my husbands a gamer.

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/10/2008 ( 28 moms have responded )

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Ugh one of the most annoying things, is a husband who is constantly playing games. He works full time and im the stay at home parent, but he just expects that my job is 24/7, he works 40 hour weeks, i work non stop. he tried being a stay at home dad but he slept all day, when he wasnt sleeping, he was playing games, the house was soo messy that it was depressing me to come home to.
So now im staying home and he comes home from work, and STRAIGHT to his games, no hello, no hugs, no helping me with supper, or supper dishes, or taking care of our 4 month old.
I feel like he may as well marry his computer.

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Rachel - posted on 01/14/2010

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I am so glad that I am not alone here!!!!!! my husband works part time and goes to school full time while I work as a nanny and care for our son at the same time! He is really good about when he gets home taking the time to say hi to us and give us a kiss and a hug, but after that it's like a magnet drawing him to the computer or ps3. and get thisI cook, I clean, i give our sone a bath and get him to bed and then I clean some more. then he's like you seem so tired all the time. I'm like gee, I wonder why?!? He has gotten a little better by not gaming until I am about to go to bed, but then he stays up till 5am gaming and then sleeps till 11:30 am when he goes to school!!!! then he's like well tell me anytime you need help and I will help you but let me sleep in the mornigs...I'm like WHAT?!?!? I need you the most in the mornings when I'm dragging from being up all night with the baby!!! it's rediculous sometimes!!!! again I am so glad that I am not alone on this!

Elizabeth - posted on 01/08/2010

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Quoting tracy :

don't tell me it's world of warcraft!! thats what my husband plays lmao....I hate vidoe games!



My husnad plays the same game.....it been like 8years and still going

Tracy - posted on 01/07/2010

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don't tell me it's world of warcraft!! thats what my husband plays lmao....I hate vidoe games!

Tara-Sue - posted on 11/03/2009

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take away his games. Tell him, If you are going to act like a child i will treat you like one. and not give his games back until he starts helping out around the house.

Kristina - posted on 11/28/2008

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My husband was like this also. He would sit in front of his computer from the time he got home from work until after midnight. We tried to fix it. I talked to him about it and he and I(together) devised a 2 hour/day allowance on the computer(that he never once complied with). The worst was when our son(who was then 2 and learning to talk) would try to go up next to him and talk to him and he wouldn't even try to respond back. Sometimes he would pick him up and put him on his lap, but that was just as annoying cause he plays all battlefield and rp games that have fighting. Our son loves to pretend shoot things since that time(I'm finally ridding him of the habit at 4). I wish I had a way to stop it, but my husband and I have have been seperated for over a year now(for other reasons) and he was like that from day one til the seperation.

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I hear ya!! My husband says the same thing 'bout my job is to be a full time mom and his is to work. The only area this bothers me is when it comes to taking care of our 4 month old son at night/early morning. It's always me, cuz he "needs to sleep", after all, his work day starts at 8:30am and ends at 8:30pm Monday-Friday and then he is doing school (online) par time. Doesn't matter that mine starts around 6am Monday-Sunday and, well, doesn't end, I also have a really part tiem job(8hrs a week). The weekends bother me too, I'm still the one waking up with the baby. Now don't get me wrong, he does help when he's up, but I usually have to drag him away from the computer. I love him and appreciate everything he's doing for us financially, but I need help physically too. I understand he has a lot on his plate, but I do as well.(We do discuss this and it always ends with, "Ok, I'll try to help more on the weekends" but not much usaually changes). It is frustrating

Amie - posted on 11/14/2008

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LOL mine said he proved he could stop whenever he wants by not taking it work with him when he had to work out of town. Gimme a break, the only reason he didn't take it was because he couldn't take the big screen with him. LOL and the little t.v. they did have at the house he was staying at he had to share with 4 other guys. I'm sure they'd love to play too but he's not a big fan of sharing. ROFL!!! Now it clicks... that's where the kids get it from. haha

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/13/2008

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lmao oohhh the information we share with eachother:P
haha yeah my husband would be mostly frustrated cuz he believes he can stop playing games whenever he wants

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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ugh, i'm pregnant again at the moment so if I give him the go ahead the poor guy nearly explodes before we even do anything. lol Kind of glad he can't read this. He'd probably go wth are you doing telling strangers? haha. But yea, can't wait for my body to go back to normal. :S

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/12/2008

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lmao yeah my husband wouldnt turn down sex for games, cuz other wise hed never have sex lol.

since i had my little one, my drive is next to non existant, lol

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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oh and it's Tripod-Gonna Make you Happy... as I see the link didn't post... weird

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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ROFLMAO that song is hilarious Erin. Though I know my man wouldn't turn down sex in favor of his games so I don't worry about that. > That's the link maybe it will post with mine.

Erin - posted on 11/12/2008

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I can't seem to get the link to work, but go to youtube and type in tripod song - it is a song about a man and his x-box. It is something you all need to hear.

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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hahaha our youngest at the moment is 17 months and she was the same way. That was what motivated him to his solution. He got them each their own remote control to play. Obviously baby can't but she sure likes to pretend she's the one doing it all. LOL

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/12/2008

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lol i know, luckily my son is a bit harder to play with now, cuz hes 5 months and wants to grab everything on the desk, especially my husbands mouse, which lights up blue. lol

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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ROFL mine knows how to play well with baby in his arms to. Multitasking is a skill he's learned when he plays his games. Thankfully this is rare as he doesn't play during the day anymore but omg was it hilarious when he did. He was the master at feeding the baby and playing. He'd pause it long enough to change a diaper and then they'd be cuddled right back up together playing. Of course now that their older the few times he does play during the day their right there with him. He even bought them their own remote controls. I have severely limited to when their allowed to play though. This is not an obsession I'd like my kids to have but playing once in awhile is ok.

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/12/2008

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my husband said he would stop playing games if i stopped watching the CFL..but i love football, and my precious team too much to give it up lol..its like 3 hours out of my week, his is like..40 hours out of his

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/12/2008

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lmao! unfortunately hes learned how to play with Avery in his lap rather well..it almost scares me:P
haha and yeah he tried giving up games for lent last year, lasted about 2 days and he switched to giving up junk food lol!!

Ashley - posted on 11/12/2008

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Hand him your 4 month old and see how well he can play with a baby in his arms - leave the house so he can't just hand him back.

Amie - posted on 11/12/2008

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LOL Kerri, I have heard this horror uttered from my fiance and I gotta be honest I tried. But I really don't get it. Some games are ok, I like the role playing ones, but I don't get so into that it consumes my time from other things that need to be done. He doesn't get why I can just save and walk away when omg you're so close to ending the current quest. I don't get how he can sit there like a zombie to do this and have selective hearing like my kids. He has gotten better though so when he gets his new games once in awhile I don't gripe unless we really need to get stuff done. And he's taken to playing at night at least after the kids are in bed and we're done cleaning. So that's something. Muahahahaha he might get so obsessed now because I became so good too, nothing like your wife beating you to put things into perspective, on and off the game. =)

Keri - posted on 11/12/2008

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My husband has been willing to give up his computer for religious observation (in our case, Lent). It was freaking AMAZING. We grew closer and started working together in so many ways. Sigh. Then the six weeks ended and so did my bliss. I've thought about asking him to give it up for a year (I in turn would also be willing to give something up--though I'm not sure what). I mean, I'm to the point where I wish we lived in the woods somewhere without water and electricity! lol

I recall one conversation in which he dared to profess, "Well, computers are like part of my life. If I can't play them, it's like you're taking away part of my life." I just about hit the roof. You've got to be kidding me! If we were ever to lose our home or livelihood to some disastrous event, I expect him to whine about not being able to play video games even if his whole family is starving to death! What in tarnation is a wife to do?

In my experience, ridding my kids of pacifiers was way easier than even suggesting to my husband that he stop playing one of his moronic games. Has yours ever mentioned that if only YOU would play with him, that YOU would come around and see the genius in his obsession?

Christy - posted on 11/12/2008

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My hubby had the problem too, but after many hours of frustration on my part I finally explained things to him and told him it wasn't fair to me! He took it personally (as he should have) and finally resolved that I was right. He now plays very little and now only in the early mornings on weekends while the kids and I sleep in! As soon as one of the kids or I wake up, he's done! Maybe I'm one of the lucky ones who married a guy who "get's it???" Good luck ladies! :o)

Sarah-Anne - posted on 11/11/2008

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lmao i will destroy your husbands stupid death machine if you destroy mine. I badly want to create a password on his computer but im pretty sure hed go through like..withdrawl or something lol
and yeah my husband felt the nerve to address to me, how we never spend time together..WHOSE FAULT IS THAT? it would be easier to rid my son of his soother, and thumb sucking..than to rid my husband of his games lol how sad is that?

Im not saying hes completely at fault, i just wish he would realize that playing games this often, isnt appropriate. Hes a man, a father and a husband, he has to come to terms with that fact.

Keri - posted on 11/11/2008

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I knew I wasn't the only one suffering the afflictions of a computer-obsessed spouse. Messy house? Yes! Messy kids? Yes! Messy relationship? Yes! Spouse willing to tear himself from "just one more mission" in FarCry II so that any of the aforementioned problems can be addressed? NO!

It just drives me nuts! And then he tells me "we need to spend more time together!" ARGH! We are both teachers, and I'm constantly amazed by how much I am able to accomplish for both work and our home while he sits on his butt and ignores the rest of the world. I keep thinking of what life would be like if he turned off the damned computer! Would I not feel totally overwhelmed every day I wake up? Of course, I realize that any difficulty usually has more than one cause--meaning I can't REALLY blame my husband for everything. But it sure would be nice if his beloved machine were to mysteriously perish overnight, the random victim of an angry stranger with a heavy metal bat...

Any takers? : )

Amie - posted on 11/10/2008

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LOL I'm not laughing at either of you rather with you in a sense. My fiance is like this but not to this extreme. At least not anymore. I may be a bitch, I may be a ball buster, I may be a lot of things that he said when I put my foot down but that is what is needed. I put my foot down hard. It did cause some rough bumps in our relationship for a little while but then he saw my point. With 3 kids, me working part time, house work, kids activities, errands to run I was not going to let this happen any longer. Yes he works very long hours. He's a miner who works 12 hour shifts. It does not compare to being a mom. No job compares to being a mom. Just because he works that does not mean he gets to take days off from being a dad or husband. Christ I would love a day off where I could do nothing but what I want to do. Ask me again in 18 years and I may get it. =) LOL! But when you become a parent your ability to be selfish is severely hindered. I still have my selfish days where I go out and so does he but we plan it ahead of time so the kids are taken care of and we're not arguing about it being last minute. We also have a date night once a month or more if we can where the kids go to gramma and grandpa's and we go out. It gives us our alone time and also a chance to talk about anything that's been bothering us. =) Hope it helps, my way does not always work for others or they are just not as in your face as I can be. lol

Lindsey - posted on 11/10/2008

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I hear ya honey! I'm a full time working mom. My husband works part time @ night and is home during the day. Yet our daughter has to go to daycare full time. He can't watch her. Then I get home from work and take care of her until she goes to sleep, then I clean the house and everything. He plays his ps3. He loves his video games to much! Men...

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