Danielle - posted on 03/07/2014 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am very new to this site, actually this is my first post. I have a 12 year old daughter who won't follow what we ask when we aren't around. The last thing that happened that has got me pulling my hair out is eating snacks that we "approve". I like to have my kids eat well rounded meals. I always make sure there are more veges made than startch, I buy fruits and raw veges and yes I do buy junk food. My husband have repeatedly asked our 12 year old daughter to eat a healthy snack either after school or before bed snack. She gets off the bus around 3:30 and I am usually on my way back from picking up my 4 year old from preschool at that time. So we trust her to do what we ask, but every month im throwing away rotten fruits, veges, yogurts, etc because she will come home grab junk run in her room and act like she didn't even have a snack. or I will find cracker crumbs on the counter. Crackers is not a healthy snack. she will eat grilled cheese, mac and cheese, cheesesteaks, cheese this and cheese that but won't put some cheese on a cracker, just eats plain crackers. Yes cheese is not the most healthy but it does supply some of the things I want it to and its better than plain crackers. I have made a special section in our fridge for snack foods so there's no confusion about what's a good snack and a not good snack. And my efforts fall to the side. I will ask her if she had an after school snack and she says no I wasn't hungry. I know she's not telling me the truth. What got me so mad now is yesterday when I came home it was about 3:35 she just got home to, but there were cracker crumbs on the counter and she dropped one running back to her room. Or she will just not eat a snack after school because she doesn't want what's been put in the good snack bin. At dinner she will pile the starch on her plate, and get seconds. And I know at school she wont eat the veges on the menu for one reason, she can't put salt on them. We just broke her of using tons of salt about a year ago, she would use 1/2 teaspoon or more on one item. In addition she has an acne problem and she doesn't like it obviously, I have tried to explain to her that her diet plays a big part in it, we have ointment from the doctor for it but she still has some issues, and the doctor also told her that what she puts in her body has a big part with it. But she just won't listen, and when im not here its for sure she won't listen. We watch what our four year old eats and makes sure he is limited on his junk, he loves all fruits, yogurts and veges, so why is it that when our 12 year old doesn't listen its not really addressed. And yes she does like fruits and veges, because when we have a talk with her about this she will eat what we ask for about 2 days and then its back to the same doo-doo. And I have asked her if she likes apples, oranges, grapes and she says yes. Ideas? Help? Discipline suggestions for this please? I can't force her to eat this stuff but I feel like she is just being defiant to what we ask because she can and that's not how we run this house. Sorry for the long explanation I just wanted to make sure I hit every point so no one says "Maybe she doesn't like the fruits you get ask her what she likes and get that" I have done all that. I have tried to incorporate her suggestions and ideas in this and still nothing.