13 year old son doing whatever he wants

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My 13 year old son goes to school whenever he wants, misbehaves, gets into trouble outside of school and does what ever he wants and wont listen to me. I need help!!!

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Michelle - posted on 05/13/2015

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What have you done to set rules in place and what punishment have you had until now? A child doesn't just start doing these things overnight, there is usually a build up to it.
What else has happened in his life? I feel there is a lot you aren't telling us.

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Chava - posted on 05/14/2015

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I also think that you really need to find a more adequate living situation. I must be hard for him, he's 13 years old. All kids need stability in their lives. Before I read the replies, I immediately thought of ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) or something like that, but maybe it's much more simple than that.
Who is paying for his phone?

Jodi - posted on 05/14/2015

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Why does he even still have his phone? Time to remove some of his privileges. Or all of them.

However, I want you to consider how it must feel for him having to move into your room (being uprooted) every time the other kids come to stay. You don't think that would be upsetting to him? I think the sooner you find another solution the better. I'd be angry at the world when I was 13 if someone did this to me.

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He has a room and sleeps in our room when bus kids come to stay. I tell him he is grounded but he just walks out and goes off somewhere. Turns his phone off so I can't call him. Been with bf for 2 years. He only wants to go to school to be with his friends. He has stolen and has been caught. Police r dealing with it.

Jodi - posted on 05/13/2015

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What are his consequences at home? Is this sudden behaviour or has it only just started happening? How long have you been with your boyfriend? If you have only one room, where is your son sleeping? All of these questions may actually be contributing to his behaviour. Why doesn't he want to go to school? What sort of trouble is he getting into outside of school?

Michelle - posted on 05/13/2015

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Does he see his Father at all?
Have you thought of getting him into counselling?

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I left his dad 3 years ago cause he was violent and abusive. I live with bf at his parents house in a room as I am having trouble getting a house cause of my ex. When I punish him he doesn't care and just leaves the house anyway. He just doesn't care about what I say.

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