12 yr old grandson does not want to live his mom

Betty - posted on 10/28/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter is a single mom. Her son, Elijah, has been the center of her life for 11 1/2 years and vice versa. She has always been a single mom and his father has never had any communication with him. Elijah is aware of this. Elijah is a loving and caring boy and very intelligent. If is hard for him knowing his father wants nothing to do with him. He is my only grandchild and he is the light of my life. He is surrounded with his Aunt who he loves dearly and a grandfather and step-grandmother. My daughter is 43 years old and I understand she wants someone in her life. She raised a son by herself, went to school at night and got her masters and has worked very hard for what she has. She just built a beautiful home this year and has a wonderful job in the medical field. I wish she could find a man who would love her and her son. I have no problem with that. In April she went out with friends, got drunk and brought home a complete stranger home with her. This man is a convicted felony, drug addict, has a violent temper and curses terribly. My daughter was not raised like this and neither was Elijah. Overnight Elijah's world was turned upside down. She worships this man, he is white trash. She comes home late, is drinking every night and she lies about eveything. This man and his 10 yr old son comes first and Elijah is pushed to the side and whatever this man and his son wants comes first. She starting cusing at him and humiliates him in front of this man and his son. I dont know her anymore. All the family has tried talking to her, she won't listen to us or Elijah. This man broke into my younger daughter's home and stole over 15,000.00 dollars worth of old guns from her home. He is a con artist. When my grandson is home with him. he does not speak to Elijah. Elijah stays in his room all the time. I keep him whenever she will let him stay. My heart breaks for him. The joy he once had is gone. Elijah is an emotional wreck all the time. This man has cursed the whole family and she allows it. This has been going on since April and last week her father laid the law down to her. She told him to leave, she changed the locks on her house and she has taken him back. Her son has told her he does not want to stay at home if he is going to move back in. Her response to him was "in life we have to do things we dont want too". She told Elijah if we tried to call child protective services on her she would move far away and he would never see us again. He was devastated. I have reached the point his welfare is my main concern. His abuse is not physical but mental, which is just as bad. I want him out of house as long as this man is living there. I not saying he can not see his mother, he will see as long as he wants too. This is heartbreaking for the family and Elijah. I need advice and support.

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Lynne - posted on 10/29/2015

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As a grandmother my heart breaks for you. It sounds like your daughter has been doing an amazing job in being a single mom and raising her son under those conditions. I have a link that might help you from an organization that can give you some counseling help regarding your situation. http://bit.ly/1hL3Yd6

I pray this will help you as you try to determine how to support your grandson.

Betty - posted on 10/28/2015

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Yes she did and the detectives can not pinpoint him to crime. Detectives stated they would put their names on the Bible and swear he committed the crime, he knows how the system work.

Dove - posted on 10/28/2015

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Poor kid. I'd encourage him to reach out to his school's guidance counselor and tell them everything going on. Did your daughter file a police report over the gun theft? I hope so....

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