Michelle - posted on 08/09/2013 ( 33 moms have responded )
Hi everyone! This is my first post here and I'm really hoping to find some support/advice with this issue.
My 12 yr old daughter has, within the past year, declared that she is "emo" and has started wearing band t-shirts, eyeliner, and listening to scream-o music. That in itself does not bother me at all (I was goth when I was a kid lol!). However, she had an app called "Kik" which I thought was a kids social network app. Boy was I WRONG. I decided to check her phone and there was disgusting messages to her from God only knows who...We had a long talk about it and I told her that I would be checking her "Kik" every few days and we discussed internet safety etc. So the other day I walk into her room to gather up some laundry and she is skyping with some guy (did I mention that my kid is TWELVE?!?!). Anyway, I walk up to her laptop (which was originally purchased for homework) and look and there on the screen is some dorky looking guy. He looked to be about 18 or 19. I was so upset. I told her to disconnect IMMEDIATELY and her father and I had a long talk with her. We told her she had to get rid of Kik, delete skype and that we would be checking her phone and laptop daily.
The talk went really well and she seemed receptive. Then she says to us, "Ok...I have to tell you guys something...I'm Bi"...My husband and I were completely taken off guard and just kind of stuttered.."Ummm...ok..." This is going to take me some time to digest. So today I go into her room to check her phone and laptop and she was really resistant giving me her phone. Turns out she's been TEXTING with the same guy she was skyping with. I was SO MAD! She says, "Well...I'm not skyping with him and I like talking to him...we talk about music and gaming"...
A little history...she had a cutting incident about a month ago and hubby and I have been scared to death ever since. Her best friend moved away 2 months ago and she has stayed in her room for the most part since then. She has no interest in making other friends etc. We have an appt. with a counselor Monday so I'm hoping it goes well but OH MY GOD...I need help! My sanity is packing its bags and is headed out the door. She's always been strong willed but this is getting crazy. I'm hoping that all of this is just a phase. Any advice/support would be so greatly appreciated! Thank you in advance!