Stacey - posted on 07/17/2016 ( 22 moms have responded )
Hi Everyone, I'm new to Circle Of Moms I came here because i am truly at a loss about what to do. I am a single mother with a 13 year old daughter named Emerson. I need advice immediately and i don't want to seek it from fellow family members because i don't want to embarrass my daughter or quite frankly myself by making it seem as if i don't pay attention to what she does online,because i do! I am very sorry that this will be so long but please i need immediate advice! Last year i had the same issue with her talking to an 18 year old,turning 19 year old male. This started out the same way, He supposedly helped her through the times she was suicidal and/or felt like hurting herself. Eventually, i made her stop talking to him and because they kept contacting each other the police were involved. She was seeing this man as a father figure,and he was treating her as if she was a baby. Like roleplaying without the sex and etc. It never was inappropriate per say but personally i found this very disturbing. This was about the end of 2014 and the beginning of 2015. I took her phone/laptop away from her for a while after that and we discussed about online safety. Soon after she got the devices back. Just last night i found out that she's been talking with an 28 year old male.She admitted to me that she told him her Name,age,and state. I told her she was aware of the dangers that could come from this and she told me "He knows my state,not my address!" I then explained to her that she knows he can find out where she lives,and very easily now. She then begins to tell me it doesn't matter because i have me to protect her. I then explain to her further and she says "It's not that big of a deal because hes nice" We went on arguing back and forth about this issue for a little while before i told her "You do not need to be talking to him again and that's that" She then says "What if i do?" I say "You know what will happen" and she says "But you won't even know it if i do" I then take away all electronic devices and she proceeds to tell me "Well im still going to talk to him because he's nice." I am at a total loss of what to do here, i am worried she will still seek out ways to talk to this man and although i haven't seen anything inappropriate i still feel as if it's inappropriate for a 28 year old male to talk to a 13 year old girl. Point blank period. He isn't related to us in any way, He lives in New York and we live in Washington. She continues to yell at me and tell me i'm "overreacting" although i am just trying to keep her safe. tried to explain to her that it isn't okay for a grown man to talk to a little girl,furthermore the only thing she gets out of that is "I'M NOT LITTLE!" etc. I'm at a total loss here, Please help!