14 year old daughter is dating a 18 year old what should I do????

Sandy - posted on 08/25/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 14 years old and started seeing this boy who is 18, this all started when she was 13 and he was 17. I have done everything to stop the relationship. I have forbid her to see him, but the problem is he is still in high school along with my daughter and his mother and father are acquaintances of ours. They cannot control him and we cannot control our daughter. Every time we make her break up with him she cries hysterically and begs him back which is driving me crazy. He is ruining our family life. We have thought about the police, but again we know the family. We are seeking counseling for the entire family over this. Has anyone gone through this mess?? If you have please advise as to what has worked.

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Tara - posted on 08/25/2013

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tell the other parents that they need to control their son no matter if you are friends with them or not, thats your daughters life youre talking about and you should put your family first, not worry about their reaction.

Tara - posted on 08/25/2013

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just threaten the boy that you will not let the relationship continue any longer and you will take immediate action to the police next time he sees your daughter. just say you will and maybe he will back off. tell your daughter that you will put her in another school if she doesnt act right and that she needs to find someone her own age. and put her on birth control and make her watch birthing videos and STD videos.

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Sandy - posted on 08/25/2013

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Hi Evelyn, yes it was both our fault for allowing her to talk to the boy from the beginning and we are blaming each other for it. Our daughter never was interested in boys before so we thought talking was innocent. I never thought we would be afraid of a 14 year old. More so, we are afraid what she may do to herself because of her recent actions and threats. Sounds dumb but it is reality. Your comment has given us a very good idea. I don't believe the school will step in but maybe someone else will.

Ev - posted on 08/25/2013

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Why did you allow her to continue to date him or have him for a boyfriend. What is it about a girl four years younger than him that he finds so great? He should be seeing someone his age or even closer to his age. If it were my child who was 14, I would not be allowing her to see him. No matter how much whining and crying she would do. She has to learn its your choice as parents when she is old enough to date this guy or any guy. Also in a lot of states, its against the law to date someone under 18 for adults. If you do not do anything about it, someone else could. The point is you need to stick to your decisions because you know its for her own good or safety even if she does not. I am glad you are seeking counseling for the family. But you also must put your foot down and not let her cross the lines.

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