10 month old wants to be held ALL DAY

Shadow - posted on 04/09/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have an in home daycare. There is one 10 month old that cries all day long.... I try feeding him and changing him. He refuses to take a nap, even when he is exhausted. I don't know what to do. He wants me to hold him all day long, and I can't and won't do that. I try to spend time with him and if I am playing with him directly, he seems to be ok. As soon as I even stand up and take a few steps away (to attend to another child, go to the bathroom....anything) he freaks out. I have no idea how to handle this. What should I do? He will be a year old soon and I am trying to figure out how a sleep schedule will work. I can't allow him to stay up while everyone else has to take a nap. He's only here 3 days a week, but its extra hard on those days because MOST days he just isn't happy. HELP!

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Sarah - posted on 04/09/2015

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Talk with his parents. See if you both can work out some kind of plan for him adjusting. For napping try to see if parents do a nap schedule at home. If not try to see if you both can work out a nap schedule. I would maybe suggest just trying one nap a day. What I do with both my kids and my day care kids is that nap time is a set time each day. They get laid down for rest time at that time. If they sleep or don't sleep that is out of my hands, but they are laid in their bed for that rest time. Sometimes it just takes routine to get them to do a nap time schedule and especially if the parents don't have a set routine then his body is not going to have that natural clock until you can get that established. This is where it is VERY helpful if the parents can follow the day care schedule for naps. As for the crying when you leave some of that is normal for the age and some of that might be how his parents are with him and some might be because your place is new. A lot of it is just allowing him time to adjust. I would keep doing what you are doing. Interacting with him, but not catering to him. He may need a few extra hugs and touches then some of your others. But sometimes it is also allowing him to figure out how to self sooth himself when you are tending to someone else, going to the bathroom, or making a meal.

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Sarah - posted on 04/09/2015

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I would address the nap with the parents and then just also say you are working on getting him to play with others and to be able to entertain himself at time....such as when you make meals. This gives them insight into what you are trying to do. If after a couple more months go on without improvement then I would address the lack of being able to self soothe.

Shadow - posted on 04/09/2015

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I also do a set time every day for nap. He's been here for a month, and I just feel awful that he cries so much! How do you suggest approaching his mother about the situation. Or should I just bring up the napping schedule and not the crying. I'm sure he will out grow the crying...I just opened my own daycare so this is my first time with this problem.

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