Christina Jean - posted on 07/15/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
I like to think of myself as a very optimistic person. I have a 10 year old daughter who gets upset easily. She can be the best little girl helping with her little sister, who is 2, and at the blink of an eye is acting so selfish and blowing things out of proportion. She questions me when I try to discipline or will even sometimes take the approach "ok, I didn't want to do that anyways. Yesterday I lost my cool with her and gave her a slap on the face (it wasn't hard, think it hurt her feelings more than anything). Yes, I already feel like a failure as a mom, especially when I did that. Today she continues to get an attitude and defy me, so today i have her a spanking with a belt, 3 swats, not sure if the physical approach is the best. I've seemed to have tried everything else. I e talked with her about why her electronics have been taken away, I've tried the loving approach. This is the first time in awhile I've ever spanked her at all. Usually that's not my style. My husband works a lot and sometimes feel like I'm the only disciplinarian and it's not seeming to correct anything as far as this "10year old attitude" I'm getting. I told her today to enjoy life and quit getting upset about everything and she told me "how can I when I'm getting spankings all the time". This is my frustration, because she's doesn't at all!!!!! I try to give her everything in the world, planned activities that she will enjoy, all the extra curricular activities she wants to do, I've tried spending time with her and at times feel pushed away. Not sure what else to do. Between my 2 year olds temper tantrums and my 10 year olds,don't touch this attitude, that's mine. Not wanting to do chores, or do anything but sit on her iPad all the time, I feel like I'm losing my patience. Any advice.