Jamie - posted on 11/05/2009 ( 41 moms have responded )
So my husband and I just had our first baby 9 weeks ago. My husband thinks its a chore to take care of his son. He doesn't help out around the house and complains anytime he has to do something. He's always got something "more important" to do (like play video games). If I leave the baby with him (to run errands, go to the doctor, do housework, etc.) he freaks out every time he cries. Instead of figuring out why he's crying he just puts his binky in his mouth and gets mad when he spits it out and continues to cry.
I don't mind taking care of him, I love it. But I have things I need to get done too. I have PPD and need to do things other than just take care of the baby to feel "sane". I get a little frustrated at times too and need to step away for a few minutes to collect myself, but I don't like to leave him crying. I feel bad. But after tonight I don't want to leave him alone (or even let my husband go near him).
I was cleaning the bathroom upstairs and my husband, who has been playing video games all day, was downstairs with our son. He was crying and instead of pausing the damn game he screams at him to "shut the f up". When he didn't he told him that he was going to sell him the first chance he got so he would finally be out of his life.
Now I know he didn't mean a word of it, he can't stand crying (especially when the baby can't tell him why he's crying). He gets really frustrated. But it really hurts me that he can say that to his son who is only trying to say "i need a diaper and a bottle please".
I cant sleep at night because I'm afraid he's going to start crying and I wont hear him because I'm so mentally drained. I don't feel like myself and don't think I will anytime soon knowing that my husband can't take care of our baby (when I return to work, he'll be at home with the baby because he doesn't have a job at the moment). I feel like I can't get a break to just breathe! I feel a little better just getting that off my chest!