11 month old wakes up in middle of night - screams when I put her back down. Help!

Kristy - posted on 10/30/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My 11 month old girl just got over having a viral infection. She now wakes up in the middle of the night crying. When I pick her up, her head goes right to my shoulder as if to go back to sleep. I hold her for a few minutes then put her back down. Well that doesn't go over too well. She screams so loud and is so upset. I wait at the most 10 minutes then go back in to sooth her. This isn't working as it did in the past. I try to give her a bottle and she stops crying immediately and starts falling back to sleep. She pulls away from the bottle and tries to get comfy on me (diaper is not wet). I again wait several minutes (she is still struggling to get comfy). I put her back in her crib. She starts screaming at the top of her lungs! Wait at max 10 minutes, go back in and sooth her. This continues for 2 hours. I know she is exhausted (eye rubbing, droopy eyes...all the signs are there). I feel awful! Sometimes we are both crying. It breaks my heart that I can't get her to stop within a reasonable time. She eventually gives in and goes to sleep. She is consistant with the timeframe - it's always 2 hours then she stops.
Do I just have to give it time to get back to how she was before the infection?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

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Katherine - posted on 10/31/2013

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Sorry I don't have any brilliant and quick fix but we just had to wait him out. Lying on the floor was uncomfortable but let us nap a little rather than sitting in the rocking chair for an hour or two. I think this age is really difficult because they are old enough to notice and be upset by a change in schedule/routine but are too young to understand the change. We had horrible problems when we went on vacation and for a week after we got back. You are definitely not alone!!! I hope it passes quickly!!

Katherine - posted on 10/30/2013

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I had similar issues with my son around 9-12 months. As soon as we got him in a nice routine and he was sleeping through, he would suddenly be up in the middle of the night almost every night. This would go on for about a week or two and then he'd suddenly stop just to go through the whole thing again in another few weeks. I think there's a lot of development at this age with walking and social developments on top of separation anxiety that just makes sleep issues the norm for them.
But it is still so frustrating. I remember being in my son's room for an hour or two at 1am and just counting down the number of hours I had left before my alarm would start going off. Like you, we weren't comfortable with letting him cry for longer than 5-10 minutes - he just got more and more worked up and upset. The only thing that worked for us was to either rock him until he was very deeply asleep (which took awhile) or to lay next to his crib and pat his back or belly until he settled in his crib and went to sleep. If your husband/partner is around, try taking turns so at least one of you gets a good night's sleep. I've heard from a lot of moms that it's very common to have sleep difficulties around this age so know that you are absolutely not alone and it will pass. Since my son hit the one year mark, he seems to have settled down and we rarely have night issues anymore. Of course, now that I've typed that, I've totally jinxed it. Good luck!

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Kristy - posted on 10/31/2013

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Just the support is more than I could ask for - thank you! My husband tried laying down next to the crib (I'm pregnant so I couldn't get comfy! :) ). She definitely didn't scream as hard, but we will keep trying!
Ugh, we had an issue when we went on vacation with her as well. Between the time difference and the change of her regular schedule...it took a couple weeks to get her back on track too.

Thanks again for the support!!

Kristy - posted on 10/30/2013

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Thank you Katherine! It IS nice to know that I'm not the only sleepless mommy out there having (in your case, had) the same problem. :)
YES! She gets up at 1am too! And I also count the minutes down until that dreadful alarm goes off.
The anxiety does make sense. My husband and I will try your suggestions. Thanks again!!

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