12 year old missed the bus not sure what do

Jamie - posted on 02/13/2017 ( 5 moms have responded )

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my 12 year old missed the bus today. When I went to pick him up to take him to school he wasn't ready. He doesn't have any respect for me or any authority. Not sure how to go about grounding him for this. I have taken away his phone and Xbox. And advise would be greatly appreciated! Plus his bday is Friday.

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Ev - posted on 02/17/2017

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I would be making him get up and get around and going at the time you do or have him stay at a neighbor's house to catch the bus. But at 12 years of age, he is more than capable of waking himself to an alarm, getting up and getting ready for school with supervision. He is also old enough to be responsible for his actions too. My son had to get himself up and off to school at this age every single day.

Michelle - posted on 02/14/2017

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I wouldn't be canceling his birthday either, that's a bit harsh.
If yo have to leave early, is their a friends place you can take him to in the mornings? See if you can make arrangements with another parent. They may want a bit of payment but at least you know he will get on the bus.
There are ways to work it out, you just have to think outside the box a bit.

Jamie - posted on 02/14/2017

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I wake him up before I leave for work. The daycare I take my kids too he's too old to go to. Thank you both for your advise.

Dove - posted on 02/13/2017

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Sounds like he isn't mature enough for the lack of supervision that he has been allowed. If it is a matter of you needing to leave the house to go to work before he is up... make him wake up when you do and he goes when you go (or some other similar scenario that works w/ your timing and when he's allowed to be dropped off at school). I would not take away anything birthday related... at least not prior to the weekend... afterwards would depend on his attitude and actions from now until then. If he's having a friend party for his birthday he needs to made WELL aware that his attitude and behaviors need to change or it will be the last social engagement (other than school attendance) that he will be allowed to have for a long time.

Michelle - posted on 02/13/2017

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So who is in the house with him in the mornings? Why can't the adult actually wake him up? I don't trust my teens to get themselves up in the morning.

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