10 week old won't nap

Holly - posted on 06/22/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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This is my second child and I have read all the sleep books, tried all the gimics, white noise, swaddle, side sleeping, dark room, rocking, walking, bouncing, pacifier (which 95% of the time he refuses). He gets to go to sleep at night by eating his night bottle and then going right to bed so he falls asleep while eating and/or burping. We have to hold him for at leat 5 minutes after eating. But during the day, he can't do this since he has reflux (doesn't need meds, just has to sit up for at least 20 minutes after eating). He has had sleep problems since 3 1/2 weeks so I am exhausted! I had one good week--week 7. Now it has been getting steadily worse since then. Trying the EASY method---but have a hard time obviously when he won't nap and it's too soon to feed OR he only sleep for 30 minutes. He starts crying as soon as we walk into his room---he knows! It takes me a long time to calm him down and get him quiet. Then I lay him down and we start the whole shhh patt thing and lots of times I have to get him back up, rock him till he is calm (which can take 15 minutes!) and then start all over again. If he does fall asleep (either in the crib while I am patting him, OR while I am rocking him--meaning that by the time I saw his eyes start closing and and got up to the crib, he was asleep) he will wake up 5 minutes later. If I am lucky, it's 15 minutes. Sometimes I can get him to go back to sleep with patting--but have to keep doing that every 15 minutes or more often! OR nothing works and he is screaming b/c he is awake. Don't have any reason for this---he is not in a growth spurt--just had one. He isn't at that peek fussing of 6-8 weeks--- isn't at the sleep cycle disturbance that comes around 4 months, at the earliest 3 months! Since I have had this problem since 3 1/2 weeks, I am starting to get exhausted and cry all day long. He won't even sleep on me---wakens every 5 minutes there too, the difference is he doesn't start screaming but can't get a good nap. Won't do the swing, car seat or anything. Any ideas? As you can tell I wrote it all out so I don't get the same responses since I have literally tried it all!

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Holly - posted on 06/22/2013

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OT is over tired :) This one is our second. I sleep trained our daughter at 3.5 months--mostly b/c I was able to rock her to sleep up till that point and suddenly she wouldn't go to sleep no matter what I did. So there was nothing left to do but let her CIO--cry it out---it took a month but then she would go to sleep by herself (with a bottle of water!) and to this day is no trouble at all. (she is 2) although she still takes a bottle of water to bed with her. I just feel that this one is too young for CIO AND the few times I let him scream he just got worse, my daughter wasn't like that...she would cry (but not scream) for 5 minutes, quiet for 5 minutes, cry for 5 minutes, and so on for like 30 minutes and then go to sleep on her own. Same thing at the 40 min mark--wake up and cry, quiet cry, quiet then go back to sleep.

Ev - posted on 06/22/2013

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OT? I am not familiar with that. I am sorry to hear you do not have extra hands to help and dad is not to up to par on babies. But he needs to learn if you have more kids later in life. He helped to create this bundle of joy and he can help to care for the baby. You need to then let him handle your 10 week old and get out of the house for a while...an hour at the least. Go for a walk, go have a coffee or soda with a friend, just get out and get some peace and quiet to the best you can get. You also need some sleep too from the sounds of it. If I were nearby I would offer to come take over for a while, I have grown children. I remember what its like to have one that won't go to sleep when you want.

Holly - posted on 06/22/2013

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thanks for your post, Evelyn. Yes he probably does sense my anxiety and stress. No, there is no one to help out during the week. The weekends my husband could help BUT he is not at all intuitive with babies :) He doesn't know what to do and pretty much just holds him one way no matter if he is screaming bloody murder or just sits next to his crib and patts him while he screams. I can't handle the loud non-stop screaming so I end up taking over again----at least I can get him to calm for periods of time even if it takes me 15 minutes to get him calm. I try to avoid him getting to that point (if I can) b/c it takes so much longer to soothe him if he is screaming. I think the problem is that by that time he is OT. I am trying to put him down after a very short wake time---less than 45 minutes!---b/c it takes so long to get him to sleep to see if that will make it easier for him to go down. I was keeping him up for 1h -1.15 but with another almost hour to go to sleep, I think if he did go to sleep, maybe that is why he won't stay asleep longer than a few minutes---he is OT.

Ev - posted on 06/22/2013

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Have you tried to get dad to take over for a bit? That would help ease your stress levels which baby is picking up on because you have done all these other things to get him to go to sleep; reflux or not. Baby does know as you said and can pick up on your stress or emotions though not knowing what they are they can tell when you are calm or not. You need that time to destress. If not the dad, is there someone who can help you out a bit?

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