14 y/o old foster picking on younger autistic sibling

Lisa - posted on 10/10/2014 ( 3 moms have responded )




My 14 y/o old foster DS is picking on my 8 y/o old foster DS who is non verbal w/ autism. we only know what happens when it's in view of the cameras.. otherwise 14 y/o will lie and say he doesn't know what happened and will still lie when we show him the videos.. he's left marks, he pushes him down, he elbows him, hits him with his shoulder. I call the police who just tell him to stop and then leave, EVERYTIME.

Both of them are biological siblings.. bio mom is in jail.. I spoke to their bio dad who thought I was crazy for calling the police.. now I can see where the 14 y/o learned his abusive behavior from.. Bio dad has zero concern for his younger child.

The social worker does not address my concerns.. everytime I speak to her about this she says when she will come back next time and if it persists she will do something, but next time says the same thing, and does nothing, even after I complained to her supervisor.


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Victoria - posted on 10/11/2014




First of all, well done you for helping out with bringing up these Children. It must be very hard for you? Why don't you try spending time with each child at different times of the day and a reward chart, this helped with mine. I think the 14 yr old may be jealous. It may be that the 14yr old doesn't understand why his sibling needs a little more time. Or has been explained about the condition.

Jodi - posted on 10/10/2014




Isn't calling the police a bit extreme? Are you supervising them? I also agree there should be some level of counselling for these kids. They aren't in a foster home for no reason. Any child in a foster home needs mental health support.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 10/10/2014




well, first of all, if hes continuing the behaviour after being confronted with the evidence, why are you continuing to leave the boys together unsupervised? STOP! Remove the situation from their agenda, and you'll reduce the abuse significantly.

Next, what is being done for them as far as therapy & counseling? If they're both in a foster situation, with both bio parents being losers, they need A LOT of therapy and counseling to help them handle those emotions and situations. You are seeing results of their upbringing now.

Good luck.

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