13 yr old boy w ADHD Issues

Renarda - posted on 02/02/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son was diagnosed with ADHD like 6 yrs ago, he's not totally out of control, but he tends to do things that make u wonder why all the time. Such as stealing, has to be into something all the time, touching things that's been asked not to, things that don't belong to him. He's very sneaky. Then he will say he touched it because he wanted it, as if he has no control over impulsivity. He tells me he tries not to its like somethings forcing him to.he lies about it a couple of times once you ask was it him and then finally tell the truth. Its an ongoing issue to where we as his family has to hide our things.well that dusnt work cause he'll search around until he finds it. It seems like he don't intend to do a lot of things he does but is driven to his consistent nonthoughtful behaviors. Consequences seem like it never bother him. Then once he's being yelled at or punished he looks as if why am I always doing things to get in trouble saying I don't know why I done it. Somebody help me. I don't know what to do. He hates the consequences but still tends to do things he has no business doing. There has to be some source out there who can help with this type issue.

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Trisha - posted on 02/02/2015

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One thing to note, is that my husband stopped yelling at my stepson. It is a completely ineffective form of communication and your son is likely not retaining a word that is said during that time period.

Trisha - posted on 02/02/2015

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My stepson did things like this at the same age. He ended up stealing about $100 from our office, and was getting into our personal drawers in our bedroom. We actually went out and bought keyless locks for both rooms that he no longer had access to.
He had to use all of his pop bottle money, work to pay back the stolen money, and to reimburse us for the cost of the locks to keep him out of the room.
This is what we had to do with the situation.
We ground him if he does something wrong, and have to sit down with him and have a consequence conversation with him over everything we punish him.
"Why did you do this" "Did you think you could get away from it" "What did you think were going to be the consequences for this action", "Why do you think this rule is in place in the first place".

We try our best to make the consequences match the action. For example: He skipped out on his chores to go skateboarding, because he slept in. So, on his next skateboarding day (There is an indoor skateboard park he can go to 3 days a week) he had to stay home all day and do chores for the entire day, rather than 1 hour worth of chores.

Jodi - posted on 02/02/2015

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So what ARE the consequences. You talk about yelling at him. Yelling isn't a consequence.

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