12 year old dating......

Janelle - posted on 05/11/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I have a 12 year old daughter she is in the gifted class, in school didn't always have good grades but she's fixing that,and I could always trust her to make the right decision. So recently she has told me she has a little boyfrien. And My question is should I stop her from having a boyfriend and keep her from dating for a long time? (She has always been my baby and I don know if I should let go)

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Ev - posted on 04/09/2016

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John--dating at the age of 12 is not necessary. A 12 year old has no idea what they are getting into.

Ev - posted on 05/12/2013

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Are you kidding me? To me no child at the age of 12 should be dating at all. They are not yet a teen. They do not understand what goes into dating let alone anything else. It just seems like the thing to do because others their age are doing this. She needs not to want to grow up so fast. Let her have her boyfriend at school. There is plenty of time for boys later. SHe needs to focus on school and her future.

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Ev - posted on 04/09/2016

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My kids also did not get the allowed dating until 16 years of age.
To this day my son has not yet dated anyone...he is 19...did this by choice.

Dove - posted on 04/09/2016

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Oh... and since I was the first comment on this post I can revise and say that I have had to make no compromises. At 14 my kids are still too smart for the dating nonsense. :)

Dove - posted on 04/09/2016

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This post is 3 years old... the kid in the OP is 15 now (but still too young to 'date' imo).

No John... 12 is not an appropriate age for ANY sort of dating. Maybe 11 and 12 year old kids in your school only hung out and held hands... but many at this age are having sex.... due to a lack of education AND a lack of boundaries. Every 12 year old should be discouraged from any sort of dating, but the education and boundaries don't start at 12... they start at 2.

John - posted on 04/09/2016

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Let then date but with boundaries. Like they can only be at your house. Or no kissing. 11 and 12 year olds at my school just hug and hold hands. If you don't let her date she will just go behind your back. Kids used to date at my school in 2nd grade you really just call each other girlfriend and boyfriend just make sure you place the rules and your daughter is educated before you let her date.

Michelle - posted on 05/11/2013

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My 12yo son has a girlfriend and they have been together since last year. They don't go on date's on their own but she will come along if I take the rest of the kids to the movies or something.

My son and his girlfriend don't even hold hands or anything so they really don't know the true meaning.

All I would suggest is keep an eye on them and if they want to go out then go with them.

Dove - posted on 05/11/2013

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I wouldn't allow it. Maybe invite him along on family activities (and keep things highly supervised), so that you can get to know him and watch how they are together.

All my kids know that dating is NOT happening under 16. There are way more important things in life to focus on than boys. Though my oldest is 11 and I'm seeing that I'm going to have to make 'some' compromises from what 'I' want vs. what she wants, but I will not cave on the one on one dating age or eliminating the supervision. Especially not when 13 year old girls in their school are giving birth.

My kids are getting quite a bit of sex ed, but I know hormones at this age are crazy and it only takes one time of listening to your hormones vs. your brain to completely and permanently alter your entire life.

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