My daughter's father (my ex) is making my life so difficult!!!!

Jackson - posted on 08/02/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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My daughter is 21 months old. Her father has been an overall absent figure in her life. She doesn't even know who he is. We've been going through the court process for pretty much the entire time our daughter has been alive. The courts keep giving him chance after chance to prove himself and yet he never does. Im at a point where I need his help. I work full time, go to school full time. And it gets hard when I dont have support from family like I thought I would. Im about to start the fall semester and I asked her dad if he would be willing to work out an agreement with me and see his daughter. He said yes, then wanted to know if I was dating anyone. Truth is...its complicated. I am but Im not. The new guy is in the navy and we have been friends for a long time. We have been talking about having a relationship since February and are just waiting for him to come home. He is so sweet and wants to give us a title now and wanted me to tell my daughters father. So I did. Now her dad is being a complete jerk. Saying what a horrible person I am. That I hurt him more than ever. That he had always hoped we would get back together but I ruined it. He sways back and forth between wanting to do the agreement. Now the new guy is mad at me . . . I dont know why. He wont tell me either. Its like Im so sick of her dad bringing me down and causing all this stress on me and other people. His focus is never on our daughter, its always about him him him. Its like who gives a damn.... I have OUR daughter to take care of while you go have your freak attack....

UGH I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I need help, advice, anything.

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Rachel - posted on 08/02/2011

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Look for child care for your daughter while you work. It doesnt look like you will be getting help from your daughters dead beat father any time in the near future and honestly do you want to force your little girl into someones life that doesnt want her there and may not take care of her properly? Some times it is just better to let them do their own thing and look out for the best interests of your child. I had a little boy 4 years ago and when I told his father that I was pregnant he told me he would pay for an abortion I told him he was crazy he also told me that he wanted nothing to do with the child so I told him fine I will keep him I Would rather he have no father than a bad father and i am now with a great guy and also have another child. Things will work out you just have to do what is best for your child. Good luck