Gre - posted on 05/16/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )
My son is 12 years old. Since he started secondary school and going to school by his own, he changed his attitude towards me, his father and his younger sister to a point of rudeness I can't cope with. He wants and demands everything possible for himself as it was his absolute right to have or do. Few weeks ago on a half term from school and on a very rainy day, he organised by himself a sort of a play time (all outdoor games: trampolining, table tennis, football, etc) at ours with 8 children telling my husband and myself there were only 2 kids for playing and as my husband and I work from home couldn't have such a number in a rainy day all stuck in the house just playing computer games! We were not happy about it but we let it go.., until they decided to go out anyway with the rain around the neibourhood for a walk. After a while, they have been caught by another parent who was coming home at pick time, ringing randomly at the bells of neighbours and then running away. Now, we live in a area were the average of the population is old age and generally this is a quiet area where nobody disturb or disrupt anybody else except with kindness...so my son was punished: no games, no friends and so on. Few days ago, a friend had his birthday and was inviting him to go jumping somewhere, but didn't get the invitation nor I knew his parents names or phone numbers, so I insisted he should have all that to be able to go to a party. All this arrived too late, exactly on the same day of the party, when we as family
booked somewhere else for the day. My son was outrageously angry towards me I couldn't believe! Then I so an even more outrageous chat he had with his friends calling me f****** mother etc etc. When he asked me for his phone, the answer was "Sorry, it broke and now is probably floating somewhere in the river Thames". Which it is not true, but he won't have a phone just to chat and pretend he is cool at the eyes of his friends for calling me like that.
In this I blame my husband too as he mainly washes his hands when decisions are to be taken, in fact he send a text to my son saying about the party : YOUR MOTHER needs the invitation or else you won't go. Hence I am the buddy at the eyes of my son and hence he gives the child the opportunity to take a sort of revenge swearing at me, while himself the father is not responsible. For that reason now not only I am angry to my son but also to my husband whom seams to like this game of being the goody and keep the kid happy and spoilt. I might divorce him and so avoid more than one conflict at the time as he never help except for his own conveniences.l