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Bex_arneson - posted on 06/30/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I want 1 more child and my husband doesn't, he says he is to old and we have plenty. My husband and I are 16 years apart, he is 45 and I am 29 he has 2 boys from another marriage hey are 17 and 13, we have a girl 7 and a little boy 2.5. I would love to have 1 more and he keeps saying he is too ok old and he wont be able to have enough time for all of them. The oldest one will graduate this year and the 13 year old doesn't live with us. I really want another baby I do cloth diapers and still have all the equipment for a baby. So will not have that expense. How do I convince him t ok have another one?


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Jodi - posted on 06/30/2015




I can understand why he doesn't want to have another. As a 45 year old myself, I would not want to start again - my youngest is 10. My husband was 40 when she was born, and there would have been no way I could have convinced him to have any more. Despite the fact that the oldest is graduating and the 13 year old doesn't live with you (I have my oldest graduating and my husbands children don't live with us) it is still a responsibility. Responsibility doesn't end because children graduate or don't live with you. I highly doubt you will convince him, and it may only cause problems in your marriage if you continue to push the issue.

Dove - posted on 06/30/2015




You don't. If you had another baby now he would be 65 when that baby is 20 and that may just be too much for him. If he feels too old it is not likely that he will 'change his mind'. You both have to want this and if he really, truly doesn't then you are just going to have to accept that and wait for the grandkids to come...

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