10 year old still in a car seat. Really.

Karen - posted on 03/15/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




How old is too old for a car seat? My ex-husband has my almost 10 year old, 60lb daughter in a huge car seat (not a booster...a full child car seat) in his Mini Cooper. According to NC State laws she's allowed to be in a seat belt only. Is it still safe to be in a car seat? Does it provide more protection than the seat belt alone? My understanding is that the car seat gets them into the right position for the car's seat belt to be effective, so if the child is technically the size for the car's seat belt to work properly, is the car seat providing more protection or is it redundant? She's squished and uncomfortable in that small car as it is! What would you do?


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Ev - posted on 03/15/2014




Yeah, I do agree but it depends on the car and if the manufactorure's directions are being followed. IF the car seat in question is not meant for a child that size and age, then she could get hurt in a car accident. Her father might want to check into another type of car seat for her. Being 10 she could be too big to fit into it especially if it is meant for a child a certain size. There are a lot of car seats for all weights and heights of kids, if he has her in the wrong one, then like I said it could be more harm for her than good. But the other two ladies have a point, it is his time and you can not tell dad what to do.

Michelle - posted on 03/15/2014




Everything that Jodi said.
You can't control what he does when he has his daughter unless it's putting her at risk and IMO being in a carseat is a lot safer then just a seatbelt.

Jodi - posted on 03/15/2014




Can I be honest? This is none of your business. He is doing what he feels is the right thing for his daughter on HIS time (not yours). As long as he is not jeopardising her safety, it is nothing to do with you, it is between your daughter and her father.

With regard to whether she is too old, my 9 year old only JUST stopped sitting in her booster seat. Personally, I am not purchasing a larger seat for her, she fits fine in the seatbelt now. She was allowed, legally, out of that booster, two years ago. I chose not to allow it, because I felt she was safer in her booster. That was my choice. There is nothing that says a parent must take their child out of a car seat when the law says they are allowed to just use a seatbelt. This is where you, as a co-parent, need to recognise your boundaries.

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