14 year old bunks school. switches him phone off unable to get hold of him will stroll in late at night as nothing is wrong

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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Honestly, a taxi isn't going to help, and if you have the extra money laying around to consider that as a solution, you should have the time available to directly handle the situation, in my opinion.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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What it boils down to is what are you, as a parent, willing to do to keep track of your kid?

I didn't say it would be a walk in the park, and yes it will be an inconvenience for you to have to do that, which you need to point out to him, frequently. If it were NOT for his behaviour, you would NOT be missing work and losing pay.

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Dove - posted on 09/24/2014

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Ditto Shawnn... unless you are going to pay the taxi driver to walk him directly to the teachers... that will do nothing.

Louisa - posted on 09/24/2014

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Believe me I have sat him down spoke to him showed him photos read articles about kidnapping killing of teenagers you name it I have done that. He is a totally out of control child used to be so good till a year ago used to dance do karate played rugby now nothing but being rude and out of control and disrespectful and the searing gets me. refuse to go to church all of a sudden wants to hang out with his friends.
Will definitely try the go to school with him or get an alternative way to get him to school even hire a taxi on a monthly basis to take him to school in time.
Thanks for the advise

Dove - posted on 09/24/2014

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Well... since you are not willing to take any steps to prevent his behavior... I guess you will just have to accept it and give up on him.

What else do you suggest? It's obvious that what you are currently doing is not working... so I assumed you posted for suggestions... which is what you were given.

Louisa - posted on 09/24/2014

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Both of us work husband works shifts I leave in the morning to catch a bus to work make sure he gets on the bus to school before I catch the bus to work as we only have one car school in opposite direction to my work will have to catch 5 busses to work if I have to take him to school then and be late for work. Pocket money will be out of the question from now one but he threatens to leave home and never come back.

Dove - posted on 09/24/2014

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Take him to and from school and let him know the next time he ditches school you will follow him around all day long from class to class. He goes no where other than school and home and is 100% supervised (even if you have to hire a babysitter... that he can work off the cost by doing chores) by an adult at all times until he can prove maturity and responsibility that goes along w/ privileges.

I would also sit down and talk to him about the natural, possible consequences of what he's doing (kidnapped, murdered, etc...) because if he is out and about and you don't know where he is at what time... how will you ever know where to send help if he doesn't show up on time? It sounds like he thinks he's invincible... and he needs to fully understand that he is NOT. Maybe look up some news stories and pictures of kids around his age that went missing or were killed.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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disabuse him of that notion. Take him to/from school. Don't leave him the option to hop the train, ever.

Louisa - posted on 09/24/2014

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Have done that before does not care for a phone, he has a group of friends they get around by bus or train with their oyster cards they can jump on any bus or train in the Dagenham Barking area. He gets on the bus to school but some were before school he gets off. Then the call from school to say he is not there. He is rebelling at this point in time to all house rules and Authority demands pocket money. Thinks is a right not a privilege.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2014

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take away phone, deliver him to school, take a day or two to make sure he gets to class (as in escort him).

How's he getting around, he's only 14, in most areas, not legal to drive, etc...rescind permission to leave house without parental supervision...

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