Sophia - posted on 11/07/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
My daughter is 13 and she has always been really sweet, caring, and would never say anything rude to anyone. Recently, shes been hanging around with a girl that is turning 19 in December and what I consider is not a good role model and friend for her. This older girl constantly may use foul language, and I've noticed that she may mention several words that are very racist and disrespectful. She doesn't seem to be against a particular race but she refers to some people with those words which I don't approve of. Also, she graduated high school last June - my child has told me that she held back a year due to a really late birthday. My daughter has started listening to music that is not appropriate for her age, behaving a little differently - not something I'd definitely not approve of, but I've noticed some odd changes like her choice of reading materials which I've noticed that they may be too high of a level for her. She came in my room once and asked me if she can start wearing clothes that are crop tops, short shirts, revealing clothing, whatever, etc. that you'd find in an adult.
I'm beginning to worry that she is already influenced by someone much older and I don't know how to tell her. I encourage her to hang out with kids closer to her own age but she seems to not listen at all. She doesn't get along with the other girls in her grade. We live in Ontario so elementary and middle school is combined K-8 and she is well known for talking inappropriately especially around younger children!!! Anyway she met this girl at a performance when my daughter went to the highschool with her schoolmates and don't know how to change this behavior and become herself again. Any ideas?