10month old crys to be in my arms all day

Anne Marie - posted on 08/04/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




i have two beautifull little girls, Emma is 2and a half and Leslie has just turned 10 months. Leslie is constanly demanding to be carried around!!! i dont know what to do, if i dont pick her up because im busy with her sister or housework (im a stay at home mum) she will scream untill i come and get her, she gets herself in such a state!!! Leslie wont let any one else pick her up even family and she doesnt even want her dad to carry her which really upsets him, i really dont know why she does this and im not sure how to react!!! she is still breastfed about 4 times a day... maybe its time to stop??? the only she will fall asleep without screaming is if she falls asleep in the car or if the hoover is on!!!

i try to leave her now and again with my mum just for a couple of hours and also with their daddy, to get her used to it but that doesnt change anything, i make sure she gets out enough to see other people friends and family.... am i worrying for nothing!! my family keep telling me that its because i still breastfeed her and that im not doing her anygood????

any advice ??


Louise - posted on 08/04/2010




This is very common at this age. My children were not breastfed and they still went through this stage. Your daughter is suffering from seperation anxiety and to her when you put her down you are abandoning her. The best way to deal with this is to try and keep her amused but off your lap and not to fuss to much if she moans. Do not rush to pick her up when she starts to scream as she will learn that the way to get mums attention is to scream. I would involve your husband with this problem and let him care for your daughter whilst you go out for 15 minutes. Tell your husband to make a fuss of her and play peek a boo or something to distract her whilst you nip out. She will moan but she will settle soon enough. After 15 minutes come back into the room and give her a hug. Repeat this often so that she knows that mum is not vanishing forever and that you will come back. All she needs is reassurance. This phase normally lasts for about 2 months.


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Sylvia - posted on 04/13/2011




It's not because you're nursing, and it's not because you're a SAHM, and it's not because you don't leave her with other people enough. It's because she's 10 months old, and this is what babies at this stage do.

This too shall pass.

Do you have a sling, snugli, or other carrier, so that you can "wear" her more while still retaining your mobility (and the use of your arms)? That would probably help her feel more secure and you feel less crazy.

Happy - posted on 04/13/2011




Pick her up! She needs her Mom! Babies cry to communicate NOT manipulate! What would you do if you couldn't speak any more and cried to get your husband to love on you because you felt lonely. scared, worried, tired, or anything else! If my husband just let me cry I would divorce, NO questions asked!!! Why is it we treat babies who have NO idea what is going on so horribly! I'm sorry, I will probably be bashed for this but babies NEED their Moms. Don't stop nursing! She has instincts that she is folowing, just because you don't understand them doesn't mean she is wrong! Buy a wrap or a sling. That will help immensly!

Julie - posted on 08/04/2010




no baby has died from crying. Now I thought would die when I my daughter went through this! I had to remember it was for her own good it would make her stronger to be more independent. but I just had to leave he in her bouncer seat where she could see me and know I was close and got a bit farther away bit farther away each day...until she was secure...

Ashley - posted on 08/04/2010




I really don't think it has anything to do with being breast fed. My son went through a phase like this too, and around this age. I love him to death, but boy did he drive me crazy sometimes! The only way I could get anything done was with him on my hip, or if he was asleep! I would distract him with toys, or put on an Elmo dvd when I wanted to get something done. Also, he wanted mommy all the time too. My son probably went through this for a couple months. He's now 19 months and as happy as can be! He's very content playing by himself and very active. I know it can be very irritating at times, but it will pass. Good luck!

Anne Marie - posted on 08/04/2010




thankyou Louise.yes thats pretty much what ive been doing, trying to reassure her lots, tlking lots to her and explaining why and whats happening. Her dad gets home very late so not that easy...I dont rush to pick her up and make sure she is not bored change often her toys books etc the thing is, this isnt new she has always been like it lol

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