Stressed ..... I feel like a terrible mother!!

Stifler's - posted on 12/26/2010

p.s you're not a terrible mother for feeling stressed. everyone stresses out over kids and housework and stuff. just do what you can! the house doesn't have to be perfect all that matters is you and your family are healthy and well rested and have food and clothes.

Jessica - posted on 12/12/2010

tell your hubby to get of his lazy butt and give you a hand your pregger for crying out loud!!!!

he should be pampering you and helping you when hes at home...also spend a day just spoiling yourself after all a happy and realaxed mum is a good mum...

Stifler's - posted on 11/24/2010

Have a big throw out of junk, that always makes me feel better.

Brittany - posted on 11/19/2010

Dont do any cleaning your next day off. If ya'll need clothes wash just what you'll need. And make your husband do something

Angela - posted on 01/22/2010

your not terrible i know how you feel but u do need to tell your husband u need some time for you and do something that makes you feel good if he wont help then ask family or friends to take your son for alittle while and just be free u need to do this before the other one comes

Jamie - posted on 01/22/2010

LOL I remember when I was pregnant with my second daughter same scene exactly I went to my grandma's stressed,crying feeling like the worst mother in the world . My grand ma looked at me just all knowing and as the liquid was running out of every opening in my body she asked me or said this to me " Oh My...If I had known you were coming so soon I would have been better prepared. I looked at her confused and asked what are you talking about and then she said Hunny I didn't know you were the second coming the only Perfect person I've ever heard of was Jesus." It seemed harsh at the time and very strong words coming from a mother of 15 kids who's HOUSE always felt like HOME sometimes dusty, sometimes disorganized, and never with out noise, funny thing she died 3 months after my second girl was born 21 years ago, but I remembered our short conversation that day,and many more times after that. ;)

Felecia - posted on 01/16/2010

Hi hun,
I know JUST how you feel I have my son who was 4 and I was pregnant with no help from the daddy or family and I had to do it ALL by my self and it got so bad I thought I was going to lose control I had no clue how I was going to take care of the baby I was carring I got worse every day that drawn near to my due date!! Every thing seemed to be wrong I was even yelling at my son in the last month of my pregnancy! I began to go to cousling cuz I thought at any mintue I could just kill their dad for being so selfish and not caring enough about us to help and you know her advice to me was if your not feeling well one or even a week day forget about the cleaning it will be there tomorrow and if any one comes over and says any thing to you about it tell them "oh your so kind to have noticed I need the help around here" :) After my daughter was born I was breastfeeding 24-7 and it didnt get easier for me but LUCKY us we have 4 year olds who love to be oh so helpful to get us drinks and throw away diapers and now after 14 months with my daughter and mind you STILL breastfeeding (by her choice not mine lol) I am just now getting back to my routine where I can get all the stuff done I need to have done and still with no daddy help :( Just keep in mind every day you never know this could be your last pregnancy take time out sit down ENJOY feeling your baby move inside you!! I know its hard with every thing you have to do but it will get easier! Oh another suggestion my son LOVES to help and if your son does too dont feel to bad asking him for it, he will enjoy helping you as much as youll enjoy the help!! Like putting his clothes away in drawers, putting plates out for dinner.. I even let my son help me do dishes he would rewash what I would wash and that gave us the time to just chat, spend extra time together as time came close to baby coming and he felt so proud of himself for being a big boy to help me!! Just take time out and breath take long baths, read a book forget about the house for a night, never feel like your a bad mother your doing the best you can with what you got!! Best of luck to you and and your family!! God bless ox

Tiffany - posted on 01/11/2010

Hi Alexandria,

I only have one child, but I have a dog, a cat and a husband...and when I was pregnant I worked full time up until when I gave birth and I can completely understand where you are coming from. Everyday felt the same...take care of everyone else and all the house work...go to work, come home and there never seemed to be time for myself. I have a wonderful husband who means well, but when you are pregnant your hormones are all over the place and it is easy to feel stressed out. I think towards the end of my pregnancy I started to really feel the pressure and I know I was a bear to be around. I think that I stopped doing a lot of things around the house because I was tired and figured that he could help. When he started to see how bad I was feeling about things, he then realized that there were things he could do to help. When I look back on it now, I never asked for help. He always asked if there were things he could do, but I would say no, I was fine. I didn't want to ask for help because I felt it would be the same as admitting that I was failing. If I couldn't do the simple things in my everyday life while preg then how could I have a baby and do these same things. I should have asked for help.



I don't know you or your husband, but I think that help is what you need. Have you actually asked? Think about it. As far as your son goes..kids are wonderful and I think that while you be upset because he is whining or something, he will never think bad of you when you are in a bad mood. Let go of the feeling that you need to do everything around the house and enjoy the time you spend with your family. The housework will be there the next day or the next week. I know it is hard because no one likes to let things pile up, but I found when I did, I was a lot happier and people liked being around me again. Also...give your son some responsibility and make a game out of cleaning up and that will help relieve some of the stress also.



I hope that this helps you even a little bit. I know it did me and I am very anal about a clean house and making sure that everything is perfect, but you are going to have a stressed out child if you don't sit back and breath a little...



Take care and keep posting...sometimes just doing that helps lift a burden