over-bearing grandmother

Natalie - posted on 03/24/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )

ok so we have a 16 month old daughter named bailee. we just recently moved back home with my parents (bailees dad included). since we have moved in a little over a month ago my daughter has not slept more than 5 nights all the way through if that. i took her to the drs three weeks ago because that particular week we were up all night with her. my mother thinks that my daughter needs to go to bed by 9 9:30 every night we like her going to bed a little later because she seemed to sleep better and shed sleep in and we liked that. on top of that sometimes shes taking two hour naps and not getting up till 5 or 6 at times. so at first i thought her bodies thinking oh its 1am nap is over. when i took her to the dr. he said of course shes teething two she was getting a cold which we knew then three shes spoiled waking up to be held leave her alone at night let her cry she has to learn to self soothe and to tell grandma the same. so we come home tell grandma and right away its well she gets a wet diaper and you dont change her at night. or you dont go to bed at a decent time and you make noise and that wakes her up. then the most recent tonight was she can smell pop corn! as shes picking her up because shes screaming. i know shes waking up to be held and i hate letting her cry it out but i hate not sleeping also. but my mom will not let her cry unless she sits with her an hr (mind you this is after him and i are up with her countless times or hrs) and by this point ill go up after bit and shell tell me dont go in there let her be but she pays no mind when we try to do that before she gets up. i dont know what to do to get her to respect my parenting i dont want my daughter relying on me (because in the end thats who she wants) to lay with her in my bed or to rock her to sleep everynight. a girl at work also suggested that we should try putting her in toddler bed or twin and see if she does better at night because she might be waking up feeling confined but my mother says shes not ready for that because she doesnt put herself to sleep! she doesnt put herself to sleep because she got used to being held to go to sleep. i dont know what to do but i dont want to blow up at my mom but i dont know how to get her to respect the fact that i know my daughter even though she thinks i dont. (and i know everyone goes through this) this is just rediculous