10 y/o girl RAD or personality disorder

Khadijah Lucero - posted on 10/02/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Have custody of of dd since 5 y/o, previous to that she experienced chronic neglect (not enough food, clothes, multiple caregivers) and some trauma (sexual, emotional-multiple ACS removals before age 5 for a few days at a time. We have a very stable life, she goes to a nurturing private school, play dates, sports etc.

She is super passive aggressive, pleasant but not emotionally connected with peers or family, constantly complains of boredom, says she has no thoughts or imagination, appears not to care about anyone or anything but is civil and superficially compliant. No cognitive delays that I know about yet, seems average intelligence but can come off as not that bright when you have a conversation. A lot of 1 word answers, mumbling unless it's about Disney shows. She's consider well behaved in school but is actually just disengaged. Constantly staring into space to the point she can get hit by a car. When you ask, she can't tell you what she's thinking about. I love her and am willing to help however I can but relationship feels very empty and impenetrable.

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Sarah - posted on 10/02/2016

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I would do play therapy. Emotionally and socially she is probably going to be to closer to what a 4 or 5 yr old would be....maybe even younger. The things she struggles with today will always be struggles for her. That does not mean there is no hope....just that those are going to be her weaknesses and the areas she will need help in. I would suggest doing the play therapy for some time moving into a regular therapist as she gets to where she is emotional ready for that. I would do some kind of therapy throughout her childhood/adolescence. For you I would recommend looking up Karyn Purvis. She has many dvd's and books dealing with attachment, sensory, abuse, etc. Her information is amazing!

Khadijah Lucero - posted on 10/02/2016

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Yes therapy in the beginning for 1 year, we started again this year with at least someone who is not an intern but it's not easy because she does not say much

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