11 year old boy mad with the world

Kim - posted on 03/07/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My 11 year old son is so mad. He don't eat and is extremely saucy. I'm at a breaking point. I'm a young single mom and I have gave him everything possible but now how do I take it from him ? He's already so hateful . Times have changed and honestly I don't have any idea where to start . In the last couple months he's after stoped eatting idsay he lost 10 pounds I tell him he has to eat and he storms off. I went on his chats and found he was after saying he's fat and ugly but he's such a small boy . I recommend us talking to someone and he shut right down ! Help please

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Dove - posted on 03/07/2015

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You guys definitely need to get some help asap. Have him get a physical from his doctor to rule out any physical issues and ask the doctor for a referral to a psychologist.

This may make your son even angrier, but he NEEDS more help than you can provide for him.... and I have a feeling you could really use the back up and support that a good counselor will provide for you as well.

Michelle - posted on 03/07/2015

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You need to get him into counselling ASAP. It sounds like could be bordering on anorexia and you need to stop it before it's too late.
You also need to find out why he is so mad with the world. It sounds like he could have been bullied and this is his way of dealing with it but it's not healthy.
If you don't know where to start, see your GP for advice and referral to a good counsellor.

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Jodi - posted on 03/08/2015

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"I have gave him everything possible"

This. You have been trying to compensate for other things if you are giving him everything possible. Children don't need everything possible. I am so TIRED of seeing people explaining how they have given their child everything and yet can't understand why now they are acting up. They are acting up BECAUSE you give them everything and they have absolutely no appreciation for it.

Having said this, however, if he is losing weight and not eating, it is time to get him to be seen by medical professionals. This is not normal behaviour.

Michelle - posted on 03/08/2015

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You can't blame his age. My oldest is almost 14 and my 2nd is 11, they don't act that way.
You also can't blame his Father not being around. If you wanted to, you could take him to court and make the courts decide that he sees his son more. You could also get child support in place so you aren't doing it on your own.
They are all excuses, not getting to the source of the problem.
How long have you been seeing an ENT? If he has problems with his tonsils, why haven't they been taken out already?

Kim - posted on 03/07/2015

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We have been seeing a ent his tonsils aren't well that's how the not eating started but I believe it's all in his head now . Monday morning I plan taking him to the doctors not only for him but I need the help dealing with all these changes. I was not ready for all these mood changes at 11 thought I still had a couple years . Most of his friends are girls that are 12 so I'm wondering if they say things and he's picking up their behaviours !! All i know is if I don't get him off this path he will be in a lot of trouble . His father lives down the road and sees him a hour a month which honestly I think just makes it all worse. He's not father material anything happens and he calls me to come get him . He bad mouths me to our child he's just a jerk all together he wasn't in our child's life for the first 8 years and now it's only when he feels like it which isn't stable for my child but then I don't want to cut him out because all kids deserve their dads . I've been a single mom doing this on my own since I was a teen and my child was always respectable but all of a sudden its like he's a different child and it puts the fear of God in me

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