Mommabird - posted on 07/09/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
I've sat down and listened to her cry and express her feelings a hundred times since she turned 11. Actually it started a few months before she turned 11. It seems like its only gotten worse. I even hid a camera last time and recorded the 2 hour meltdown/talk so i could show her what it looks like from my point of view. I feel like she's using me now to get what she wants. She knows I can't handle constant stress. And if she's told No for any reason now she will go pout and cry in her room...sometimes while she's taking a shower. If I try and talk to her it ends up being a lonnnng drawn out session that only gets me frustrated. If I end the conversation before she's done rambling on and on she will find any reason at all to get me worked up again. If I ignore it and let her deal with her emotions and learn how to solve her problem herself she makes comments that I don't love her and I don't care. She goes as far as saying she wished she were dead. Our last family talk was because her 5 yr old brother asked her what was wrong and she told him she hated her life and wished she were dead. It took 2 hrs of lecture before she stopped making excuses and agreed it was wrong for her to say that to her little brother.
Has anyone else had to deal with this behavior...constantly? Idont know what else to do. We have looked into counseling but found out we have to pay our deductible before insurance will pay for visits. We don't have the full amount all at once. She spoke to school counselor at least 3 times a week before summer came. I'm pretty sure she will make her way to the counselor the first week of school this year but I don't want to wait for help or answers. School is a whole month and half away. Anyone have tips or advice...other than what I've already tried?
PS I haven't listed every detail of my efforts but I have tried many things...just didn't want to make this a book long story.