Michelle - posted on 11/05/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
hi, I am new to this but I am at the end of my rope. My daughter has always been the nice popular girl however it seem since she has hit 13 her intereactions with others especially boys has become "nasty". Let me start by saying that other than her school friends she has spent most of her time with her boy cousins and they tend to spoil her and they kid back and forth so she is use to hanging out with boys more than girls. She is not allowed to go out on dates until she is 15 but of course there is always school crushes here and there. I have noticed she tends to get very revengeful if things don't go her way with these crushes. In particular lately she and a young man who is friends with her cousin had a mutual crush. However he is very active in sports and basically said that right now he just wants to focus on that (which I think is awesome) now Madison is a cheerleader and gymnast so she isn't sitting home doing nothing but she got very mean with him because he had other priorities and I just don't know how to handle it. I know kids will be kids but with all the bullying going on and kids shooting kids because they were turned down by a girl/guy I just want her to be more respectful of other kids feelings and stop this nasty revenge stuff when things don't go her way. Not physical or threatening just very "go do what you want I never really cared and I hate you" kind of stuff. This boy is someone who we have to see at functions and stuff because he is friends with the family and I am just very disappointed with how she handled it. I have been trying for months to talk to her about how she speaks to people and that she needs to be nicer but this morning actions obviously show that what I am saying is falling on deaf ears. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.