad that i left the house at the age of 18 and got married to a awesome guy in the military. She hated my choices and didn't speak to me for a very long time until she left him then she wanted a relationship with me and my husband and her three grandchildren. I'm very cautious around her still I don't trust trust her and i know for a fact she is still drinking even though she says shes not. We are a state away from her so it makes it easier for me to try and just move on from everything that i went through. (we are in South Carolina they are in Georgia) so she can only come up once in a while to visit that way we can build back our relationship slowly. But she is incredibly unrelieable and will go months without talking to me and now i have to explain to my five year old why grandma isn't coming to visit. thats the type of stuff that makes me just want to cut ties with her all together. Shes not going to hurt my children like she hurt me. Anyway what i do to make sure that my kids are safe is i only do visits at my house they are NEVER alone with her and if i smell any alchol on her we will not have a visit. If she calls me on the phone drunk i just cut the conversation short cause i just don't put up with it. Thats what i would do with your mom if she is doing that in front of your daughter it is comletely unexceptable behavior i might go as far as not having visits for a while until she has straightened up her act i know how hard it is to go through what your going through so if you ever need anything just message me :)

Susanne - posted on 06/04/2011

That is disgusting and i would ban them from being around your daughter until they can become better role models for her.