14 YEAR OLD ASKING FOR IMPLANTS

Lanie - posted on 05/31/2016 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My already-gorgeous daughter uses an unstoppable pouty face. This gets her what ever she wants because of how my mother used to treat me... Then today she asked for implants because it is a new trend at school. In my other post I mentioned her music habits, and now she is obsessed with all of this thug music. She is also a major follower of trends and wears heavy amounts of makeup! There is a trend at school where you get implants and now she asked for implants because of some girls. She was about to start begging when I walked off and used the bathroom to change the subject. Please respond!

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Sarah - posted on 06/01/2016

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I suspect a teen wanting bigger breasts at the computer creating this ridiculous post

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/01/2016

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No physician, in the US, would do this. I call BS and troll.

If not, LEARN HOW TO BE A FRIGGIN PARENT.

Heather - posted on 06/01/2016

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Put your foot down if you are not comfortable- your house, your rules, your money so as a parent you have every right to say no. Tell her when she turns 18 she can do legally what she wants, but until then it's a "no". Sounds like you have trained her to manipulate you and the people around her to get what she wants- you have to try to undo this now. And if she is saying she wont love you any more- then tell her "I will always love you, but as your parent I say no." And stick with it- they will be tantrums but tell her "When you calm down I will talk to you then." Go do busy work till she seems to have calmed down.

Sarah - posted on 06/05/2016

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Lanie your response to me way back enforced the belief that she wanted surgical implants:
"I'm going to tell her no and throw out her makeup. But should I possibly allow foam ones she threatens to not love me anymore."
So it sounded like you were agreeing that surgery was an absurd idea and willing to compromise for foam inserts. Don't get pissy if we can't read your mind, post what you really mean.

Jodi - posted on 06/04/2016

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Laine, that's just rude. YOU are the one who used the term implants. Implants are just that - surgical implants. If that's not what you meant then may YOU should get it "friggin" right rather than blaming others for not understanding what you mean.

I, for one, thought you meant surgical implants when I first opened this post until I read your most recent comment. Even your first comment indicated it meant surgical implants.

Having said that, teach your child to be happy with her own body and no worry about comparing herself to everyone else. Self esteem is a good thing, and allowing any sort of foam or push up bra is not helping with this.

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Michelle - posted on 06/05/2016

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Yes Evelyn, my kids know that when I say no I mean it. They know that pouting and having a tantrum doesn't get them what they want either. They were taught that from toddlers though.
I don't care about the "pouty face", I am the parent and my children respect that.
My children are very happy and are also really great kids. My teenage son is making the right choices on who he hangs out with.
Lanie: You are the one that is having a hard time with your teen. Maybe take a step back and look at all of your posts. Do you see any of the ladies here posting up the troubles you are having? Answer: No. Just because people are giving you advice that you don't agree with doesn't mean you can insult them. Read what you have written first, implants are surgical. Why not talk about a push up bra since that's what she wants. YOU made the mistake so admit it instead of going off at everyone else.

Ev - posted on 06/05/2016

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{Actually she just wanted foam ones from amazon not from friggin surgery. OMG take a chill pill. Your kids are probably miserable unlike mine.}

I would have to say that in reading the posts all the way through and I was under the same impression it was surgical implants that this kid wanted. Regardless of what she wants, you are the parent and you should be setting the example and ground rules for home. Giving in to your kid gives them the idea that they are owed things or can get what they want; when they get to the world outside home they are in for a big downfall as no one just gets what they want or is given everything---they have to earn it. She is also 14 years of age and does not understand what an issue having surgery is for a medical procedure let alone for physical appearances and how dangerous going under really is. Surgery is not a decision to be taken lightly.

As for your comment about taking a chill pill and that the others' kids are miserable unlike yours---how would you know? All these ladies and moms have been here a long time and I have come to know them through their posts and what not. I think just as they do in their previous posts. I have two grown adult children and no time during the teen years and even as little kids did they get what they wanted. They knew if I said no to something that was it. I am sure the other's kids did not like getting told no anymore than mine did but they learned that parents were the ones making the choices and if you can not do that with your own children and let them do and have whtat they want that is your choice.

Jodi - posted on 06/04/2016

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Yeah, not gonna be teaching the kid self esteem as long as we are calling her friends nerds and losers....... :\

Lanie - posted on 06/04/2016

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Actually she just wanted foam ones from amazon not from friggin surgery. OMG take a chill pill. Your kids are probably miserable unlike mine.

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2016

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Dove, I agree.
Lanie, no implants, no foam inserts, no push up bra. NO NO NO! She is still a child, let her look like one.

Dove - posted on 05/31/2016

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Never heard of a doctor that will so willingly give implants to young teenage girls that it is actually considered a trend. That's beyond absurd...

Stop letting her have whatever she wants and start parenting before you lose her.

Sarah... I have strong suspicions w/ this one here....

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2016

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You are the parent so you need to stand your ground.
There is no need for a 14yo to be looking like a woman! Hopefully you have discussed safe sex and the consequences of having sex with her. If you don't take control now you are going to have a huge problem in a year or 2.

Lanie - posted on 05/31/2016

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Thank you Sarah for this. I'm going to tell her no and throw out her makeup. But should I possibly allow foam ones she threatens to not love me anymore.

Michelle - posted on 05/31/2016

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You tell her no and that she can do what she wants when she turns 18, until then, you are responsible for her and you won't give permission.

Sarah - posted on 05/31/2016

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Seriously? You know a surgeon who will place implants on an underage girl? No way, i call BS. No doc will risk his license to make a early teen's boob bigger!
Get over yourself the other girls at school are not getting implants. Clean her face and throw her make-up away if you don't like it. Who is in charge? You or her? Please!

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