Brenda - posted on 01/14/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Is this normal 10 year old boy behavior that discipline will fix?
He left a mark on her side that was still there 20 minutes later.
My concern is both children were adopted 5 years ago, from a biological family that was violent, abusive, and neglectful. He spent two years in therapy and we've taught him how to control his temper. At age 5 he would rage anytime he didn't get his way. (trashing his room, breaking things, yelling, grunting, and hyperventilating). That all stopped at age 6.
Now his behavior is more sneaky. He lies and will not admit the truth even with consequences. I've seen his jealousy of his sister worsen over the last 5 years. We've talked to him many times about the jealousy, planned 1 on 1 parent son dates with him to combat his feelings of jealousy. We are very strict, there is always a consequence, grounding from all media types, extra chores, and spankings. We've banned any cartoon or video game that teach disrespect or violence.
I feel like he is too old for spankings now. I'm worried about his future. I don't want him to turn out like his biological family who is constantly lying, manipulating, and in trouble with the law. It seems like he doesn't have a conscience when he physically hurts his sister.
Is this just normal 10 year old behavior and If I stay consistent with the consequences he will learn? His bio dad has bipolar, could this be effecting him at this age?