Katherine - posted on 09/23/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I am a young mother and have a very defiant 11 year old son! He talks back about everything and it seems like a fight to get him to do almost anything!!! I am looking for a concrete system to put into place that can help me with his behavior as well as daily tasks. Some examples of each that I have the most trouble with:
Daily Tasks: making bed, brushing teeth, homework, cleaning up after himself, being responsible for his things
Behavior: talking back, getting in trouble at school, doing what you are told
He is SO irresponsibly and I need a way to show him that he CAN do things without being asked. I am at my wits end and am sick of the yelling matches...they accomplish nothing and leave both of us more upset than to begin with. He has a BAD temper and isn't good with expressing his anger without yelling or throwing something to get his anger out. It seems we are in a constant battle for control. Right now I have taken away his 2 most precious things - phone and video games. But, just taking away items is not working, he is still talking back and not learning or improving.
I need a physical chart that can be seen in the house so that everyone is on the same page with what is expected and acceptable behavior. I am having a tough time figuring out a system that will work. Does anyone have an in-dept behavior/consequence chart that has worked for 11 year olds?! I am in desperate need of some help. Please let me know if you have any suggestions...