13 year old daughter

Aguywith A - posted on 01/22/2015 ( 20 moms have responded )

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My 13 year old daughter runs around the house half naked and sometimes totally nude... She has always been a lovely girl but is physically mature beyond her years. My problem is, I am a 40 + year old dad and have had strange reactions to her nudity; and find myself thinking about her constantly, and occasionally have gone into the bathroom and masturbated with her image in mind...I have talked with my wife about this, but she says it's no big thing and that she feels comfortable being nude in her own home. When watching TV in the evenings she often sits next to me with just a bra & panties on and puts her hand high on my thigh...I am just beside myself... what can I do to stop this? My feelings are starting to get out of hand.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 01/23/2015

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Yeah, you're a guy with a problem, you sorry assed pervert! If you're NOT a troll, then you're a pedophile. You've got all the fucking answers, don't ya? "Oh, it's my daughter's fault, she parades herself", "she sits next to me in her bra/panties and puts her hand on my thigh"..Sorry assholes such as yourself need to be taken to the nearest wooded area and an old cabin, stripped, a rusty nail driven through your penis, accelerant poured around, a match lit, and you get handed a rusty ax. You can then have two choices. Let yourself die (preferable, for scum who prey on children, ESPECIALLY their own), or cut your penis off with that rusty ax...eliminating any worry about 'temptation'.

You think this is judgmental...well, you're the one masturbating to images of your child.

Sarah - posted on 01/23/2015

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Why on earth would you wait to report a potentially incestuous family? They will deny it, no doubt. Calling CPS will prompt an investigation, which needs to be done. If the information is not true, then the case will be closed. What good will talking to your preacher do? You can't "un-hear" what your daughter told you. Praying about it won't change what she told you either. You are either lying or a coward.
If YOUR child was the victim of a sex crime, would you want someone who was told about it to talk to their pastor, confront the predator, or follow the law and report the crime. Every day, every minute you wait that girl could be assaulted, again and again.

Sarah - posted on 01/23/2015

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Excuse me? Did no one read this part...
"My daughter has a friend that she had a sleep over with, same age; turned out her parents are into incest and my daughter saw this happening and was told it was ok to have those feelings with your dad & mother..."
Incest is a crime, instead on pondering sexual feelings about your own offspring, perhaps a call to the cops and CPS is in order.

Dove - posted on 01/23/2015

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The fact that you didn't already report it leads me to believe that either... a) this is not true... or b) you really do not understand the implications of what has happened to your daughter and what is likely happening to this other poor child on a regular basis.

The fact that you allowed this to get so far in the first place completely baffles me... as does the fact that a 13 year old didn't already know that this kind of thing is inappropriate. I could understand a young child (like 5 or 6) or a teenager that has already been 'groomed' to not know that this is inappropriate, but as a mother of a 13 year old girl... I can not understand how anyone of that age being raised w/ knowledge and appropriate boundaries would even fathom these actions for a second..

I seriously hope this is not true and if it is... I hope you will all stick to the counseling and that you are on the phone w/ CPS or the police as we 'speak' to get this other girl the help and protection that every child deserves.

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Jenny - posted on 01/24/2015

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First of all your Wife and daughter, should know , if you walk around ANY man, "nude" , I don't care who they are, A man is going to get aroused, your wife must enjoy letting your daughter do this, maybe their the per vs, it is so bad seeing old men wanting teens, I think they all do, get help.

Default - posted on 01/23/2015

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this wasn't the place to admit serious mental illness. Go seek a counseling and talk to your wife.

Raye - posted on 01/23/2015

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Guy, Don't get me wrong. I feel exactly like Shawnn and the others on what should be done to pedophiles. And I do think you're sick to masturbate while thinking of your daughter naked. But you also felt it was wrong and wanted it to stop. That is at least something. So please seek counseling for your family, and PLEASE report the other family to help stop the continued abuse of their daughter.

Aguywith A - posted on 01/23/2015

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Thank you Raye for your thoughts and not immediately condemning me...In fact I just made an appointment with a counselor for myself, daughter & wife... never at anytime would I have permitted myself to take inappropriate advantage of my daughter. I never in my wildest dreams have ever considered incest as a situation I would be involved in.
Thank you for being a level headed mom and giving me an opportunity to do something besides killing myself. My wife is from a family that was quite open with nudity, but insists the family did no participate in sexual gratification of any kind...My daughter now understands and is good with it, realizing the full implications it may have amounted too; and will not be having sleepovers with that young friend...
As far as reporting, first I will be doing 2 things. 1. Have a talk with my preacher. 2. Have a talk with the apparent incestuous family. We'll see what happens then.

Raye - posted on 01/23/2015

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If this is a real situation, it's good that you sought advice on how to handle it. And good that you have put a stop to the daughter's behavior. Inappropriate thoughts or actions with a minor (and your own daughter) is a very serious issue that is horrible for us to think about, so some of these ladies went with their gut reaction to persecute anyone that would even think of sexual scenarios with a minor.

I agree that counseling would be helpful to you and your family. And the daughter's friend's family should be reported for incest. It is not right. There is no justification for it. EVER.

Dove - posted on 01/23/2015

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lol You were told to seek professional help.... You all still need it. I hope you seek it.

Aguywith A - posted on 01/23/2015

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You have all already judged me and offered no help, but I did have a telling talk with both my wife and daughter last night...My fault for not saying the problem only started a week or so ago. It has not been on-going, yet it startled me into serious thoughts of both myself and what possibly could have happened to my daughter for acting that way.
My daughter has a friend that she had a sleep over with, same age; turned out her parents are into incest and my daughter saw this happening and was told it was ok to have those feelings with your dad & mother...My wife just didn't understand potential complications to her behavior until I pointed them out in our talk. I am not a troll or pedo, I talked to my wife and daughter and they both now understand it is wrong and I berate myself for allowing myself to be bothered in that manner...and I assure it will never happen again. However, be that as it may, I have found the ones who replied to my quest of help did not answer the call, instead you immediately judged me and convicted me and sentenced me to death... THANK YOU FOR NOTHING !

Dove - posted on 01/23/2015

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Now I know why you were being 'attacked'... and yep, your family needs serious psychological help immediately. ALL of your family... Now.

Nothing is wrong w/ family nudity if everyone is comfortable and nothing inappropriate is going on... the way your daughter is acting and the way you are responding... is not appropriate on ANY level whatsoever. Seek help. Today.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2015

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@Aguywith A Problem "perhaps I do need some counseling"?

Ya think? What type of response did you expect from a mother's website after you state that you masturbate with her image in mind and that your wife says it's no big thing? It is unbelievable to me! If my husband disclosed information like that to me I would most certainly not dismiss it as no big deal. I also would not permit my daughter to sit in her undergarments and rub her father's thigh? Sick! The whole family, sick!
You for being a pervert, your wife for being ignorant and daughter for whatever happened to her to cause her to act inappropriately.
That is, if any of this is actually true!

Kin - posted on 01/22/2015

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Letting your daughter sit by you naked/nearly naked and getting turned on is acting. Masturbating thinking about your daughter is acting. In fact, if your teen daughter is acting like that around her dad, chances are someone else in the family already hurt her before you can. Jesus, there should be isp trackers for people like you. Mom is okay with it? Sure mom isn't part of this sick twisted "family fun" idea ratteling around in your head?

What you are doing is not okay. It is beyond not okay.

Suggestion? A real one and not my knee jerk "kill all pedo's" suggestion?

Remove yourself from the situation. You are already acting on impulse on this. An adult male shouldn't fantasize about a 13 year old girl, let alone his daughter. Go to a counselor Look for sexual health resources. Use google.

Ug, I don't know what makes me more sick, your justifications or your mental health issues.

Aguywith A - posted on 01/22/2015

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NO, I am not a troll and have not acted upon those ugly thoughts, I just heard about this site and thought I might get some real insight or suggestions , instead I'm already excused of being guilty...What if the situation was reversed, would you say the same of my wife?...Thanks for nothing.

Kin - posted on 01/22/2015

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I agree, troll.

If not, this is a person who has already decided to act on these impulses. Acting like they are out of control, putting the blame on your daughter and wife when you're thinking about screwing your daughter. Do humanity a favor and take a long drive off a bridge.

Aguywith A - posted on 01/22/2015

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No she is not ok about it, but I don't think she is taking me serious. perhaps I do need some counseling though...I love my wife & daughter and these reactions are very strange and uncomfortable to me ... Never have I felt like this before.

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2015

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Your wife, the mother of this girl is ok with your having sexual fantasies about your own daughter? Move out, get help, before you end up in jail.
Seriously?

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